UPDATE!: FOUND!!! Lost Wedding Rings-WWYD?

[lovetoscrap]

UPDATE! I just found them!!! Long story but I had stuffed them in my pocket when I was in a hurry (I keep my rings on my watch band when not wearing them) and they had dropped out of my pocket, which is what I had been afraid of. I remembered I had made a quick stop at the local grocery store and went in and they had them!! I was bawling my eyes out when she handed them over. They will NEVER be leaving my fingers again!!!

But I am still considering that vow renewal!



So I have lost my rings-- my wedding and engagement ring and 2 anniversary rings. I always put them on my watch band and secure it so it is easy to find. Well about 2 weeks ago it was no where to be found. The night before I left for Disney we were ripping the house apart and DH went through all the trash. Nothing. If I am running late I will sometimes put the watch/ring combo in my pocket to put on in the car. I am afraid that they dropped out of my pocket somewhere. I have called everywhere I have been, but no luck.

Before you make suggestions of where to look--yep, we looked there. Believe me, the couch, furniture, all drawers, clothes, my car-- litterally everything in my house has been turned upside down and pulled apart in the search for them.

The total value of the rings was probably less than $500 because they were bought when we were broke. Replacing them now would not be a problem financially, but the sentimental value of them was priceless. And I am a very sentimental gal.

So DH just asked me what I want to do about them. I know I want my wedding ring replaced right away because I just feel bad not having a wedding ring. So he wants to know if I want a very plain, simple band like I had (it was litterally just a smooth gold band--cost less than $100), or something more ornate now. But if I "upgrade" then our rings won't match.

And of course I will want a replacement engagement ring I think? Somehow it just doesn't seem like it would ever be the same.

What would you do? Replace with the same thing? Get something "better"? And I am just feeling weird about replacing the engagement ring. It was also very simple--just a small diamond on a thin gold band. I am sure if we go shopping now DH will suggest something nicer but I am not sure how I feel about that.

The anniversary rings I don't feel as funky about replacing. It is just the symbolism and meaning behind my wedding/engagment rings that is killing me. DH keeps trying to tell me they are just "things" and can be easily replaced but I everytime I think about it.

 

[Evil Genius]

I would get what you had. Maybe if dh gave them to you over a nice dinner or a weekend a way that would help make them feel special.

 

[Tuffcookie]

OP, I am sorry you can't find them. I know how sentimental I get about my jewelry. Remember the old saying: dogs are man's best friend but diamonds are a girl's best friend!

Why don't you look at QVC and pick out something set with Diamondique? They are very reasonable and beautiful! That way, in case your old rings do eventually show up, you will not have spent a fortunte on replacements?



TC

 

[kimmikayb]

You could let your DH just go and pick it out. Surprise you with it one night, make a new memory. The same feelings might come from that.

Did you check with the police departments of the areas you were in? Could be a good citizen turned your rings in.

 

[phorsenuf]

Bummer you still haven't found them.

I know what you mean about the sentimental factor. My hubby is always talking bout getting me a bigger diamond but I refuse. It just wouldn't be the same.

I suppose the best thing to do is to go to the jewelry store and just start looking together. Don't plan to purchase right away but just look. Explain to the salesperson what happened and maybe they can kinda guide you along as well. Just keep an open mind about it and maybe something will jump out at you that ends up being the perfect compromise.

Or perhaps you could both upgrade and have a special dinner with the kids and do a little vow-renewal as you each give them to each other. What might be kinda neat too is if you got the girls a small ring as well and did it as a family commitment ceremony. That might make it more special and take some of the focus off of the lost rings. A new chapter in your life so to speak.

 

[Serena]

Well, how about this. My idea is to have him propose again. A romantic night out, down on one knee or whatever and tell each other how much you have been glad to be married to each other and how much you really again, want to spend the rest of your life together.

 

[MsDisney23]

I hope you find them... I am sorry this has happen, keep us posted...

 

[lovetoscrap]

I did think about this being a good excuse to have a Vow Renewal!

I like the idea of maybe getting something "temporary" Tuffcookie. I do have a bit of a fear that we will spend the money for something new and then they will show up.


I know that DH has always felt bad that we had so little money to spend on the originals and that is why he is seeing this as a chance to get me something nicer.

Maybe I can find something to wear for now at a reasonable cost like on QVC and then we can plan a Vow Renewal for our 20th Anniversary in 3 years.

 

[tazdev3225]

OP I know exactly where you are coming from. I lost my engagement ring, sucked it up into the vacuum cleaner and threw the bag out before I realized it. I was upset but DH said it was cheap and small why worry about it. I hated losing the sentimental value attached to it. He surprised me one day and proposed with a new one as I was putting groceries away. I accidentally ground that one up in the garbage disposal, the cats knocked it in and I didn't know it. The cats also did away with my wedding band. My DH replaced both for our 25th anniversary. I was upset at first but realized that they are just objects and can be replaced, what we have will survive all adversity and is worth far more than "things".

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I know how you feel. Years ago I lost my wedding ring and a ring DH gave me on our 5th anniversary. Like you, they were not worth much monetarily, but I was heartsick over the sentimental value.

I went several years without a ring, and it did bother me not to wear one. It also bothered DH, so one year he asked me if I'd like to get the same wedding ring (actually it was more like a cocktail ring, not matching his ring at all), or something nicer now that we could afford it. I figured it would be difficult to find exactly the same thing, so we opted to look for something new.

After watching me look at several styles, he finally went to a jeweler and asked her to make a very classic-style ring with one diamond with two smaller diamonds on either side (representing himself and our two boys) with a thicker, comfort-style band. I love this ring! I love that he went to the trouble to pay attention to what I liked, and that it has meaning to us.

 

[Abbie]

I know how you feel! Somehow the diamond from my engagement ring fell out last year and I was devastated. I've had it for 38 years. It wasn't huge but big enough that it would have cost $5000 to replace with the same size and I just couldn't justify the expense with tuition and a wedding coming up....not to mention the everyday costs of things! I hardly ever cry but I did when I figured out I couldn't replace it anytime soon. Hope you figure out what you want to do soon!

 

[Illuminations_Rocks]

Maybe I can find something to wear for now at a reasonable cost like on QVC and then we can plan a Vow Renewal for our 20th Anniversary in 3 years.

I like this idea!

DFTW VR, anyone? Way to turn the bad thing into something (well sorta - it's still a bummer) good.

 

[tonilea]

I lost my engagement ring several years ago. I was heartbroken. DH offered to buy me a new one (like you, ours was purchased when we were broke), but I thought it just wouldn't be the same.

Fast forward about a year. We were re-arranging our bedroom and when we went to move our king sized bed, I found the ring. In the middle, under the bed. I can only assume one of the cats played with it and knocked it under the bed.

 

[Pumbaa_]

I am so sorry you lost them

Let it rest a couple days and thing about your choices. I am currently on my 3rd set. I was 17 when we were engaged and 18 when I was married. I have upgraded twice since then. Not terribly attached to them, they are just a symbol and i am happy with the new one

Everybody is different and I know others that feel like you do about their original set. I hope it turns up somewhere or turns it in. If not, maybe a nice anniversary band for the wedding band or a nice set. Think about if you were to get married tomorrow, to himn for hte first time, what would your taste be today? I know mine sure has changed since the original

good luck and let us know what you decide

 

[FroggyinArk]

i lost my wedding band while building my desk. we seriously believe that i bult it into the desk, or melted it in the fire i burned the scrap wood in. dw eventually replaced it with a cheeper version and that ring means as much now as the other one did.

 

[clh2]

My DH accidentally tossed his wedding ring out the car window when he was driving. (He had lost some weight, and the ring was pretty loose, so he was playing with it, and then a bee flew in the window).

He did opt to get a new ring, similar to the first, but the "feel" of it isn't quite the same.

Since an engagement ring/wedding ring are really something from the heart...you need to go with your heart on whether or not you want to replace it or upgrade.

 

[JimmyPicker]

Well, how about this. My idea is to have him propose again. A romantic night out, down on one knee or whatever and tell each other how much you have been glad to be married to each other and how much you really again, want to spend the rest of your life together.

I was thinking the same thing! A new proposal, a new vow renewal! You'll make new memories with the new rings!

I'm so sorry you've lost the old ones. I'm sure you'll never look at the new rings without thinking of the old rings. But if you do something special with the new rings, you'll have those good memories as well.

Let us know what you decide to do!

 

[JimmyPicker]

Anyone else see the advertisement for rings and bands at the bottom of this page? LOL!

 

[ZachnElli]

I vote for upgrade! My dh upgraded my set without my knowledge over 6 years ago. Also surprised me a a vow renewal! So do the vow renewal with a new set!!

 

[wilderness01]

I vote for upgrade! My dh upgraded my set without my knowledge over 6 years ago. Also surprised me a a vow renewal! So do the vow renewal with a new set!!