UPdated Little angry am I wrong

[mirmartinez]

Last night Dh used my car.
Today, I had a very important interview with one of the Big 4.
When it was time for me to leave this morning I could not find my keys. (my spare is on his keychain).
I called him and asked where they were and he gave me 15 suggestions of places to look. They were no where to be found.
45 minutes later, I call and inform the interviewer that I could not make it.
Because, at this point I would be late.

I cried for a little bit, then continued to look for my keys. Which found around 4 under some leaves by the bushes(seems DH relieved himself by the garbage cans)

Now, we all make mistakes and I am the forgiving sort.
However, if he would of went to one of the three Dr. appointments I made him for his constant urge to pee, he never would of been jumping around in the bushes.
I spoke to him an hour ago and said if you dont go to the newset Drs appt on monday morning, don't bother coming home.
Am I wrong?

Update

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He did not make it to the DRs on Monday however, he did make it today>
I went in with him and I am glad I did.
Boy did he need a hug.
Diabettes (sugar 424)
Blood Pressure 100/155
and MRSA
He was so overwhelmed and scared.
They gave him pills to start taking to reduce his sugar and blood pressure.
We have to wait to for the culture to see what antibiotic to take.
He has a complete blood work up scheduled for tomorrow.

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

Last night Dh used my car.
Today, I had a very important interview with one of the Big 4.
When it was time for me to leave this morning I could not find my keys. (my spare is on his keychain).
I called him and asked where they were and he gave me 15 suggestions of places to look. They were no where to be found.
45 minutes later, I call and inform the interviewer that I could not make it.
Because, at this point I would be late.

I cried for a little bit, then continued to look for my keys. Which found around4 under some leaves by the bushes(seems DH relieved himself by the garbage cans)

Now, we all make mistakes and I am the forgiving sort.
However, if he would of went to one of the three Dr. appointments I made him for his constant urge to pee, he never would of been jumping around in the bushes.
I spoke to him an hour ago and said if you dont go to the newset Drs appt on monday morning, don't bother coming home.
Am I wrong?

I can see being upset over the keys.
But to go as far as to infom him not to come home if he does not go to a DRs appointment Yeah that might be over the top.

 

[Stacerita]

Accidents do happen. But I get peeved when its something like that where the person could have taken measures to not have it happen. He could have gone to the doc, got things taken care of, and then still dropped your keys in the bushes. Thats an accident. But to have issues, not do anything about it, then cause the keys to go missing would make me mad. Sorry you didn't get to the interview.

 

[MAKmom]

Last night Dh used my car.
Today, I had a very important interview with one of the Big 4.
When it was time for me to leave this morning I could not find my keys. (my spare is on his keychain).
I called him and asked where they were and he gave me 15 suggestions of places to look. They were no where to be found.
45 minutes later, I call and inform the interviewer that I could not make it.
Because, at this point I would be late.

I cried for a little bit, then continued to look for my keys. Which found around4 under some leaves by the bushes(seems DH relieved himself by the garbage cans)

Now, we all make mistakes and I am the forgiving sort.
However, if he would of went to one of the three Dr. appointments I made him for his constant urge to pee, he never would of been jumping around in the bushes.
I spoke to him an hour ago and said if you dont go to the newset Drs appt on monday morning, don't bother coming home.
Am I wrong?

Well since the new rule is you must quote if you are the first poster I did

I don't even know where to start...but no you are not wrong.

Why

 

[MAKmom]

Sorry trying to post with DGD playing with the smiles. Why did he have your keys if he has his own.

 

[amyhughes]

Um... I would have been through the phone.

If I had to miss an interview because of that, never mind the friggin' doctor's appointment hubby better be looking for that air mattress or coming home with jewelry!

Kudos to you for keeping your cool. But, yes you have every right to be upset.

 

[minniecarousel]

"Am I wrong?"

Oh, hell NO!

An adult who can't manage to use the bathroom in his own house def has a problem. His neglection of his problem may have cost you that job.

ew- ew - ew. I can't stand it when men (boys, OK, anyone) use the out-of-doors as their own personal bathroom.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No doubt I would have been ....However my dh would have brought the spare keys if he could.

 

[C.Ann]

No you're not wrong - and no, your demand that he see the doctor is not "over the top".. My late DH had the same symptoms - and not to scare you half to death, but the doctor appointment revealed he had prostate cancer..

Use any and all threats to get him to the doctor!!!

 

[mirmartinez]

No doubt I would have been ....However my dh would have brought the spare keys if he could.

He was almost 2 hours from home, so he could not.

 

[swea_pea1]

IMO, you're not wrong to be mad. I'd be steaming too.

Giving him an ultimatum on the other hand....that I wouldn't do.

Reclaim your spare key at once! You shouldn't have his spare either. Both spares should be in a neutral place (we keep ours in a basket right near the door) so that if you need them, you have them but the other isn't carrying them around everywhere.

We started doing this right after I spent a considerable time looking for my keys one morning and called my DH only to find out that he had both my set and his at work. He had to come home to give me my keys so I could get to work.

Yep, boiling mad I understand. Telling him not to come home - not so much.

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

No you're not wrong - and no, your demand that he see the doctor is not "over the top".. My late DH had the same symptoms - and not to scare you half to death, but the doctor appointment revealed he had prostate cancer..

Use any and all threats to get him to the doctor!!!

The reason I said it was over the top was because had he not dropped her keys in the bushes she would not have made that threat. he does need to go to the Drs.

 

[mirmartinez]

No you're not wrong - and no, your demand that he see the doctor is not "over the top".. My late DH had the same symptoms - and not to scare you half to death, but the doctor appointment revealed he had prostate cancer..

Use any and all threats to get him to the doctor!!!

I really want him to go and he keeps saying its not my problem,

I think he has diabetes

he dizzy
always thirsty and hungry
tired

 

[amyhughes]

I really want him to go and he keeps saying its not my problem,

I think he has diabetes

he dizzy
always thirsty and hungry
tired

Wondering if your DH has whitecoat syndrome? My Grandma does and it takes an act of congress to get her there. She's afraid they are going to constantly tell her bad news. She has to take a "nerve pill" to even go in there half the time.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

He was almost 2 hours from home, so he could not.

That stinks.

 

[C.Ann]

I really want him to go and he keeps saying its not my problem,

I think he has diabetes

he dizzy
always thirsty and hungry
tired

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You're right.. That does sound like diabetes and it's nothing to fool around with.. I'm not going to scare you with all of the things that could happen if it's left untreated, but you have to impress on him that untreated diabetes is extremely serious..

Good luck!

 

[KirstenB]

I'd be furious. If he wants to neglect his health, that's one thing. But to potentially cost you a job?

 

[Kimickey]

I was getting ready to say that it sounds as if he has diabetes.

A good friend of mine was diagnosed last year. He would have to pee like you wouldnt believe, sometimes he wouldnt make it from the garage in our office building to our office. Not a far walk, he would have to go right in the garage or he would pee his pants.

One night while I was at his night time job he couldnt make it to walking me to the front door he had to go suddenly and urgently. Then we talk about constantly being thirsty it was crazy.

After a couple weeks he decided to go the the Dr. Sure enough it was diabetes. He can control it with pills if he continually takes them.

Your DH should get to a Dr immediately. Maybe calmly suggest going with him, if he would like you to?

 

[disykat]

I think you are absolutely right to be angry - and I agree with you that his problem needs to be dealt with pronto. It doesn't only affect him, but it is affecting you and your life together. It cost you a job prospect - that's huge! Tell him that if he dies for lack of taking care of himself, you might really have needed that job for your life without him.

Meanwhile, keep money and a phone number for a taxi available at all times! In our town there might not be a taxi available, but it least it's an option.

 

[Loverly]

interview with one of the Big 4.
?

I want to know what the Big 4 is?