Unfriendly neighbors

[just4today]

OP- I have a couple of questions.
Why would you ask this woman to drive your child anywhere? You have said that you don't know really know her and she barely waves hello to you. Why would it even occur to you to ask her to do you a favor? Also- how did she treat your child when she did drive her? You said her DD is just as unfriendly. Are your children friendly at all to these people? Oh- and yeah, if her kid was threatening to burn my home down I would have aleady been over there to talk to her about it. While I understand that you want to be neighborly etc. and I try to be that way too, she really isn't interested and it is almost like you are pushing yourself on her. I would just pretend she doesn't exist. We can't like everyone and everyone can't like us. Good luck!

I have only asked her twice in the last year, and it was because I had absolutely no other choice. I am a single mother with no close friends or relatives in the area. Her kids and my kids are involved in the same activities. I didn't think we needed to be BFF's to have her give my kids a ride home. I figured if she really hated us, she would have said no. My kids did not mention that they were treated badly. Like I said, the woman has always been cordial and very accomodating when I have spoken to her in person.

The reason I have not "been over there to talk to her about it" is because I want to try to make the relationship better, not worse. The threat to burn down our house happened before the final incident on the bus last spring. That is when I decided I had reached my limit., and when I finally decided to talk to the asst. principal at the school. The asst. principal spoke to the boy and, hopefully, impressed upon him the need for him to cut the crap. There have been no more incidents with him (that I know of) since then. Had there been, getting the parents involved would have been the next step.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I have only asked her twice in the last year, and it was because I had absolutely no other choice. I am a single mother with no close friends or relatives in the area. Her kids and my kids are involved in the same activities. I didn't think we needed to be BFF's to have her give my kids a ride home. I figured if she really hated us, she would have said no. My kids did not mention that they were treated badly. Like I said, the woman has always been cordial and very accomodating when I have spoken to her in person.

The reason I have not "been over there to talk to her about it" is because I want to try to make the relationship better, not worse. The threat to burn down our house happened before the final incident on the bus last spring. That is when I decided I had reached my limit., and when I finally decided to talk to the asst. principal at the school. The asst. principal spoke to the boy and, hopefully, impressed upon him the need for him to cut the crap. There have been no more incidents with him (that I know of) since then. Had there been, getting the parents involved would have been the next step.

Sorry, that makes sense. I wasn't trying to flame, just trying to maybe see where she was coming from. I would just ignore. She sounds like a whacko.

 

[PghLybrt]

Since she and her DH (who seems nice enough) have moved here, the cops have been at her house 5-6 times in the last 3 years.


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OMG I am not friends with my neighbors and this made me wonder what they think of me! (Not that I care) My cousin is a local cop and frequently comes over, I would say once every other month he comes over while on duty to use my bathroom or get a drink. He always leaves and yells while he is walking out of the door :I told you last time, I do not want to come back to this house. Understand!". To all of us it is very funny, but now I wonder if the neighbors think he is serious.


As for unfriendly neighbors I have horrible ones! We meet with our attorney on Tuesday for a face to face regarding them!

 

[kidzmom3]

This is just my two cents. I have a very busy life. 3 kids, full time job, coaching my daughters cheer team, gs leader. When my neighbors moved, I made a conscious decision to not get involved with the new neighbors AT ALL. I don't want to look out for them and I don't want them to look out for me. I don't want them to ask me for any favors and I will do the same. I don't want to stop, chat, walk together etc...... Maybe this makes me the wicked witch, but I don't think so. Now, I am not rude and will nod to a wave, but I don't wave back and if I saw them first at a store etc... I would try very hard for them not to notice me. Also, and this is not an attack on the OP just a comment on this type of situation. Just because my kids are going to the same place as anothers, that does not mean I have the time or inclination to drive your kids too. Maybe I have plans, before or after. Maybe the morning before school is crazy and hectic. Maybe I am a witch in the morning Who Knows????

 

[just4today]

Just because my kids are going to the same place as anothers, that does not mean I have the time or inclination to drive your kids too. Maybe I have plans, before or after.

I understand what you're saying. I would think if I asked her to give my kids a ride and she had plans, she would say "I'm sorry but I have plans." And that would be perfectly reasonable.

 

[GoingBald]

The threat to burn down our house happened before the final incident on the bus last spring. That is when I decided I had reached my limit.,

and when I finally decided to talk to the asst. principal at the school. The asst. principal spoke to the boy and, hopefully, impressed upon him the need for him to cut the crap.


There have been no more incidents with him (that I know of) since then. Had there been, getting the parents involved would have been the next step.

This would definitely put you on my "do not associate with: list"

 

[just4today]

This would definitely put you on my "do not associate with: list"

Yes, I understand that except this was going on before the talk took place, and to my knowledge the parents were not contacted. Now, the kid may have told his parents, but let's be realistic here. If you were him, would you tell your parents you got spoken to by the asst. principal if you didn't have to? You make it sound like I was wrong to do what I did when in fact her child racially harrassed my children several times before that and I overlooked it. I could have made a very big stink about it and caused their family a lot of inconvenience by getting the kid suspended from the bus.

The only conclusion I can draw is that they truly are racists and she just doesn't have the courage to be racist to my face. Or, she's jealous of me for some reason (no - I've never even met her husband in person and I'm older than him by at least 10 years anyway). Maybe I'm completely off base, but I'll probably never know.

 

[Handbag Lady]

My husband is a great guy but he's not naturally the "friendly" and outgoing type. He's a bit shy, too.

So of course, I'm the bubbly one who makes life-long friends in line for the tram at Disneyland.


Recently, we heard this loud crash bang thwwwwwoooonnngggg noise outside our home. We rush outside and it is our neighbor trying to move a full-size bed in by himself. The thwwwwooooonnnnggg was a box spring of some sort.

My husband immediately rushes to help and our neighbor has this look of sheer surprise on his face. It was funny, because I know DH to be wonderful but I guess the neighbor never got so much of a smile out of DH before. It was like an "it lives!" moment.