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[JadeDarkstar]

my parents may want to meet us in Disney land.. omg i dont think i could get them the deal i got on the hotel. They want there own room well so do we i know my dh wouldn't want to share a room with them but damn.. I mean it could be fun but it also could be hell my mom and sister..we get along some times lol very rarely since disney world trip in 06..ok ok *takes a deep breath* if they did come we could all have a good time. My mom and me can get along grate as long as my annoying little sister wears something that matches and stuff.. sometimes i just cant stand how she dosnet care what he looks like or how she embarrasses us. I have tried to help her out so much with the wight with the clothe I have went and bought her things. she has out grown them.

Ok what would you all do in my place.. i know it will be fine earthier way and theres no finel yes from my dad. (hes been in serious acdent this year and its messed alot of things up including money so I my self dont see how they can) but he asked me what i was spending i said 2500 about give or take. hes like do you think 700 per person would work i said i guess if you dont count food and gas and suviners. he said humm well maybe we will meet you in disney land lol)

 

[TiggerandTink]

ok, deep breath... and again....

Now, your parents probably know already that you have booked your hotel so they are probably expecting having to book their own accommodations although they may look to you for help. Just be upfront and tell them that you have already booked your room and were able to get a great rate but that you don't know if you could find that same rate again. Would they mind staying at a different hotel or offsite if they could find a good deal? It will all work out and I bet you could all have a great time.

The same type of thing happened to me with our family trip to WDW. I had asked my parents if they would like to go (actually had invited the whole family, I have 4 brothers with families, what was I thinking ). My mom had said no so we went ahead and made all our plans, booked the hotel, scheduled the ADRs, planned the parks to visit every day, etc. and then she says that now they want to go. At first it was like because now I had to change everything and she expected me to do it all for them too. But after many deep breaths we were able to get it all worked out. There were no rooms available for our days at the Movies where we were staying so we booked them at Music right next door and that worked out good. Gave us all a break in the evening but they were close so we could all meet up in the morning. I had to change all the ADRs and since we were now closer in to the trip I couldn't get the same times and in some cases the same days so it did require a bit of rework in the planning. Then a few weeks before we are supposed to leave my brother and his girlfriend decide they want to go too...UGGHH. They roomed with my parents and didn't spend all their time with us but it did mean that I had to change a couple of ADRs again. But you know what, after all that work and frustration at times, it was a wonderful trip and I was so glad that we were all there together. It was well worth it.

 

[JadeDarkstar]

oh wow well i am glade i havent made the dinning things and its 4months away. if this happens im telling him give me 1060 and ill get you the park tickets and the food thing and we all go to the charcter meals. and have grate time togetehr Heck wed have baby sitters and stuff in case we wanted alone time lol

my DH said oh hell no if there going were all gona fit in that huge truck toss our things in the back and go NO bus we give them 50 or 75 in gas and walla
lol
then i was thinkign well our room holds 6
we did want like space and stuff we have two queens and a pull out couch.
My sister and son can sleep on couch hell we did it in WDW and we had a good time once there. just my mom was drunk the night we left so she didnt drive at all there (it had been her bday the night before we left lol)
If they staied in our room id charge like 500 and theres my spending money hehehe
That kinda spoiled the trip but we did have fun we did have alot of fun and have tons of pics I was in wheel chair then this time imgetting a ECV tho i told them that for sure they were like your feet are still bad..i said they never healed my dad was mad and still says i should of sued the job all well

I am taking slower breaths now and think it will be ok ill just have to buy my sister like a week worth cloth just so she can match..hay ill say merry early christmas/Bday lol (newyears baby)

 

[TiggerandTink]

See - there is the attitude! Of course you can make it work, and like you said if they can help pay for the room and save you some money then you would have more for souveniers and such.

 

[JadeDarkstar]

my dh really dosnet like that idea much lol but he says its up to me if we decied to do it he syas he gets some nice gift to make up for the lack of privecy lol

 

[avalon451]

Wow, that would make me crazy, too. What a way to throw a wrench in your plans!

I think if I were you I'd definitely try to arrange for a separate room for them. Don't you think that since you and your sister kind of get on each other's nerves, that you'd do better for the whole trip, if you had your own place to be separate at night, for a little break? I'd seriously lose my mind if I had to share with my parents at this point in life. I love them dearly but I need my space, you know?

About your sister's clothes, I'm kind of surprised that bugs you so much. Maybe you could try to just let that part of it go-- she has to be responsible for her own appearance, you know? She is who she is, no matter how embarrassingly she dresses. For the sake of peace it might work better to just let some things slide.

It sounds like you are optimistic enough to make this work out great... Just... breathe... yeah! And pack your patience! Hope it all works out. Keep us posted, please!

 

[bumbershoot]

My mom died 8 years ago so it never came up, but I loved her VERY much and we were VERY close, but there would have been no way at all that either one of us would have been OK sharing a room unless it was a trip for just the 2 of us. She never knew me married, but I absolutely know she would have felt it incredibly inappropriate to stay in the same room with me and hubby.

So I'd give them a list of hotels and their phone numbers, and let them find their own places, and that's very likely as far as I would go, even for my beloved mom if she were still around.

I too don't understand why your sister's clothes bother you, but then my own sister is 25 years younger than me and she mystifies me in most ways (why she wants to be a cheerleader next year in 9th grade is beyond me, let alone take on the risks of being the "flyer", the one thrown in the air). But I don't think either one of us would care what the other wears...my friends with closer in age sisters get bugged by the strangest things that the other one is doing, so I guess it's normal for sisters, but overall I'm glad I have 3 brothers close to my age and then the sister who could be my daughter.

 

[kylieh]

I'm pretty much with everyone else - there is no way I would let my parents share a room with DH & I; or his parents. Perphaps give your mum the contact info for your hotel, and others in the area, then she can book for herself.

Not having a sister myself, I can't advise on your sister; but I understand that you like her looking her best. Perhaps next time she is shopping for clothes, you could tag along, a girls shopping trip. And in the meantime, keep setting a good example for her.

 

[Danauk]

I agree with everyone else in regards to your parents sharing a room with you, it would not be a good idea. We are taking my parents for their 1st Disney experience to Disneyland Paris in October, our treat for their 40th wedding anniversary. We are booking 2 rooms, no doubt about that one!! Could you explain that your parents might not get the same deal as you but that they still might be able to book into the same hotel.
I too do not have a sister but don't understand why you want her to match you. What about her clothes do you not like? What does she do to embarrass you? If her clothes are not offensive to others I can't see the problem.
Different people have different styles.

I hope you are able to work something out and that you have a trip filled with lots of nice family memories.

 

[JadeDarkstar]

well I need to talk to my dad i found room for 109 a night im thinking of calling and holding it just in case
But if not we do have enough room for them and stuff and ited save them money my dad has paid alot for me (steap dad) and he dosnet have to never had to give me 100 each paycheck he still would be if this car acdent hadnt messed him up so bad.

My sister wheres what ever she can find that fits thats cheap. and usely its like rags or..idk what it just dosent look good to walk out the house looking like that..i mean i my self can wear three or 4 out fits in a whole week and be fine. I dont have to look better then every one or have to have make up or anything just to look like idk..she just drives me nuts not listenign to anything any of us say to her. she has adhd and a bunch other things to
But i think ill call and hold a 2 queen

 

[JadeDarkstar]

well becouse they want to be next to us i saves another spa room 140 a night and the 109 room wasnt avalibule so well its saved just in case they come..hell whats bad is i had 2 rooms saved at 99 anight but then a friedn cancled so we let that room go next time im just keeping rooms tillim like a week to the vacation..dang how did i know my dad would toss a curve ball in our plans..lol

 

[DoomBugger]

It's just a room. You sleep and then leave it empty the majority of the time. If it means you can spend time with your family and everyone gets along, it's really not a big deal.

Later in life you might regret you didn't spend that time with the family just because a little privacy was lost.

Hey, if you NEED to use the room privately with the spouse just go make a daytime visit for a couple hours while they explore the parks! wink wink

 

[audrabolster]

I agree with Doom! It's great to find a way to save money on your trip for souveniers, etc.

 

[JadeDarkstar]

hehe well im glade i saved the room now weather or not my dad will want to pay that much for there own room or wather we just share the room (I mean it is a suiet the kids would have there own room) and two tvs.
if he dosnet think he can aford 700 for the hotle then we can combind. but having things saved just in case works too. After i talk to him he may tell me is there a cheaper hotle around idk that id find it for them but im keeping my room has jucizy tub hehe
He had said could i get it to 700 per person. well the tickets and food thing like us would be 1100 or about for same as us so wed all go to the charcter meals togetehr my mom would love that not once has she been able to go

the last time she was in disneyland she was bummed becosue we were going to go to goffys kitchen but stuff happened.
So this time if shes going im going to insest my dad gives me the money and I book it all that way she gets as fun a trip as us.
And the halloween party and maybe fantasmic

 

[JenDisneylandlver]

I'm also quite close to my Mom, we live like 5 miles from eachother, and are always helping eachother out ect... But when we went to DL last October we both had separate rooms at the GCH. They were adjoining rooms though, and most of the time we left the doors open between us. There was three of us in our room (DH, me, and DS). The extra space and privacy was a must. I don't care how close of family you are, it's needed. LOL

 

[JadeDarkstar]

lol my DH totaly thinks the same thing lol