Ummm ok what do you want me to do ?

[DisneyMama409]

My 2 year old ds JUST got off his school bus. (He goes to an early intervention school for autism for 2 hours a day)The bus driver told me that my ds is making a funny noise as she drives and its high pitched and very distracting. I said Ok She than elaborated and said that he always makes noise on the bus . He is very excited when he gets on his school bus . What am I supposed to do ? He's 2 years old but cognitively 6 months old!! I was puzzled as to why she confronted me about it in such a hostile manner.She said she "Can't deal with it anymore" as if she will tell the bus company she cant drive my ds home . WOW....Isnt that what the matron is on the bus for?! To make sure the kids are OK and safe on the bus. If It bothers you so much than why does'nt the matron entertain him ,give him a toy, sing songs ...seriously he's only on the bus for 30 minutes ! I rode the school bus with him to school when he first started and he was very excited and stimming /making noise. I tried everything to get him to stop and he would'nt . He is just too young/does'nt understand. The first driver/matron is understanding. (The driver that picks him up is not the same as the driver that brings him back) They have never complained about ds and they usually have the radio on and are talking with the kids entertaining them. I rode the bus with my dd when she was in EI and they had loud kids on the bus who made noise/stimmed and the driver never complained . It's just something you deal with it when you are working with kids that have disabilities. Im pretty offended that she confronted me about this. OK you are telling me for what reason? I can't ride the bus back with him .

 

[Kat77]

Sorry you have to deal with this. ITA, there is nothing you can do, and nothing wrong with your tot making noises, he is excited. Even NT toddlers make lots of noise in the car.
Call the school first thing tomorrow and let them know what was said. I would ask that someone resolve the situation immediately because it is insane to be that frustrated with a two year old you only deal with for 30 minutes a day.

 

[disneydreamer98]

Sounds like they need to look for a new bus driver! Seriously....he's only 2 years old!

 

[It'sWDW4me]

Sounds like they need to look for a new bus driver! Seriously....he's only 2 years old!

ITA! Maybe driving a special needs kids' bus is the right job for this person?

 

[bookwormde]

If your child will tollerate hearing protectors, try them for a day or 2 and see if it makes any diffenerence, remembers our kids often have sensory capabilites will beyound typical kids and may well be reacting to or minicing something that he is hearing, that is not percieved by others. Just a thought, but I have seen this on a few occasions.

This does not mean that they should not be able to transport your child, just sounds like they need a bus driver with less sensory issues.

bookwormde

 

[C&G'sMama]

Really?
You're driving a bus with young children, with add'l issues (besides being young children) and you can't tolerate noise? Maybe try driving a bus of middle schoolers in any district and you'll be begging to go back to the toddlers.

It's your job!!!

 

[DisneyMama409]

We'll see how things go today! Thanx for backing me I was begining to think I was the nuts one!! I just dont see what she expects me to do !? It's like she wanted me to scold him and if she says anything today Im going to tell her TOUGH deal with it . Now Im a bit peeved because if she's so frusterated who's to say she wont cover his mouth up or something else crazy like that!? If I notice so much as a scratch on my ds I will totally lose it.

 

[toodycat]

If the bus driver can't deal with noisy kids and she drives them to EI, she is not suited to her work and has no right to complain. I would call the bus company and let them know what she said and how she said it. Maybe they can change her route to high school students...they don't make noise

 

[minkydog]

Really?
You're driving a bus with young children, with add'l issues (besides being young children) and you can't tolerate noise? Maybe try driving a bus of middle schoolers in any district and you'll be begging to go back to the toddlers.

It's your job!!!

Isn't that the truth! My 15yo son, Christian, is nonverbal but very vocal. He grinds his teeth, hums, whistles, grunts, growls, and occasionally hoots. It's just who he is. Since he functions on the level of a 1yo(a 120-lb 1yo ) there is nothing to be done about it. Everyone from bus drivers to teachers to lunch ladies right on down to siblings have had to learn to deal with it. Is it fun to listen to grind, grind, grind? Not as much as you'd think but what can we do?

Your child sounds happy and delightful. That old biddy(or old goat) needs to get over it and do her/his job. And if special needs isn't her calling, perhaps she *should* transfer to the middle or high school. Or elementary school, for that matter. In my district, the special ed buses are considered the "plum" jobs. You have to drive the other routes for several years before you get a shot at the short bus.

 

[EllenFrasier]

First I would be angry that a person who was responsible for driving a special needs bus would be complaining about the child with the special needs!

Then I would be worried about my child. Call the bus garage or the school, whoever is responsible for the bus driver - and tell them exactly what happened and why you are concerned for your child's well being.

 

[sunshine74]

You should call the school or the bus company and tell them about the conversation with the driver. They need to know that this driver is not a good fit. It's hard enough being the parent of a special needs child. Those that are PAID to assist your child should not be making you feel even worse!!