Unexpected Guests

[legalsea]

I hate unexpected people! The past day or two I have been deluged with unexpected callers.

First, early yesterday morning, it was Senator McCain, asking me for my vote. I tried to politely close the door but he looked so sad and forlorn and kept saying 'please' so pitifully that I finally promised him that I would "think about it". He then went away a little happier.

Later, while I was showering, the doorbell rang and it was Senator Obama! I stood there wrapped in my towel, dripping wet, and he just didn't get the hint that I was busy. He simply would not stop talking! I kept saying "yes, yes, you're right' or "I never thought about that", or "I really have to get going", but he just kept saying the same things over and over. Finally, when I told him that Senator McCain was down the street canvassing some people he took off running in that direction.

Then, last night, the blasted bell started ringing like a banshee. I opened the door, reluctantly (for I could hear loud voices) and it was BOTH Palin and Biden! They apparently arrived at my door at the same time and were arguing with each other about who rang the bell first. Utterly ignored me. When one started threatening to 'skin' the other while the other retorted 'you and what moose' (I'm still not sure who said what), I simply banged the door shut.

And you know what? They are STILL on my porch! Simply won't let it go but keep screeching at each other! My only hope is that some of those Watchtower people will come by and scare them off.

I tell you, if Ron Paul shows up.........

 

[mom2boys77]

My dad does this all the time. I can't stand it. It's not so much that I don't want him to come over but he usually comes when the kids are in school and I'm trying to get all of my stuff done around the house before I have to go get them. I don't want to be rude but then I'm annoyed because I had to stop what I was doing to entertain him. I really wish he'd call. I do not stop by anyone's house without calling first.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

I like company, but I need a warning. I hate people just showing up. I have plans or sometimes I'm in a mood where I just don't want to see or deal with anyone. I really need people to plan and give me warning..I love plans. Plans are good. Luckily we don't really have a whole lot of people who would just drop by unannounced, so it's not something I have to deal with often.

 

[terri01p]

 

[Mom2Nick]

If someone showed up at your doolr unannounced would that make you mad? I mean like really furious. I mean sometimes it's inconvenient or your on your way out the door, but would you be overly mad/furious if someone didn't call first.

In my family and with my friends, while it's polite to call first, it's not a big deal if you have the occasional unexpected visitor.

I'm just curious as to what you all think...about someone getting furious about an unexpected visitor especially if it's a friend or relative that you're on good terms with.

It would depend on who it is and what the situation was. I have had friends and family that live here drop in for a few minutes - but when my in-laws who live almost 2 hours away - "just drop in" in it drives me insane. They know they're coming - why can't they call, wait to be invited or ask us out by them if they want to see the kids?

Things like that when it's definitely NOT just a "stopping by" thing do make me furious.

 

[lecach]

I am not a fan of the pop in/drop in at it. It doesn't make me furious but it highly annoys me. I don't understand why people can't call first?

I have never just showed up at someone's door unannounced either.

Same here. Honestly, I don't really like visitors at all. But I really dislike the pop in. Luckily it rarely happens to us. But I think it's rude - it's like assuming that we have nothing better to do than drop everything for them. I wouldn't get furious but I wouldnt be happy either. And I don't think I would change any plans for them.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

During the daytime? I am just so not comfortable unless I am up and dressed, only time I would stay in pj's is if I was really really sick. I get up and hop right in the shower then get dressed in the morning even if I am not going out and then I don't put my nightgown on until just before I am getting into bed at night.

Yep, I work 3pm to 11:30pm and the first thing I do when I get home is put on my nightie, then when I get up in the morning, I shower about noon and then don't get dressed until about 2pm, so I ust wear my nightie. Now, sometimes, I wear what my mom called a house dress, but it is also just a nightie. I hate wearing clothes and would wear my nightie to work if I could. Why dirty clothes if you don't have to?

Suzanne

 

[PrincessKitty1]

I would not be furious, but I don't like drop-ins at all. There's really no excuse for not calling first.

Luckily, the rare times we've had people drop in, the house has looked great, but if somebody stopped by right now I wouldn't let them in! I would have no problem telling the the house wasn't clean enough for visitors.

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't mind drop-ins.

If I had plans I wouldn't change them because osmeone dropped in...I'd merely say "Oh my goodness we were just on our way out. Can we reschedule another day for a visit?".

If I had someone who dropped in all the time and expected to be taken with us when we went places, I'd have to have a little heart-to-heart with them.

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

I hate drop-ins... and would likewise never drop in on anyone....

I think it is rude to assume that somebody has nothing better to do than drop what they are doing for you.

jmho.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Since I work from 8 am to 7 pm, any unexpected guest would usually have to wait a while for me to get home.


Then, if they came inside, they'd see my pile or laundry/ironing and then run away screaming!

 

[EthansMom]

It depends on who it is, how long they plan to stay and what time of day it is.

Dropping in for a quick chat? No problem. But any visit longer than 15 or 20 minutes is likely to put a crimp in my plans.

I also dislike drop-ins at bad times. I have ILs who like to stop by at about 4 p.m. on a weekend and then wait around until I invite them to stay for dinner. It's really a pain when I have to stretch our family dinner to include 2 more adults who are BIG eaters. I have another IL who will occasionally stop by to visit at 8:30 p.m. or so... right after the kids have gotten in bed and when DH and I are winding down and want peace and quiet.

Also, don't call my house and tell me you'll be visiting from out of town and would like stay at our house and, oh, by the way, "we'll be there in an hour". Along those same lines, when you're planning on coming to my house, don't call me the hour you're expected to arrive (from a 5 hour drive) and tell me that you aren't coming... at that point, I've already cleaned the house, stocked the refrig. and have dinner on the stove.

 

[binny]

the door is always open if we are home.

I know this drives some people crazy but my friends all know that if I home they can come over. We have an open door policy my neighbours all know each other and for the most part we really like each other. We have a neighbourhood mums group that gets together every week, we take turns hosting and everyone is welcome.


Like another poster, if I am not cooking we will order pizza or others will potluck.

I love it like this. I have never lived in a neighbourhood like this and I am glad we moved here.