Ugh! Who else has that one person in their life

[Mouse House Mama]

who just says whatever comes to mind to whoever is there? I swear it is like they have no common sense and think it is okay to say anything - even to people they don't know!- no matter how obnoxious it is! Of course it is someone that you just can't cut out of your life but you'd like to tape their mouth shut. It is so embarrassing!
Anyone else?

 

[jfoofj]

Oh yes... in my group of friends we call it "missing the filter". We all do it on occasion but I have one friend who thinks a thougt and it comes right out her mouth... no filter... at least you always know she will tell you when your butt looks big in a pair of jeans!

 

[wdwfan16]

I work with her. She makes for many interesting meetings.

 

[cepmom]

I have one....my stepfather. Says whatever comes to mind. We also say he is "missing the filter" A few weeks ago, he asked my DD19, who is in college, if she had ever tried pot. In itself, I guess the question is harmless, but he asked her at the dinner table at DD12's birthday party in front of her other grandparents, DH and I and DD12. Do you really think that's appropriate to ask at a family dinner? DD just rolled her eyes at him

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

I have a friend like that. She and I went out for drinks the other night. I've put on about ten pounds lately and I'm working on losing it. But she was looking at me like she was trying to figure something out and when I asked her why, she had the nerve to say "I'm just trying to figure out how much weight you've put on." I came so close to telling her she could pay for her own beer (I was treating) and walking out of the bar.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Unfortunately I think everyone has at least one person in their life that behaves in that manner. I feel blessed to only have one person who behaves that way and yet I know of other close friends who have multiple family members who have behave that way.

 

[C&G'sMama]

My 6yo aspie son. "Is that a man or a lady" "Why does she look like a man?" To his 1st grade teacher "Your classroom's okay but the other one looks better"
We had a dumpster in our driveway when we had our roof done. It was semi blocking the side door. Me: "I'm not sure I can get in the side door" DS: "Why, are you too big?"

And admittedly I'm sometimes that person. DP just rolls her eyes and pretends not to know me on these occassions.

 

[DisneyMom81]

We were at my brothers sons funeral (he was 16) and my brother introduces us to one of his co-workers, Israel. He was a tall black man and my father just blurts out "Ya don't look Jewish."

We all just stood there and rolled our eyes at him. I know my father pretty well, so I 100% knew it was coming. I think my mother wanted to knock him out right there!!! LOL At least it lightened up a terribly sad time for a bit......

 

[luvmyboys]

My sister is missing "the filter" along with a few other characteristics necessary for healthy relationships. After not seeing me for a long time, I've been greeted with "Wow. You really need to touch up your roots," and "Your fridge is much cleaner than it was last time I was here."

There is a reason I only occasionally see/speak to her!

 

[arminnie]

I was recently a guest at a dinner for 10 where I had not met about half the guests.

The woman next to me (age 85 - maybe that's an excuse) asked the waiter what was wrong with his face. I could not see his face at the time, but when he came to take my order he had a very large port wine stain that covered one side of his face.

He handled it extremely well - but I felt awful for him. What kind of an idiot asks a question like that? She did not appear to be senile. I had never met her and hope to never see her again.

 

[corinascot]

My mom! Love ya mom!

 

[paintnolish]

My late grandma (passed away at 90 last year). She would comment on people, whether they asked for her opinion or not. At my wedding, she told me how beautiful I looked, then said she hoped I did not gain the weight back I had lost. Thanks, grandma.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

My 6yo aspie son. "Is that a man or a lady" "Why does she look like a man?" To his 1st grade teacher "Your classroom's okay but the other one looks better"
We had a dumpster in our driveway when we had our roof done. It was semi blocking the side door. Me: "I'm not sure I can get in the side door" DS: "Why, are you too big?"

And admittedly I'm sometimes that person. DP just rolls her eyes and pretends not to know me on these occassions.

Yes but he is a child that even has a reason why the filter may not be a strong. A grown person (like the one I have to deal with) should know enough. It is so frustrating sometimes. Especially when you have to apologize to people for this person's behavior all the time.
We all sometimes say things that we wish we could immediately suck back in but there is always that one person who doesn't ever see anything wrong with their comments. It makes me nuts.

 

[JessicaR]

My MIL and sometimes its so bad you can see the jaws drop. She has NO filter and says what she wants when she wants. So embarrassing.

 

[MM27]

My Vice Principal is missing her filter. She is one of my least favorite people that I deal with on a daily basis. I've seen some of my coworkers, especially the brand new ones, get really upset by things she says. I've learned that she's an idiot and is going to say whatever she thinks and you really just have to ignore her. I don't let it stress me out.

 

[momof1princess]

my grandmother is that way. she's 80. at DD's birthday party last week, i had straightened my hair myself for the first time and i smiled at her and said "i straightened my hair this morning" and she said "i know, and i don't like it! it's supposed to be curly!". thanks grandma! way to build that self-esteem!

her mother, my great-grandmother, was the same way. i went to see her when she was on her deathbed (at age 92), and the first thing out of her mouth was "damn you've gotten fat!".

 

[maddmike]

It would probably be me. I refuse to be politically correct for anyone. I don't get offended by anything. If what I say is the truth and other people are offended by that truth then I feel it is there problem not mine. My family thinks I am todays version of Archie Bunker or George Jefferson. I don't set out to rub anyone wrong but I get sick of covering up major issues and problems with peace, love and happieness when something needs to be set straight.

 

[Linzybrooke]

"i straightened my hair this morning" and she said "i know, and i don't like it! it's supposed to be curly!". thanks grandma! way to build that self-esteem!

I think we have the same grandmother! Everytime I straighten my hair she tells me that it should be curly. She hates it straigth!

 

[N&B'smom]

My grandmother has started to be like this over the last couple of years. She seems to focus on people's weight. My cousin's wife had a baby and she went to see him just 3 days after. When she got home she told me my cousin's wife had a good deal of weight to lose because she was looking fat. I pointed out that she had JUST given birth 3 days prior, geez!!

She has also told my mom that she is fatter then my aunt. They have always been similar in size but she felt the need to point out that my mom is now bigger. She has also commented on my DH's weight and after he had lost weight and gained some back she said right in front of him what a shame it was that he had 'gotten heavy again'.

But with her it does seem that her every thought must come out of her mouth. We're going to Disney on Saturday and it's a surprise, the kids won't know until we wake them for the airport. I asked my mom not to tell her because loose lips sink ships. But because my mom is coming with us and they live together she felt that she needed to tell her. We were out to lunch a couple of weeks ago with my children and my grandmother brought up the trip. My mom immediately changed the subject and then my grandmother covered her mouth and then said 'oh, I keep forgetting I'm not supposed to talk about the trip'. Thankfully my kids were at the other end of the table and weren't paying any attention to her but I was ready to freak out since we've kept this a secret for a year!

 

[Nancy]

My Sister in law...boy she has a big mouth and no idea of boundaries...and totally lacks tact. At a funeral of an elderly woman she went up to the kids and said "if you're going to sell the house let me know cause I want to buy it and I'll give you a fair price"

talking to a cousins wife (he had a it too much to drink), the wife was saying how she was having some problems in the marriage and was thinking of leaving B (the cousin)....a few months later she sees wife in the mall with her mom and says "oh my gosh D, I am so happy to see you have your wedding rings on and you didn't leave B"...of course Mom knew nothing of D's problems, which really were not problems at all.


There are just so many that I hate spending any amount of time with her..and one of my friends asked "if she wasn't family would you like her?' my response was no. I only like her because she is my husbands sister...heck he isn't even all that crazy about her most times.