Vacation :(

[ckret01]

Well the Soga continues with my boss. Those that have read my last post regarding him...I had to give up my night school (college online classes) so that I can take the financial classes he wants me to take for work. I had no problem doing that but I didn't want to give up my college class and wanted to do both....but he wasn't having that....

Well I have a Disney vacation planned from a Saturday to a Monday (10 days) next week and it was brought to my attention from my boss that I will have to cut it back a day short b/c he wants to send me to a one day class that will help me with my job. As I don't mind taking any sort of classes for him as I already dropped out of my college class....this one day class is only offered the Monday I come back from Disney and Dec. 5th. I asked him if I could take the class then and he said no b/c he was not going to waste those 2 months.

I said I already booked my vacation and with my boyfriend, my sister and her husband are coming down. He said why can't you just come back a day early and leave then there and I said b/c if I leave early they will leave early and he laughed at nme and said he didn't understand that. I told him we are very clise nit and the reason they are going is becasue of me and they won't stay there if I'm not there.

I asked him if I take the class in Dec what would happen and he said he would be Livid!!!! He said he and the other guy I work with wouldn't even think twice about this and he was surprised at how I was being.

There is so much more to this story but just needed to vent AGAIN!!! I am so mad, sad, and frustrated right now that my headache is so bad I feel like my head is going to roll off my shoulders

 

[mrsv98]

Does he have a supervisor that you can take this to? Is there an HR dept? If you have tickets/hotel rooms etc paid for and have an approved time off then I would go and take the class in Dec. I would also look for another job because I could not work for a jerk like that, but that is just me.

 

[Mysteria]

Personally I would stand my ground on this one but then I don't know your whole situation. You've shown your willingness to compromise in other areas and in taking the class at a later date. It sounds like he is trying to imtimidate you and see how far he can push. Livid?! Tell him you'll be livid if you have to give up part of a much deserved and already approved vacation! Bully bosses really get under my skin. Can you tell?! lol

Myst

 

[alliecats]

He is definitely a bully and he is testing you. With people like this, they keep checking to see where the line is. When you let the line move, they continue to test it to see how much farther they can push it. The only way to stop it is to push back. This is MUCH easier to do when the bully is not your boss!!! Of course! I don't know what to tell you, can he fire you for not coming back the day early? Whatever you decide, you need to look for another job because he will only get worse. I'm sorry. Try not to let it ruin your vacation.

 

[Pugdog007]

Unfortunately, it sounds like your job is on the line. So the question is: do you want to work there? DO NOT try to go over your boss' head as someone else suggested. You might as well write your own pink slip if you choose that route. I believe he gave you a choice a week or so ago, keep this job and take the classes or move to another job. Is that correct? The issue was that you were not catching onto the job quickly enough. I can understand him not wanting to wait until Dec for the class if he needed you to know the material yesterday. IMO if you want to keep this job, you will cut your vacation by one day and take the class. You're already staying 10 days... what's one day less. It's still a really long trip. I wouldn't hesitate to cut a vacation short if I needed to be somewhere for work. My work allows me to take vacations... and I never forget that. Good luck.

 

[Lyn5]

Could it be that your boss has some feelings for you or maybe he is intimidated by you? He may be acting like a young boy and since he can't express his feelings for you he teases instead? Or, maybe he doesn't like that you are new and get along with your coworkers and he is not liked. I had a boss once that I think had issues, it was years ago but he seemed upset about me getting married and on one occasion he told me that I shouldn't get married . It was also an issue that I wanted to take off work for one week before my wedding to prepare, visit with out-of-town friends coming in and the week after my wedding when I had enough vacation leave to take per the company policy. Why would I take off if my wedding was on a Saturday was the question. I am so sorry to say, but in my experience it didn't get better. I did leave soon after and was so glad I did when I started having children. Sounds like you are a strong person and I commend you for wanting to get your degree and taking online classes. DH just finished his masters online...it took almost three years and wasn't easy, but I think it was worth it. Please take care of yourself and do what's best for YOU, some bosses just suck!

 

[MidNite]

Would it be possible to start your vacation a day earlier so that you have your entire 10 days?

 

[ADisneygirl]

I don't understand this. You had already entered college and were in classes on your own time and your boss decides to interfere and make you drop them in favor of his classes? You tell him that you are willing to take on both classes and he says he wasn't having that?? Didn't you lose money by dropping your online classes? Then you have an approved vacation planned and approaching, and your boss attempts to interfere and not only ask but require you to cut it short to appease his schedule? He makes it sound like your job is in jeopardy if you don't do as he says? Where do you work? I thought admin. at the elementary ed. level was strict, and sometimes oppressive, but this story makes my bosses look like a cake walk.

I guess you have to decide if you are willing to bow down to him each and every time he snaps his fingers at you. Is this job worth it? I know I couldn't/wouldn't do it. Good luck to you.