Update on DD and her hospitalization..

[C.Ann]

Things continue to go very, VERY well..

Earlier this afternoon it was decided that only she and her DH would be in attendance at the Family Meeting this afternoon.. (After all, it was his FIRST experience hearing all that needed to be said by a professional and he may have been reluctant to open up with someone else in the room..) That was fine with me -and actually something I had been worried about last night..

So - the meeting took place and I just got off the phone with him a little while ago.. The absolute turn-around in him is astounding!! Serious progress was made today for all concerned.. Some of my DD's issues were validated, but so were some of my SIL's.. He has agreed to long-term counseling for the two of them and whatever else is necessary to insure my DD's recovery.. (He has always been adamant about NO counseling..) He is not just "going along" with all of this - he is 100% sincere and has finally acknowledged that depression is REAL - an honest-to-goodness medical condition..

The sad part for my DD is that the doctor and the social worker are both in agreement that her JOB is playing a HUGE role in her depression and there needs to be some changes made.. Unfortunately, because she is such a compassionate person, she gives those girls and her job 100% - which leaves nothing else for herself, her husband, her family, or her marriage.. So - she either needs to set some firm limits and stick to them (which at this point I don't really think she's able to do) or she will have to resign.. That will be an extremely bitter pill for her to swallow..

Also, her supervisor at work - as well as her staff under her - have started to bombard my SIL's answering machine with demands of wanting to know what is going on - specifically what her medical condition is - when she is coming back to work - etc.. So - I think she is going to have to go ahead and talk to the doctor about preparing the necessary ground work for the FMLA..

Please keep the prayers and PD coming.. So far it's working miracles!

Thanks all!
C.Ann

 

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[KimRaye]

Originally posted by C.Ann
Please keep the prayers and PD coming..

Absolutely, C.Ann!!!

It sounds VERY good, except that DD might have to find something less demanding for work. She CAN do it tho! There must be something less "hands-on" than what she's doing. Certainly, something to stay involved but, not so stressing.

Thanks for keeping us updated! Enjoy your weekend with DGD!!!!

 

[Manda1219]

Many prayers to you and your family!

 

[poohandwendy]

C Ann,
Oh, I am so happy to hear that things are going well. Sounds like your SIL is stepping up to the plate, that is so awesome. Sad to hear that she may have to leave her job, but if it contributing to her depression, it very well may be essential. Thanks for the update, I continue to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers!

 

[Dan Murphy]

That is good to hear, C.Ann. Glad such progress has been made with her hubby and things are moving along. Good news.

 

[helenabear]

C.Ann, I am glad to hear the good news so far! I am just sorry she will have trouble with her job if she goes back to that. Hopefully she can find something to do that won't take so much out of her, yet will give her the same kind of good feeling. Continued prayers for you all

 

[Serena]

That's great C. Ann. Your sil is an awesome man. I really appreciate him being there for his wife and daughter. Things will work out for the better, it may not feel like it right now for her, but it will. You all just need to hang on for a little longer.

Of course you always have my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Pop Daddy]

praying

 

[DoeWDW]

C. Ann, such great news!! I'm so happy that your SIL has his priorities straight now and is getting educated on how best to help his wife, your DD. In the end, with much hard work on DD's part and on SIL's part, they will probably have a much better and happier marriage and will be setting a wonderful example for your DGD.

to all and prayers will continue.

 

[rasnlms]

Glad to hear the great news.

 

[wendyl]

C.Ann--so happy things are going well and progress is being made. Your love for your DD and your SIL is clear. Stay strong--and know you are supported!

 

[4nana]

Our prayers are working and it sounds like progression is being made in all areas!!! to all. Keep the faith!

God Bless ^i^
~ Sandie

 

[hercamore]

Good news.

It is so hard for men to accept depression as a medical condition.

I worry about my DD (2nd year psych major) who sounds like a similiar personality as your DD.

I don't know how she is going to handle the stress of a fulltime counseling job.

herc

 

[Miss Jasmine]

C. Ann, sounds like many positives may come out of all this.

As far as work wanting to know her medical condition, only contact her HR/Personnel Department (if her company has one). Things like this are protected under ADA. Reasonable accomodations can be made at her work if your DD is able (and willing). Before you start her FMLA, see how much other leave she has. Some companies allow you to exhaust your other leave before having to use FMLA (other companies make you run the time concurrently).

 

[luv2nascar]

best wishes
it sounds like she is on the road to recovery
prayers for all

 

[mickeyfan1]

C.Ann, more great news. Your SIL should not tell the employer what is happening. That is a violation of privacy. All he has to tell them is that she is ill. A previous poster said some companies make you take FMLA concurrant with short term disability, that was the policy where I used to work. But your DD will get all that info from the HR people or the benefits group (if there is one).

So good that the SIL has had the turn around. A lot of people (not just men) don't realize that depression, along with many other mental illnesses, is a treatable medical illness. With the right combination of therapy and drugs, as deemed by your DDs doctor (not a bucn of people on the Dis), she will be on the road to recovery. I hope that it is a smooth road for her.

All the best to your entire family.

 

[goofy4tink]

Great news C.Ann. I'm so glad your sil is 'getting it'. That in itself will work miracles for your dd!!! Prayers are still being said.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

I concur with EVERYTHING mickeyfan1 just wrote. I couldn't have said it better.

Mental Illness is a familiar part of our family, that lock down ward is something we know way too much about. I've thought so much about your daughter and all of your family. I'm so glad things are going better. You're a wonderful mom, I know this is so hard for you to witness.

Good luck and God Bless

Mary Alice

 

[grinningghost]

Glad to hear things are looking up. Your SIL is obviously a great guy. Now that he's on board and willing to listen and learn, I think your DD will do fine. Sorry about the job problem, though. But her mental health is far more important. Prayers and Pixie Dust for everyone.