Vacation without kids??

[Rock'n Robin]

DH and I have been married 17 years. Our oldest is 11. We have never been away from the kids more than one night when they slept over at my parents or my in-laws.
I have the DVC points to take a 3 day Wonder cruise in December. We'd be gone 3 nights (4 if we leave the night before). I would get my mom to just move in and make sure they get on the bus, etc. and then she could take them to her house for the weekend and we'd get them Sunday evening.
I'm just really nervous. What if the plane crashes, etc. We still don't have a will and we'd have to get one. I would miss them like crazy.
Anyone have any pro or con advice?
Robin M.

 

[tkyes]

I might be the worst person in the world to give you advice since I don't have children, but I will anyway.

Go!

You and your husband still need to focus on you.

Happy Mom and Dad = Happy Family.


You need the time together. Yes you will miss them. No, the plane will not crash. You can't live with what ifs. You would never leave your house if you bothered yourself with all the what ifs in the world.

Go, have fun. Your kids will see two happy parents that love each other very much, that is a good lesson to see.


Tamie

 

[CamColt]

DH & I went alone last year. We spent a day/night at the Poly, then went on the 3 day cruise. I cant think of any cons to it at all. The pros would go on forever. It was an absolutely wonderful, well deserved vacation. And I think it was good for the kids to get a break from Mom and Dad, and spend some time with family too.
As I said on another post about this recently, Moms & Dads need some alone time...where they choose to spend it is their choice, not the kids.
Go and enjoy!!!

 

[believe]

DH and I went away for a weekend this past April, without our DDs. It was wonderful and I can't wait to do it again. I am one who believes that when my time comes it isn't going to matter where I am, it will happen anywhere. I am looking forward to DH and I going on a cruise in 1.5yrs. You will not regret taking the time for yourselves. The best part was being able to do things we couldn't do since our children are still young (hiking 4 miles uphill to a waterfall, riding bikes 11 miles).

 

[Blondie]

DH and I haven't been away on any kind of long weekend or vacation together (just the two of us without the kids) in 13 years, since we had our two sons! We live just far enough away that makes it impossible to just drop them off with grandparents, aunts or uncles.

We probably wouldn't know what to do if we didn't have to constantly say "get away from there" and "leave him alone" and "knock it off" etc!

If you have the chance, GO!!!!

 

[manchurianbrownbear]

This is a no-brainer! GO!!!

DW and have also been married 17 years and we have four kids.

For the last six years we've spent two or three nights at a resort on the North Shore of Lake Superior around our anniversary in June. It is usually the highlight of my year. It amazes me every year how nice it is to have DW to myself for a few days. We probably talk as much in those few days as we do in some full months at home!

And, it always surprises me how much more relaxed we are without the kids. I truly do enjoy being around the kids and they are good kids, but at home you rarely go more than a few minutes without having break up a squirmish, answer a question (probably for the 1,000th time) fix a meal, get a snack, help find a lost toy, give a bath, put in video etc, etc, etc.....!!!

If I were a marriage counselor (and I'm not!) I would strongly recommend that couples with kids try to get away alone for at least a couple days a year.

As for not having a will, I believe most families, and in most states, the courts, would respect the wishes of the parents if something were to happen to them at the same time even if there isn't a formal will. Maybe you could put something in writing and make sure some close friends or relatives know what you would like to have happen in the event of an accident. But really, what are the odds? Not bad enough that I'd pass up the trip!

 

[Kteacher]

Go!!!!! Our oldest was 9 before we ever went away for even one night without our kids. Like you we are lucky enough to have relatives ( my inlaws) who are thrilled to watch our kids. We have gone on a cruise every year since . Have a wonderful time

 

[JohnTBap]

We do it. If we don't work on our marriage, then what is there for the kids? That's the way I see it.

 

[Aurora63]

Do it!!! Don't worry about what you can't control (like a plane crash) cause it's just not worth it. But time away from your kids can be very beneficial.