Update for those interested: I am engaged!

[macraven]

Congrats!

 

[prprincess]

Congratulations! I wish you all the best!!!

 

[Happyinwonerland]

Congrats!

The replies make me wish I knew the backstory...

 

[mjkacmom]

COngratulations! Don't confuse butterflies with love. A lot of marriages end when they go away, because those feelings were mistaken for love. Love is different, there for the long term. Butterflies come with new, a reason married people end up cheating, wanting those feeling again.

 

[Hikergirl]

I remember a recent thread of yours and I think by setting a date for 2018 you are giving yourself enough time to make sure this is the right decision for you. I do hope it works out for you this time.

 

[lynxstch]

Congrats!

The replies make me wish I knew the backstory...

this thread has part of it, if there's more before that ,search won't show it to me, lol

http://www.disboards.com/threads/steps-in-relationships-when-to-move-to-another-level.3555120/

 

[tluvstink]

I know some of you guys are genuinely interested, and I thought I would share the news officially. My boyfriend asked me to marry him, and I said YES. I know we had discussed it before, and I got ridiculed for using a term like "pre-engaged", but it is now official with a ring, and a date set in 2018.

I know that early in the relationship that I displayed some very childish behavior. It was silly, and I acted like a fool with my "stalker-like" behavior and panic attacks over silly things. It had just been so long since I had been in the dating world, and I reverted back to the only thing I knew I guess.

Cutting through all the silliness, I realized that I have met somebody who makes me smile, and makes me feel so good about myself. I also want to make him happy. I never want to see him sad. I am so proud to be by his side, I want to be a better person myself, for him. I appreciate how loving and accepting his friends and family have been. I embrace my role as stepmom, and the children know that I will go to the ends of the earth for them. I do not have my own children, and they have enriched my life so much. We are approaching 9 months into this relationship, and I still get butterflies around him. If this is not love, then I will probably never now what love is. I know this will be my 3rd marriage, but I have never felt like this before about anybody.

...a yes for the record this far into the relationship he has seen me in glasses AND without makeup

Congratulations!!! Wishing you all the best!

Terri

 

[disney4us2002]

Congrats!

The replies make me wish I knew the backstory...

I knew you wouldn't have to wish for long! Disers have long memories or nothing but time on their hands.

Congrats Kathryn - I'll stick with "third time's the charm"!

 

[scrapquitler]

Now you can really be "facebook offical"

I do think that it's good that you have set a date fairly far away. It will keep you from rushing too much.

 

[Kitty 34]

Congrats and good luck on getting to really know each other in your long engagement. Very smart thinking!

 

[mrsheppo]

I wish you the very best. Please get to know each other better during this long engagement. Even though you said you never want to see him sad, you have to look at times where there may be sadness. You can't have sunshine all the time. You have to take the relationship with its warts and all.

 

[BigAlsGal]

Ah limerence...

Best of luck.

 

[ols386]

Congratulations! Wishing you all the best.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Ah limerence...

Best of luck.

^^^ Not gonna lie. Had to Google that one.

 

[Cinderella94]

^^^ Not gonna lie. Had to Google that one.

I'm glad I wasn't the only one

 

[#1hoosierfan]

Write down the first five lines of your third paragraph and take it to a therapist or member of your clergy (if you have one.) You need to do this and get their feedback and advice.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Write down the first five lines of your third paragraph and take it to a therapist or member of your clergy (if you have one.) You need to do this and get their feedback and advice.

This thread is a lot of work.

 

[#1hoosierfan]

This thread is a lot of work.

I'm lazy. I'm on my phone, and it's a pain to quote and bold.

 

[LisaR]

Write down the first five lines of your third paragraph and take it to a therapist or member of your clergy (if you have one.) You need to do this and get their feedback and advice.

I assure you she doesn't have a therapist. She has been told repeatedly to get therapy and back off of this relationship for awhile. Instead of taking page after page after page of advice, she got engaged! Congrats, OP'er. I sincerely hope it works out. It seems like you got exactly what you wanted.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Congratulations, and best of luck to you.