I've never had a c-section, but I'm a childbirth instructor, and I know a lot about the benefits and risks of both routes.
It is true that some hospitals don't do VBACs due to malpractice insurance rates. However, it's not that VBACs are less safe. It's that juries perceive them to be less safe.
The risk with a VBAC is that the uterus will rupture along the old incision site. I think there's about a .2% risk of that happening. While there is a chance that it could be deadly to the mother and baby, it practically never is. If your uterus were to rupture, it would happen slowly, not right away. You would feel the pain and know that you needed immediate help. If you had an epidural and couldn't feel the pain, the monitors would alert the hospital staff. I was just reading the other day that there was a study that looked over all VBACs (successful ones and those ending in repeat c-sections) for a period of 40 years. Not one mother had died due to uterine rupture. There was another study that looked at babies born to VBACs, and none of the babies had died. (I don't remember the specifics for the baby study, but it was a very large study.) It's noteworthy to mention that the risk of a mother's uterus rupturing due to a VBAC is the same as a first-time mother's uterus rupturing while using pitocin to induce or augment labor. People are quick to note the risks of a VBAC, but some hospitals hand out pitocin like it's candy.
It's hard to say if you would have failure to progress in this labor. Didn't you say that your first was induced? Being induced does increase the chances of that happening. Plus, if you know that it's a risk with this baby, there are things that can be done to prevent it. Staying upright as much as possible, walking, and squatting are all things that can really get a labor moving.
I would definitely get a doula if I were you, but I'd also drag hubby to some childbirth preparation classes so that he may decide to attend the birth with you. There's nothing like seeing a baby being born, especially when it's yours. He can stand by your head if he wants, but many decide to get a better view in the heat of the moment (and they don't regret it). I would recommend Bradley classes. That's what I teach, and the husbands are wonderfully prepared in those classes. In fact, our organization is call the American Academy of Husband-Coached Childbirth. We also teach ways to avoid a c-section.
It is your decision to make, but I just wanted to give you some information about VBACs that you might not have yet. C-sections are incredibly safe these days, but it is still major surgery. While I've never had a c-section, I know that I love the after-birth "high" that you get after a v-birth. I wouldn't want anyone who wanted to experience it to miss out on it. A baby being born is always exciting, but it's nice not to be recovering from anesthesia afterwards.
I know this is long. Sorry. Childbirth is something I feel passionately about. PM me if you have questions.