I wish there was a hug button instead of just like, because I hate that anyone else has to deal with this.

It is excruciating to "hold it" for me, too and when your bladder signals you need to go every 3.2 seconds, it means pain most of the time. I literally go potty, drive 7 mins to the grocery store, pee on the way in, shop, and pee on the way out. If it's more than a quick shop, I'll have to go halfway through. I drive 32 mins to work and back and often stop half way. I pee when I walk into the building (large hospital and luckily there is a potty right by the entrance from the parking deck). I pee when I clock in/out, between every patient. I plan my routes to go by bathrooms no matter what I'm doing. It's incredibly frustrating. And it's not about having weak muscles or no control for me. I can hold it, but it is excruciating to do so because my body is sending me that signal constantly.
This is also one of the main reasons we choose disney as our vacation spot. I know where every single restroom is and even with DAS, go before I get in the line and am busting to go again by the time I get off the longer attractions like FOP, ROR, Soarin. I've had to leave each of those rides (plus many more) for bathroom trips before I started using DAS. Getting back to my family was such a difficult task that I often just missed out. I'm very grateful for being able to ride things with my family with the assistance of this pass.
I agree about it being mainly a women's issue therefore no one is really trying to solve it. Hugs! Most people simply cannot fathom how debilitating this can be.