Uh-oh! Sis not wanting to go to DL....help??! All's Well :)

[PigletGurl]

Hi guys! I have a problem here. Sis just told me she only wants to do DL from 8 -10am all of our 8 full days at DLR. Im like what? SHe says she wants to go only a couple of hours after it opens and spend the rest of the time at DCA. Trust me, I LOVE DCA! But, only 2 hours of DL? She just decided this now, and im afraid shes gonna ruin our family trip. See im 18, shes 13, and shell def pull one of her temper tantrums and of cours mom and dad will only try and please her, and i def dont wanna go by myself to DL. I wanna enjoy eeverything as a family. What can i do or say to convince sis that disneyland is totally awesome? I cant seem to convince her.

 

[disney-inspired]

Hi guys! I have a problem here. Sis just told me she only wants to do DL from 8 -10am all of our 8 full days at DLR. Im like what? SHe says she wants to go only a couple of hours after it opens and spend the rest of the time at DCA. Trust me, I LOVE DCA! But, only 2 hours of DL? She just decided this now, and im afraid shes gonna ruin our family trip. See im 18, shes 13, and shell def pull one of her temper tantrums and of cours mom and dad will only try and please her, and i def dont wanna go by myself to DL. I wanna enjoy eeverything as a family. What can i do or say to convince sis that disneyland is totally awesome? I cant seem to convince her.

I'm 19

Why only DCA?
See if you guys can have like a family meeting and compromise. DCA is great but you can finish everything in one day. Disneyland has way more to do and takes a lot longer. I would try to suggest one day starting at Disneyland and then maybe go back to your hotel around 2pm if anyone wants to nap or swim and then do DCA at night and another day the reverse. If everyone is up for it, just do DL half day and DCA half. You can rotate which park you'll go to first every day.

Have fun!

Oh and mention to your sister, if she has it her way she won't be able to ride Splash Mt, Space Mt, Big Thunder, Matterhorn, Indiana Jones, POTC, Haunted Mansion. Those are some of the best rides and if you only have 2 hours or less in DL you won't be able to ride all because of the summer lines. DCA only has TOT, Screamin', Soarin', and GRR as their "big ticket" rides.

 

[jernysgirl]

It would help to know what her argument is..... Does she think that DL is going to be too childish and DCA is more for adults? IMHO, I think that she is going to be dying of boredom spending pretty much all day, for 8 days in DCA. Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy DCA too, but there really isn't 8 days worth of things to do just at DCA.

Maybe explain to your parents, that although you know that your sis doesn't want to hang out in DL all day, there are things that you definitely want to do there. Tell them your concerns and ask them to be fair. I know that things can always work out differently when there though, and if they are trying to calm a hysterical teenage girl they might be tempted to give in. Maybe try giving them the sad puppy dog eyes and reminding them that you all came TOGETHER.

Overall, just be patient with her and maybe if you give your sis a few days to to what she wants at the beginning of the trip, then maybe you will get the second half of the trip to do what you wanted. Don't push her hard, she might push back even harder. Young teenage girls can do that.

Hopefully by the time your trip comes, you will all have full and only argue about the normal sister things instead of about DL! And if you do get some time in DL by yourself....... have fun!

 

[Queenbillabong]

I can relate - we're at DL right now and my DS12 wants to spend every minute possible in DCA! He just loves Screamin and could do it ALL DAY LONG. As a matter of fact, he rode it 12 times yesterday! We had early entry so we did lots at DL before heading over, but now he's addicted and wants to go there all the time..... But he did have fun in DL as well, it's just that DCA is his fave. Maybe it's the age group??

 

[M 'n C]

It would help to know what her argument is.....

This should help you http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1819166

OP good luck. I agree 2 hours at DL is not enough and would frustrate me as well. I hope yall get it worked out.

 

[PigletGurl]

hehe i just saw her post right now lol

 

[kaoden39]

You know you were saying that you don't want to do Disneyland by yourself when I was your age I loved doing Disneyland by myself. I could do what I wanted when I wanted. My DH and I are going to Disneyland on a second honeymoon and he is going for a bike ride one day and I am thrilled to have that time to myself. It may just be for one morning but I am already making plans. Just go with the flow. I have a 13 year old daughter and she tends to argue just to argue. Don't worry about it it will work out in the end. Just have fun!

Michele

 

[Blackunicorn]

13 can be such a difficult age. And I know from experience that someone can make the entire trip miserable if they choose to behave poorly. One of the things I did to try to coerce good behavior out of my son on our upcoming trip was to get him involved in the planning. I asked him what rides and restaurants he felt were essential to having a good time on the trip. He does seem more interested in the trip now that he has more of a vested interest in it. I would think that it would also give you some insight into why your sister is insisting on DCA the whole trip--is it the rides? Is it embarrassment at going to a "baby park"?

Also, be flexible. You might actually enjoy some time alone in DL--it doesn't have to be the whole trip. Or your family might split up. How about some alone time with mom? Or dad? Even little sister? The thing I love about DL over WDW is that it is *so* easy to walk between the parks. You can spend every day at both parks, if you want.

Good luck! I have faith that with a little planning you can all have a good trip.

 

[DoomBugger]

Don't worry about it. Be the smarter, more crafty older sister. Less is more, meaning don't say much of anything about it when she mentions her intentions and just go with the fact that once you get into DL in the morning you will all (including her) be having such a good time and enjoying DL that many more hours will go by by the time she realizes she really wants to go and then give her what she wants, go over to CA for awhile. That way everyone will get along better and the vacation is off to a good start, this might make her come around.

Basically politely ignore and downplay her intentions and then once on the trip make her feel as if she got what she wanted when she didn't.

 

[wishspirit]

After reading both threads, i think you both dont feel you are being listened to, therefore causing more and more conflict.

You both need to sit down (without trying to outdo the other) and say your reasons behind wanting to spend longer at DL (suggesting more rides, longer queue lines etc) and her explaining why she wants to do DCA more ('scarier rides' and more shows maybe). I think a day at DL then a day at DCA is the best compromise. If you limit yourself time wise to the whole 8-10 thing, if you don't get on a ride you want to do, it could cause more problems.

Remember it is a trip for both of you, and the trip will be SO much nicer if you guys get along (trust me, i know, i have a sister 2 years older than me). It will also stop your parents get so harrased, and more likely to stop off in some of the shops . So try your best to get along (i know its not always easy) and think that this may be one of your last family holidays together if your sister is graduating!

Remember this isn't a battle between you. You need to work together to get the best out of your holiday.

Have a great trip guys, and have fun!

 

[PigletGurl]

Thanks for your advice everybody. We talked this morning and agreed to spend 3 full days at DL, and 5 days were will be hopping back and forth. Those days are not all together though cuz the trip is two weeks long, so i hope we wont be tired out lol
And, yeah its all about having fun together, a good time, especially since we come all the way from Puerto Rico. WDW is so much closer but we choose DLR because we think it is so much more fun.

 

[jernysgirl]

I am so glad to see that it looks like you are working things out. How does your sister feel about this plan?

 

[PigletGurl]

She admitted today that she actually wanted to do more time at DL, but she was just afraid to admit it. lol But were happy now, and excited for the planning.

 

[Corpsebride]

Well it seems you have it worked out, but to me your sister suffers from some sort of mouse like Definciancy. She may freak out at the gate and change her mind. Its rare but I have seen it. Heres what you do.

Get her in the gate.
The appropriate head gear will be needed, I suggest Mickey ears.
She will need to know that she wont starve while she is there, so a Churro and Dole whip will be needed STAT!
To make sure she is completely out of combative mode, I suggest that you all sing the Mickey Mouse March all while briskly walking to Space mountain, that way she will see , hear and feel the Joyful Disney Experience.
This may be the only thing to save her.
Good luck. And God Speed.

 

[PigletGurl]

Well it seems you have it worked out, but to me your sister suffers from some sort of mouse like Definciancy. She may freak out at the gate and change her mind. Its rare but I have seen it. Heres what you do.

Get her in the gate.
The appropriate head gear will be needed, I suggest Mickey ears.
She will need to know that she wont starve while she is there, so a Churro and Dole whip will be needed STAT!
To make sure she is completely out of combative mode, I suggest that you all sing the Mickey Mouse March all while briskly walking to Space mountain, that way she will see , hear and feel the Joyful Disney Experience.
This may be the only thing to save her.
Good luck. And God Speed.

That's a great idea

 

[wishspirit]

Im so glad you worked it out!

At least your sis likes DL, my sister hates it! Oh well, each to their own i suppose!

Hope you have a great time!