He sees the
DVC resorts as being away from the main resorts (like how VWL is off to the side) and the forgotten red headed step-children.
To this point, I think it depends upon your perspective. And it varies from resort-to-resort.
At Beach Club and Wilderness Lodge, the DVC villa wings were built years after the hotel itself. So really it's a case of DVC not even being on the radar when the original resorts were designed.
BoardWalk was the first resort designed to accommodate both DVC and hotel rooms and many would argue that the DVC location is even better than the hotel (rooms overlooking BW face Epcot and have the best angle on the fireworks.)
Bay Lake Tower (Contemporary) is in an excellent location.
Grand Californian villas at
Disneyland were also part of a later expansion and the villas have better location / views than the hotel rooms added at the same time.
There is no grand conspiracy to give DVC villas the substandard location...it just happened to work out that way at some resorts due to logistical hurdles that could not otherwise be overcome.
iif you want housekeeping, the costs are steep and it's up to you to decide to pay for it.
Daily housekeeping is certainly not cheap.
However, whenever I've run the numbers, owning DVC and paying out of pocket for daily housekeeping is still cheaper than paying OOP for a hotel room every time.
I think your husband is correct, there are compromises and if he can't stomach those compromises, he may indeed be unhappy with DVC. However, I personally see the upside far more than the downside and I see the compromises of DVC minimal compared to the potential savings in your situation. Assuming you plan to continue as you have, DVC resale is a great choice overall. If money is no object certainly paying OOP is a good option but the balance of DVC far outweighs the disadvantages in your situation in my book.
Agree with every point here.
There are definitely compromises. DVC rooms do not get refurbished as often as the hotels. (Mainly because owners pay for such refurbishments.)
DVC rooms tend to not be quite as luxurious. If you look at photos of the BoardWalk Inn you'll see elaborate headboards and wall sconces which are not mirrored in the villas.
DVC resorts run at much greater occupancy so it can be challenging for staff to deal with unexpected housekeeping or maintenance issues.
DVC resorts do not offer complimentary upgrades.
DVC owners are not eligible for "free dining" or other cash promos.
That said, it's clear you will pay MUCH less in the long run as a DVC owner than as a cash guest for comparable accommodations. Economics vary greatly depending upon how you run the numbers but it's pretty easy to demonstrate 60-70% savings off of Disney's cash rates (even with some cash discounting factored-in.)
In my opinion, it all boils down to whether you are willing to pay so much more money for daily housekeeping, wall sconces and what you believe to be a better room location.
Good luck.