Update on Me

[BernardandMissBianca]

Sorry I have been MIA, life has been interesting.

I was on the Cricut boards helping Norma Anne and Henry win their dream wedding. We will find out who won on Monday.

DH is in the UK for 2 weeks, rush home, finish the Mini, drive 5 hours to Maine July 2, drive back on the morning of the 6th, put DH back on a plane the afternoon of the 6th. to be gone another 2 weeks. I am really really starting to hate this job!!!!!! I am tired of being a single parent. I really don't know how full time single moms and dads do it. God Bless Ya!

The kids have been beyond bad. I really don't know what to do about DS11, he is a snot. Plain and simple. Trying to deal with them has been a real challenge mentally and emotionally. I get a break tonight because my friend (Broken leg lady, she really needs a DIS name) took them for me for the night because.....

My mom had to go to the hospital and my dad is out of town. She woke up this morning with black spots in her eye. Not just floaters either, like someone splattered paint on her glasses. She actually thought there was something on her glasses. It didn't get better today but it didn't get worse either. So she called her insurance Co, (military, you have to call them first to get permission to be seen, don't ask!) anyway they said go to the ER. So off we go. They look in her eye, test for stroke, and do a CT scan. all tests were clear.
Her blood pressure was up a little (gee I wonder why?) her sugars were up a little and her white count was way up, not sure how much though. I had left to get the boys, we were there 4 hours! So obviously she is fighting something but feels fine. The eye doesn't burn, itch, hurt anything It's just annoying.
Now she has to see an ophthalmologist on Monday, not sure how the insurance will feel about that one. I'm trying to not be concerned but it worries me. She does have diabetes but she takes 1/2 of the smallest pill there is, and she had a complete check up 9 months ago and said she has the eyes of a non diabetic person. But still, I worry.

Sorry for the vent/pity party. Just needed to get that out in the open. But I'm back, or at least I hope I am.

So honey, how was your day?

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

My day is going to be great. We will be working on putting the supporting bricks around the lip of the pond and then hopefully the pretty stones can go on top. Still need to go pick up a pump for it.

I am soo sorry about your Mom. I have no idea what floaters are a sign of, but I'm sure you can google just was well as I and there is no point us working ourselves up for no reason.

Having to call the insurance company before going to the doctor, wow. Are they available 24/7 so you can get permission 24/7?

On being a temporary single parent of a snot-nosed little brat. My eldest will be there soon, so let me know how you fix it. Not sure if time outs work at this stage anymore.

 

[party of 3]

i wondered where you have been!! off helping someone else. yup, that would be you all right! hope they win!!

as for your mom. now let's just hope that all will be ok. going through the whole "mom" thing is really trying. but i got all worked up before we really knew anything. so let's take deep breaths every time you start to feel upset about it. i am a new believer of "one day at a time." i'm sure she will be ok. i will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. -also a believer of this too!-
i think it stinks to have to call the insurance co before just going. something is wrong in that system. -not that you have not heard that before- but really. what's up with that?

as for your ds i'm sure it's a phase. i think they all go through it. or at least that's what i hoping for. my ds is only 6 so i really have no idea. i do know that when both of my nieces were that age -and i was very close to them- they were the very same way. and the eventually grew out of it. it must be so hard with you husband away so much. it's has to be hard to be the chief cook and bottle washer - as my mother would say-. you are playing way too many rolls. now is this the new job? (from just last year) you must be a very strong person to deal with the every day stuff while he's gone. but sometimes you NEED to have some "buffy time"!!!! hang in there girlfriend. we are here for you if you need anything. i really do mean that. i'm not as close as lisa, but i'm not that far either. i can help if you need something. really. don't hesitate to ask.
hugs and love,
holly

 

[ddavis860]

Oh Buffy...your poor mom! As long as they aren't saying words like "retinal detachment" or "macular degeneration"...even if they say those words, early treatment prevents tons of probs...good thing she was seen right away! As for twerp kids, I promise they grow out of it (mine did, thank God!), and I got kind of twerpy back at them, and that helped. There is power in the words "The state says I have to give you food and a roof, after that everything else is extra...push me some more"

As for my day/life, things here are just poop! What with the funeral for DUnc96, and being supportive wife, then my internet going down (dial-up stinks, and can't DIS much), and now the vultures circling for DUnc96 estate (they started the day of the funeral if you can believe it, and yesterday started yelling at DH over the phone...I would have hung up , but DH is really trying to do the right thing. Poor DH, has them on one side being bullies, and me on the other side being mad at how they are treating him...I'm not sure where to go on this one), it's just been a fun fun time at my house.

On a bright note, I'll be back online with FiOS on Wednesday thanks to my lovely phone company. Kids and I can't wait!!!

Next...How's things at your house?

 

[Michellepooh]

Oh Buffy, I'm so sorry life is so stinky for you right now!!! There are times I feel like a single mom too, with DH's 2 fulltime jobs. Keep in mind I'm less than 2 hours away if you ever need to take a ride for a change of scenery!

 

[PrincessNancy96]

Buffy,

I'm so sorry... First tell DS11 he really doesn't want a phone call from Auntie Nan.... I believe it is a phase.... and each child is different.... I know it is easy to say it gets easier or it's hard w/ each child...but really each child is different.... I have 4 teenage phase right now... DsS17 who thinks he no longer has to abide by rules because he doesn't at his moms house... Well, sorry different house; rules to be followed... DD14 who thinks we should drop everything at her beck-n-call.. Sorry sweety it doesn't work that way.. no one drops everything to help me... DsS13 who thinks because he plays AAU ball he really doesn't have to work at it... he made it so therefore whatever he does is good.. WHAT? Get real little guy!!! Todays stars didn't just stand there.. they worked for it.. (ok, some of the younger stars just were money hungry but thats another debacle).. DS12 is in the pre-teen stage of "I'm the best so I don't need to listen"... Yeah! I wish I had some easy solution for DS11...

I'm sorry to hear about mom.... Try not to worry is easier said than done.. a mother's instinct is to worry not only about her own kids..but everyone around them.... I'm trying to think what could cause that... I could imagine how annoying that would be... but I do wonder if something is going on w/ her diabetes... maybe a bad batch of pills or something? I'll have to have DH call Gramps and see what caused his spots... he dealt w/ that a few years ago.... I'll let you know what I can find out.. Till than tell mom to stay sweet and optomistic!!!

Now you know you can call me anything day or night.. so being a single mom put those kids to bad, grab a kahula and give me a call...


Debbie, isn't it amazing how the vultures come out..and what would you say.. about 50% or more didn't have a strong relationship w/ DUnc..? I know cousins are mad at me because of what was left to me...but like I remind them.. I was the oldest...and this was discussed when I was a child and I was the grandchild who was w/ my grandparents every chance I had... Glad to hear your internet will be back up soon... please tell DH while its great to be nice/diplomatic... he really doesn't have to take the abuse...

OK, DS7 is waiting for me to come watch tv... we have a free day.. DsS17 is working; DH, DsS13, and DS12 are at basketball games til 6pm... so it's just me, DD and DS7.. so I plan to scrapbook today.. because I didn't get anything done last night.. not page one! LOL

 

[SusieStone]

BAMB - things will get better and I will be saying prayers for your mom and her providers that they will be able to find answers.

I have been busy trying to get services lined up for Stone since we have his autism specturm diagnosis......I am all up the Central Office's butt about teacher assignment and stuff for the fall....I am demanding they work on everything now and hsave it in place when we walk into open house in August. Not my fault they procrastinated for 2 years with testing.

Ayway, I wil get about 25 hours a week from a worker to help with him - they think it will b e a college guy. He will havea pie job honestly as DS is so high functioning.

DBF - yes I have one - don't fall out.....I'll tell about it at some point. He has gone to a funeral in the mountains today. I volunteered to go with him but he let me off the hook. He is a State Trooper and a guy he was in Trooper school with for that long 7 months 2 years ago was shot to death on a traffic stop Tuesday night. Poor guy was 24 years old - newly married - his wife just gave birth to a very premature baby 18 days before that is still in the hospital and they don't know if baby will make it. Can you imagine...the notification was done at the hospital. She was at the same hospital with the baby as he was taken to after the shooting.

Anyway- I am plugging away on prototypes today and will probably go ahead and have the 4 element spots done and bagged today.

Sunday I am swapping out the seasonal swap finally.

 

[aroyer]

Hugs, hugs and more hugs. Plus some prayers and pixie dust. I have very little experience with being a single mom- did it a few summers ago when DS was a newborn and DD was 5, DH was working in Houston for the entire summer. It stinks, plain and simple.

I am dreading the age your DS is.... wish I had some good advice. I like what Debbie said though, getting twerpy back sounds like a good idea. I do something similar with DS when he is whiney, I whine back and it makes him stop.

Hugs to you and your mom. That has to be unsettling not knowing what is going on. Keep us posted.

Nothing much exciting happening in my neck of the woods. Just trying to survive the heat wave, keep DD and I from butting heads (we are too much alike for our own good) and trying to keep DH from worrying too much about finances. The new job was an initial pay cut, so it's been interesting. I told him I could go back to work to help out, but he isnt hearing it. So instead when he works extra on Saturday he's super grouchy- so much fun.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

Hey guys! Thanks for all the well wishes. I will get back to y'all individually later tonight, I'm taking mom to the grocery store, taking the boys for hair cuts, and running up to Joann's for a bit of retail therapy.

60 days and counting til mommy time! Just in time to be refreshed for the start of school.

OK time to go, Joe's closes at 2 so I need to get cranking. Talk to y'all in a bit!!!!

Love ya, Mean it!!!

 

[Queenie]

I hope everything gets better soon for you! *hugs* No advice on the kids but I'm sure it's a phase (doesn't help much now though huh?)

Is DH in London or somewhere else in my lovely country? You reminded him to pick up some cherry bakewells for you???

Hope your mum gets sorted soon. I went into super freak out mode when mine got sick at Christmas, now she complains that me and sis have turned into the parents - yah that'll happen!

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

Back from my shopping spree. I bought primas! They are sooooo cute!

AWM - I think the insurance is 24/7 but if you need to go to emergency you have to call them within 24 hours if you can't talk to them before hand. The Navy base has outsourced everything. Their hospital is a ghost town.

And nope, time outs don't work.

PO3 - That's the gov't for ya. You get screwed every which way including sideways. Can you believe that after 20+ years of service my parents have to pay insurance premiums?? It never used to be that way. It bites!

DS6 will give you the 1st grade attitude this year, be prepared! Nancy and I both went through it this year. It was tough but you will survive.

DDavis - No it's not retinal detachment but that can happen with Diabetes. She did have a complete exam 9 months ago and said that her eyes show no sign of diabetes at all.

My slogan for kids- there are 3 things they have to do, eat sleep and breathe. Everything else is a bonus.

As for the vultures, change the locks yesterday!!!! Trust me on this, my uncle learned the hard way. Inventory everything, read the will, get an appraiser for the valuable stuff.

Michelle - Some day I will hit a Mass. Crop!

Nan - I will ship him off straight away. Not!! You have your hands full with the other 4.

I don't think the Diabetes has anything to do with it but you never know.

Susie - Knowledge and persistence is power. Talk to Lisa, she knows the hoops you will go through. Fight with all your might. I know it's exhausting but you have to keep on them. You are Stone's biggest advocate.

And a DBF???? Do tell!!!
Tell him how sorry I am about his friend. hugs and prayers go out to the whole family. I hope the baby makes it.

Aroyer - I do get twerpy, I am the Queen of attitude!

Queenie - Yep he's in London. He'll be there until Friday/Saturday. He will be back the week of July 14.

Ohhh bakewells, I completely forgot!!!!! Thanks!

update on mom we went shopping today and she said the filmy feel was not as bad and the spots weren't as bad or she is just getting used to it. She seemed discouraged this morning but was better when we got home. Thanks for the well wishes, I will keep you posted as the week progresses.

 

[New England Eeyore]

Hey - it sounds like a bunch of you can use a big ! Sending out prayers, pixie dust and lots of good vibes for everything that's going on.

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Hopefully the eye doctor can tell your Mom something concrete. Not knowing is the pits.


Speaking of pits - Here is my new pond...

Still need to arrange rocks around the waterfall, add plants inside the pond and back fill with mulch around the outside.

 

[SusieStone]

That is so pretty

Hopefully the eye doctor can tell your Mom something concrete. Not knowing is the pits.


Speaking of pits - Here is my new pond...

Still need to arrange rocks around the waterfall, add plants inside the pond and back fill with mulch around the outside.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

AWM that is awesome!!! We had a pond at our old house, loved it. We had a big fountain in it and loved to hear it out our window while in the bath. Very peaceful.

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Thanks. It wasn't so pretty Thursday night. We had a bigger pond in that section, but it was using a liner. I don't think we prepared the ground right the first time and it just never held the water correctly. It would kinda bubble up on the sides from the ground water and then the rocks started sliding in from the edges. So we took that one out. After draining the water and little ol'me inside the mucky pit scooping out the primordial ooze.

[yes, that icky black blob behind the rock seat is some of the ooze, ick]
We put a layer of sand on the bottom and sides of a hard plastic liner to eliminate the ground water bubbles. And got a waterfall feature, I've been really wanting one of those.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

Ah yes, I remember the ooze. DSnow11 slipped in the ooze once. We drain the blow up pool water into the pond once and DSthen4 decided he would swim in there since that's were the water went. I turn around and he vanished, he had snuck into the pond and the ooze made him fall under the water. It was sooo scary! The water was about to his chest but the slime kept making him fall.

 

[PrincessNancy96]

One day I'll get a water feature pond..but I'd like it w/ my pool area... like over looking it or something... DH took photos/camcorder the pool home next to ours and they had a beautiful water feature @ their pool along w/ a garden inside surrounding it... I want a pool room added to our home... I'm sure everyone would be asking why the heck we have a florida screened pool room on an indiana home....but that is what I want..

ok, back to Camp rock w/ the kids..

 

[party of 3]

AWM nice pond. it looks really nice. i'd love to have one of those. they have a really nice place up the street that sells all the stuff for it. it's called tranquil gardens. it has a nice ring to it-huh?
anyhoo- thanks for the pics. i was hoping you'd post some.
i'd love to show you our pics for the day.....

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

okay, let's see them.