Tween siblings sharing bed on vacation?

[2kidsForMe]

I can't seem to find any threads on this topic. I travel to WDW every year with my son (10) and daughter (11). They have always shared a queen sized bed for sleeping when we go (last summer we were at POFQ). They don't mind at all and honestly I never thought anything of it. They are very close. Of course they like their privacy for bathroom/ changing clothes etc...but sleeping was fine. Next summer they will be 11 and 12. I guess my long winded question is are they getting too old to sleep in the same bed? What do parent with different gender tweens/teens do? Split up? Mom with daughter, dad with son? My DH usually doesn't go with us. Should we look into a suite like AoA. Bunk Beds? Thanks!

 

[Aaeolien]

My suggestion. Ask your kids. If they mind make different arrangements. If they don't then go with your original plan. They are old enough to make this choice I think.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

In my family growing up, it eventually became mom/daughter, dad/son.

 

[h518may]

Twin air mattress
My DD is extremely active at night and no one in the family wants to share a bed with her. So if the room only has two beds one of the kids sleeps on the air mattress. We stand it up during the day and they both have to use it for part of the trip. This keeps everyone in the family happy because we all get a better nights sleep.

I will say that if your kids don't have a problem with sharing a bed then I wouldn't change things.

 

[MSSANDRA]

They will let you know when it is time to rethink the arrangements. when it is, just have one of them sleep with you. Even for a boy, sleeping with mom might be ok long after sleeping with a sibling is not. I would not make any changes that cost more money.

 

[Ladygoldenhair]

If your dh isn't coming, you and dd take a bed and ds has the other. If dad goes, the ds and dh, you and dd.
It's time....

 

[SamSam]

As our children got older we did the dad/son, mother/daughter sometimes. Other times, we made a bed between the two queen size beds (on the floor) for our son (he didn't mind) and then dh and I could sleep together and dd in the other bed. Eventually we started staying at BC and had 2 queens plus a sleeper cot, but that was years ago.

 

[gwynne]

If your dh isn't coming, you and dd take a bed and ds has the other. If dad goes, the ds and dh, you and dd.
It's time....

ITA. Easy solution outlined above.
Don't wait and make the kids have to bring this up, take care of it now.

 

[2kidsForMe]

Thanks for the replies everyone. So, I decided to ask the kids how they felt about sharing a bed. They both said that they have no problem with it. In fact, my daughter said she likes sharing with her brother because it makes her feel "safe" in a strange room. My son says he doesn't care because his sister doesn't wiggle or snore (can't same the same for dad lol!). They have always been so close, like best buddies. However, I am very aware they are getting older. I don't want to do something that most people would feel is inappropriate. If it is time, then it is time.

 

[North of Mouse]

Guess my response would be different than some - I would think those ages are way too old to be sharing a bed, but then again I wouldn't have been doing it for several years. I would not be 'asking' them - I'd be telling them. JMO

 

[scrapquitler]

My suggestion. Ask your kids. If they mind make different arrangements. If they don't then go with your original plan. They are old enough to make this choice I think.

I agree with this. If it doesn't bother them, then don't give it another thought. If they don't want to sleep in the bed together, then you have other options: Mom with daughter, Dad with son, one of the kids in a sleeping bag on the floor, a different kind of room, etc.

For our family, the rule was "we are all in one room, figure out something that works" and sometimes they slept together (my daughter is 6 years older than my son), other times one of them slept on the floor, sometimes we do daughter/mom and dad/son. It doesn't matter to me as long as everybody sleeps, and I'm NOT paying for an extra room.

 

[mousefanforever]

Thanks for the replies everyone. So, I decided to ask the kids how they felt about sharing a bed. They both said that they have no problem with it. In fact, my daughter said she likes sharing with her brother because it makes her feel "safe" in a strange room. My son says he doesn't care because his sister doesn't wiggle or snore (can't same the same for dad lol!). They have always been so close, like best buddies. However, I am very aware they are getting older. I don't want to do something that most people would feel is inappropriate. If it is time, then it is time.

I think that's a good way to handle it. My kids are now 8, 12 and 13 and they are all very close. We never made it uncomfortable or made them feel weird about privacy until they started to feel like they wanted it and now they are more private but when it comes to sleeping in the same bed, I don't see the issue unless they dont want to. Some people are so strange about that for some reason?? Not me!! I don't worry about that and don't feel like it's inappropriate at all.

 

[slzer0]

I don't see anything weird with them sharing a bed. It's not like they're showering together lol, it's a bed, fully clothed.

 

[puffkin]

Guess my response would be different than some - I would think those ages are way too old to be sharing a bed, but then again I wouldn't have been doing it for several years. I would not be 'asking' them - I'd be telling them. JMO

I agree. I think it's a little weird by that age (my limit would be 10 for opposite gender siblings). If it is just the 3 going, I would do the air mattress thing. If it is 4, then I would do DM/DD and DF/DS. It wouldn't even be a discussion in my house.

 

[Laura66]

I don't get why siblings of the opposite sex sharing a bed is a big deal??? What does age have to do with it?

They are clothed - what do you think is going to happen?

 

[Dallas_Lady]

Thanks for the replies everyone. So, I decided to ask the kids how they felt about sharing a bed. They both said that they have no problem with it. In fact, my daughter said she likes sharing with her brother because it makes her feel "safe" in a strange room. My son says he doesn't care because his sister doesn't wiggle or snore (can't same the same for dad lol!). They have always been so close, like best buddies. However, I am very aware they are getting older. I don't want to do something that most people would feel is inappropriate. If it is time, then it is time.

That is super sweet My son and daughter (albeit still 6 and 8) love when they get to share a bed.