Trying to find my excitement

[BWVPam]

Last week, I posted a message about trying to get our family re-excited about our upcoming trip (next week). We had just found out our best friends were moving and the family was pretty devastated.

Things just got worse as the week went along. My dad called me to let me know that my grandmother had taken very ill and was not expected to make it. She had started to get better but then went downhill again. I headed out to Georgetown Texas on Sunday to be with the family. Well, unfortunately, my grandmother passed away on Monday, June 14. This would have been her and my grandad's 69th wedding anniversary (he died on Sept. 10, 2001) On Tuesday, we headed for Stillwater Oklahoma for her burial (where my grandad is buried) We had the funeral yesterday and I started my drive back home last night and got back to my home late this afternoon.

I am so relieved that she is not suffering anymore, but I miss her so very much. I know I have to start getting things ready for our trip (flight leaves Tuesday morning at 6:00 a.m.), but I just can't get excited about this trip. I know it would have been worse if she had taken ill while we were on vacation. I think I am just feeling some guilt about taking this vacation at this time. My family has told me to go and enjoy.

Both of my children were with me by her side when she died. This is the first death they have experienced. It seems to have had a great impact on my 9 yo daughter. Her and my grandmother were close and so very much alike. My aunt gave her many of my grandmother's favorite stuffed animals and her great collection of hats, but she keeps telling me she is so sad and misses her.

Well maybe tomorrow we can started getting back to nomral here at home and get everyone into vacation mode.

Thanks for listening,

Pam

 

[Dan Murphy]

's Pam. Your family is right, go, enjoy, though recall her memory. My best, Pam.

 

[dzneelvr]

.....maybe it's not the right time for a trip. Seems to me that if you can't get excited about even packing for it, it may be a time to stay home and be with family in this time of sorrow. Life does get in the way once and awhile......

 

[heart4pooh]

My first thought would be to let your kids know that to be really, really sad for someone passing is very normal and that your'e not going on the trip to try to cheer up. That it was planned beforehand. I'd give the kids the choice of whether or not they want to go. They probably will want to go, but will feel less forced to pass through their mourning quicker than they feel they need to. It's a tough situation. I know as an adult I wouldn't have wanted to go to WDW after my sister passed away. The memories were to vivid and the pain too deep. It took all I had to just do daily routine stuff. It's a tough call. It must have been real hard for them to be there.

 

[Snow Dog Mom]

Pam,
I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. It is so hard to lose someone so close.

I think (if it were my grandmother) she would be sad if you don't go and do as planned. Just keep talking about her and all the good times that were shared.

Again, I'm sorry about you loss and good luck with your decision. You'll know in your heart what to do.

Kim

 

[WDWLVR]

Pam, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmothers passing.

If she was anything like my mom or grandmother she would encourage you to go and enjoy things with your family.

Maybe there is something you could do in honor or her.

Did she like ice cream? Then maybe head over to Beaches and Cream and get a kitchen sink for the family in honor of her.

Is her heritage represented in Epcot? Then maybe spend some extra time there or even have a meal in that country.

Since you said she had a great collection of hats why not visit the Chapeau when you first get to the Magic Kingdom and have everyone get a hat in honor of grandma.

I'm hoping you and your family can get through the pain and let the magic of Disney bring smiles to your faces on your upcoming trip.

 

[shortbun]

I'm sorry about your losses. I hope you can find some peace and
move forward. I concur with the poster above who suggested
you honor your grandma in some way on your trip.

 

[browneyes]

I'm sorry about your grandmother. The good thing about arriving at WDW, there's so much to do, so much to see, it'll be a welcome distraction for your pain.

 

[bjgrazi]

Sorry to hear about your loss. I have to agree, go on as planned and enjoy. Those who love us would never want us to suffer. you can do a small rememberance for her.

 

[tkyes]

I think you should still go. Disney does wonders to help heal hearts. It will be great for you to spend some time with your family. You can talk, have fun and enjoy your time with eachother.

DH and I suffered a loss right before our last Disney trip. The time on the trip, away from things was the best thing for us. I agree with others, pick up a small momento on your trip that reminds you of Grandma. An ornament, a stuffed animal, something that will help you commemorate her life.

I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs to your family.


Tamie

 

[BWVPam]

Thanks everyone. I am sure as the weekend passes, we will all start to get over the shock. Even though we just got home yesterday afternoon, we let the kids be with their friends last night. I thought it best to make things as normal as possible.

Today is a new day and once I get past all of the things I have to catch up on at work today since I have been out all week, maybe then we can all get excited about getting ready for the trip.

Thanks,

Pam