fizz13
<font color=33cc99>Dreams about being stuck on Spa
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My daughter Cara, 10, went in for blood tests last week. The results came in friday but i have had to phone every day pushing for a doctor to look over them, apparently one is on holiday and its taking them longer to get through things. anyway, the upshot is I have been told she must come in today to see a doctor. Its horrible when they cant tell you anything over the phone, so i have to sweat it out till 4:50pm to find out whats wrong.
we got the tests as she, for the last few weeks or so, had days where she gets up white as a sheet, is dizzy, nauseous but not sick, and can randomly have bad stomach attacks. We had a bout of these days last year but it all seemed to calm down again, and we never knew if she was overtired, had a bug or what it was. She is a fussy eater and we have been working on improving her diet, getting vitamins down her but none of it has really made a difference. She has had so many days off, or I have had phonecalls from the school maybe 3 times a week when she is there saying she looks terrible, feels unwell, can they give her calpol? (which I'm sorry is not meant for nausea, its to bring a temperature down and she never has a temp!) so I try to get her in school but i get the phonecalls.
Anyway, cara has been very down, i would say depressed, and has lost her confidence to be honest, is prone to emotional breakdowns, tears, cant bear to be in a room alone and will follow me upstairs, is having nightmares, is terrified something is going to happen to me or her brothers, and she is on edge at school all the time, feels her friends aren't really her friends, she phones me from school using the office phone just because she is upset.
The school and i have spoken about all of this and they are willing to offer counselling which is a path i was going for anyway. Despite all of the above though, her work is outstanding (93% maths score), whatever she misses she works hard to catch up on, her teachers all say what a wonderful, kind, polite, friendly popular girl she is. she is on the swim team and has trials for the county next month, the netball and rounders team, is a prefect, is in choir, orchestra, ballet and modern dance lessons and has a lead in the end of year show.
We have said to her that she doesnt have to do it all, i worry its all too much, it would be for me, but she is happiest when she is out doing these things, they make her feel valued and she enjoys the acheivement of it all.
so, essentially i was getting the blood tests to rule out the physical side as we had a strong feeling the phsyical symptoms were stress, depression, anxiety side effects. to phone up and ask the receptionist to chase the results, and her phone me back 3 minutes later and say cara must come in this afternoon has thrown me into a spin. I am trying to rationalise that its probably anaemia or something solvable, but its making me shake.
In so many ways i have the daughter that people wish for, i couldnt ask more of her, she gives her all to everything and is so talented in every area. But now i am really scared for her, physically and emotionally.
thanks for reading all that, think i just needed to get it out, its been building for months now
we got the tests as she, for the last few weeks or so, had days where she gets up white as a sheet, is dizzy, nauseous but not sick, and can randomly have bad stomach attacks. We had a bout of these days last year but it all seemed to calm down again, and we never knew if she was overtired, had a bug or what it was. She is a fussy eater and we have been working on improving her diet, getting vitamins down her but none of it has really made a difference. She has had so many days off, or I have had phonecalls from the school maybe 3 times a week when she is there saying she looks terrible, feels unwell, can they give her calpol? (which I'm sorry is not meant for nausea, its to bring a temperature down and she never has a temp!) so I try to get her in school but i get the phonecalls.
Anyway, cara has been very down, i would say depressed, and has lost her confidence to be honest, is prone to emotional breakdowns, tears, cant bear to be in a room alone and will follow me upstairs, is having nightmares, is terrified something is going to happen to me or her brothers, and she is on edge at school all the time, feels her friends aren't really her friends, she phones me from school using the office phone just because she is upset.
The school and i have spoken about all of this and they are willing to offer counselling which is a path i was going for anyway. Despite all of the above though, her work is outstanding (93% maths score), whatever she misses she works hard to catch up on, her teachers all say what a wonderful, kind, polite, friendly popular girl she is. she is on the swim team and has trials for the county next month, the netball and rounders team, is a prefect, is in choir, orchestra, ballet and modern dance lessons and has a lead in the end of year show.
We have said to her that she doesnt have to do it all, i worry its all too much, it would be for me, but she is happiest when she is out doing these things, they make her feel valued and she enjoys the acheivement of it all.
so, essentially i was getting the blood tests to rule out the physical side as we had a strong feeling the phsyical symptoms were stress, depression, anxiety side effects. to phone up and ask the receptionist to chase the results, and her phone me back 3 minutes later and say cara must come in this afternoon has thrown me into a spin. I am trying to rationalise that its probably anaemia or something solvable, but its making me shake.
In so many ways i have the daughter that people wish for, i couldnt ask more of her, she gives her all to everything and is so talented in every area. But now i am really scared for her, physically and emotionally.
thanks for reading all that, think i just needed to get it out, its been building for months now
