Vent- I was rude this morning-

[Rafiki31]

I HATE people that "drop in" or do not call before they come by. I am a full time student, and I work 3-1130 which means I get home anywhere between midnight and 1am. My house is not always "guest ready" clean,and def not childproof! When I am not at work, I am trying to get some studying done. I have three weeks left in this semester, I have 3 exams and a final to study for in addition to the 2 papers to finish up on! I do not have time for company!!!! And honestly I just DO NOT LIKE HAVING PEOPLE OVER!! I like privacy, and only have very close friends over.

Well we have relatives that insist on dropping by, usually early in the morning. I can not shake them! I got home after 12 last night, and I wanted to sleep in and then get some studying done!! I have expressed several times and I have been VERY CLEAR AND DIRECT that I really need a call ahead if you plan to come by, but these people insist on just SHOWING UP. They always say "we knew you would say you are busy" (beacuse I AM!) Why would you insist on dropping in when it is clear I do not want to see you?

SO when you ring my doorbell at 830 am on a Sunday morning, and I do not answer the door, it means GO AWAY. It does not mean knock on my window and then have your kids knock on my bedroom window. ANd when I ignore that, and you call to tell my family that I was "rude" because you saw my car there and knew I wwas home, please be thankful I did not answer the door, or you would have had a whole new lesson on RUDE. Rude is dropping in to visit people at 830 am on a Sunday morning. Rude is knocking on windows.

There I am done. Thank you for listening.

 

[bballmom56]

Wow. Unbelievable!

 

[okeydokey]

Wow, maybe it'll sink in this time. If they figure they are just wasting their time coming over and nobody will let them in, maybe they'll stop coming over.

 

[ckret01]

I am 100% with you!

 

[jaminmd]

I HATE people that "drop in" or do not call before they come by. I am a full time student, and I work 3-1130 which means I get home anywhere between midnight and 1am. My house is not always "guest ready" clean,and def not childproof! When I am not at work, I am trying to get some studying done. I have three weeks left in this semester, I have 3 exams and a final to study for in addition to the 2 papers to finish up on! I do not have time for company!!!! And honestly I just DO NOT LIKE HAVING PEOPLE OVER!! I like privacy, and only have very close friends over.

Well we have relatives that insist on dropping by, usually early in the morning. I can not shake them! I got home after 12 last night, and I wanted to sleep in and then get some studying done!! I have expressed several times and I have been VERY CLEAR AND DIRECT that I really need a call ahead if you plan to come by, but these people insist on just SHOWING UP. They always say "we knew you would say you are busy" (beacuse I AM!) Why would you insist on dropping in when it is clear I do not want to see you?

SO when you ring my doorbell at 830 am on a Sunday morning, and I do not answer the door, it means GO AWAY. It does not mean knock on my window and then have your kids knock on my bedroom window. ANd when I ignore that, and you call to tell my family that I was "rude" because you saw my car there and knew I wwas home, please be thankful I did not answer the door, or you would have had a whole new lesson on RUDE. Rude is dropping in to visit people at 830 am on a Sunday morning. Rude is knocking on windows.

There I am done. Thank you for listening.

You sound like me! It is nice to live 200 miles away from family, so I don't have to worry about that. Unfortunately, I have neighbors that like to drop in on me without calling, which I hate. Unless it is an emergency, a simple phone call ahead of time is appreciated!

 

[Mr.MouseFan]

 

[nancydrew79]

I HATE people that "drop in" or do not call before they come by. I am a full time student, and I work 3-1130 which means I get home anywhere between midnight and 1am. My house is not always "guest ready" clean,and def not childproof! When I am not at work, I am trying to get some studying done. I have three weeks left in this semester, I have 3 exams and a final to study for in addition to the 2 papers to finish up on! I do not have time for company!!!! And honestly I just DO NOT LIKE HAVING PEOPLE OVER!! I like privacy, and only have very close friends over.

Well we have relatives that insist on dropping by, usually early in the morning. I can not shake them! I got home after 12 last night, and I wanted to sleep in and then get some studying done!! I have expressed several times and I have been VERY CLEAR AND DIRECT that I really need a call ahead if you plan to come by, but these people insist on just SHOWING UP. They always say "we knew you would say you are busy" (beacuse I AM!) Why would you insist on dropping in when it is clear I do not want to see you?

SO when you ring my doorbell at 830 am on a Sunday morning, and I do not answer the door, it means GO AWAY. It does not mean knock on my window and then have your kids knock on my bedroom window. ANd when I ignore that, and you call to tell my family that I was "rude" because you saw my car there and knew I wwas home, please be thankful I did not answer the door, or you would have had a whole new lesson on RUDE. Rude is dropping in to visit people at 830 am on a Sunday morning. Rude is knocking on windows.

There I am done. Thank you for listening.

I used to have in-laws like that. They would say "we knew you would say you are busy if we called" too. Thankfully they are no longer a part of my life, but I have felt your pain.

 

[Carly_Roach]

You weren't the rude one. It's one (rude) thing to go uninvited to someone's house to visit, even a family member. It's quite another to continue knocking on the doors and windows when that person decides they don't feel like company. If the door isn't opened and you're not welcomed into the house, guess what? You're not welcome at that time. Take the hint and take a hike.

Besides, your car may have been there but you may not have. When I was single I frequently left my car home when I flew because it was easier to take a cab or have someone drop me off at the airport. It also helped camoflauge the house to make burglers think someone was home. You could just as easily have been spending the night over at someone else's house.

 

[AKL_Megs]

UGH! I am right there with you! CALL FIRST! It is so rude!

The other Sunday, I was home and was having a lazy cleaning morning. I was still in my PJ's (which are SCARY!), my hair was a mess, and I didn't have a stitch of makeup on. I had the TV on and was cleaning my floors, and I looked out my big front living room pictur window and see a car pull up in my driveway. It was the people who sold us our house! They must have come to be nosy! I immediately ran and hid in the basement, but I heard them knocking on my front door for about ten minutes... hopefully they got the message, what with the TV on and all!

 

[PlainJane]

Hopefully, they'll stop coming over now. I don't really see why they would want to anyway. Their presence is very obviously not wanted, and it's not like you're going to entertain them. I guess, some people just don't have anything better to do.

 

[BillSears]

I've turned my own Mother away because she didn't call first. She buzzed up to the apartment and I told her that now wasn't a good time and she should call first before coming over.

They were the rude ones. In my opinion no one should ever show up without calling first.

 

[MIGrandma]

Oh my gosh, you do have some rude relatives!! I can't even imagine going to someone's home at 8:30 on a Sunday morning, let alone ringing the bell and knocking and knocking, and tapping on windows too! THAT is definitely rude and I certainly understand you not answering the door. I wouldn't either! Wow!

I don't have the busy life that you do, and I HATE people coming over without calling first. My Mom just doesn't understand that. "In her day" people just "dropped in" all the time. Well, it's not "her day" anymore and times have changed!!

Even if someone just gives me a half-hour notice I appreciate it. At least then I can get the worst of the clutter picked up, and maybe spiff up the bathroom, etc.

Drop in visitors are so unwelcome!!

 

[tasha99]

My ex's family used to do that. I never had the nerve to turn them away, but I knew they talked about how my house looked. Well if they'd called, I would have had 10 minutes to throw a bunch of cr*p into a back room or a closet! Not everyone is a born housekeeper, and I have to fake it like that.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

I live about 45 to an hour away from my family and there is a reason for that . It is not so far away they cant visit but it is far enough away so they call so they dont get all the way out here with no one home

 

[eeyorethegreat]

MIGrandma: I love the photo of the bear!!! I live in Maine right on the edge of the woods and have never seen a bear here. When my Mom lived in MA. however just on the back of a highway, we saw a bear in her back yard! Go figure!

 

[Rafiki31]

It def caused me to wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. Then I had to get a call from my mom asking why I was so rude, which put me over the edge.

I am better now.

 

[livie1205]

I welcome friends and family any time..no calling ahead is fine with me.I am glad to see my parents anytime of the day or night!MY MIL came last night (she lives 5 hours away) she called when she got to town and she is staying for a few days...

 

[kim929]

My dsil drops in all the time. Today it was at 1. she stays 10-15 mins then she's off. She knows if she is just going to drop in, don't expect my house to look it's best. It is what it is...

 

[DisneyBeagle]

I welcome friends and family any time..no calling ahead is fine with me.I am glad to see my parents anytime of the day or night!MY MIL came last night (she lives 5 hours away) she called when she got to town and she is staying for a few days...

You are a saint! If my MIL just showed up at my house expecting to stay for a few days without prior knowledge, I would move

 

[DisneyBeagle]

My dsil drops in all the time. Today it was at 1. she stays 10-15 mins then she's off. She knows if she is just going to drop in, don't expect my house to look it's best. It is what it is...

I think there's a difference between people that you are close to that drop by for just a few minutes to return something that they borrowed or bring you cookies and then off they go. If you are very close to them then chances are they know that your house won't always be perfect. It's a whole other thing to have someone that you rarely see drop in unexpectedly and want to stay and visit for a couple of hours.