Travelling with "elderly" parents.

dakotix

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Well I cringe to refer to them as elderly so lets say that they are older and move at a slower pace. My partner and i are taking my Mom (71) and his parents (69,70). They definitely move at a slower pace and we do not. So yes we're totally fine with departing from our usual marathon style of doing the parks but that leaves us with the dilemma of how to do that without it being completely boring for everyone!

What are the must do's for older adults? My mom has said she is perfectly happy hanging out at the pool and catching the shows at night but my partner's parents will do whatever we would normally do and they have to be involved with whatever we are doing (which is totally cool).

Any tips from retired folks on how to make the experience fun for our parents?
 
As you said, you'll probably need to knock down the pace a little. My Mom and I traveled together right up until she passed away at 87 years old. She was 86 on our last Disney trip.

First, do some pre-planning, find out what they particularly would like to do besides sitting at the pool. At 69 and 70, they may surprise you and want to do all the coasters and and rides, assuming they don't have motion sickness or issues that prevent them from doing so. Mom rode everything except Everest, Rockin' Roller Coaster and Tower of Terror. She didn't like drops and loops. She loved Mission Space, all the "Mountains" and Primeval Whirl. Remember that will want to take time to stop and just absorb the atmosphere of Disney, it can be mentally/emotionally overwhelming for folks that don't travel there often, no matter their age. So take the time to look around, browse through the shops and smell the roses. Parades are also a way to sit and recharge if you find a good spot to sit.

Most folks "of a certain age" enjoy a nice sit down meal to recharge. A slightly late lunch (1:00 to 2:00) worked well for Mom and I, and then a light counter service dinner. Or even just dessert for dinner ;)

A lot will depend upon how many days you plan to visit. As we were DVC we usually stayed 8 to 9 nights, and planned a down day about the middle of the trip to do laundry and relax at the resort or do Downtown Disney and shop.

Basically, it boils down to the fact that you should know your parents' needs and vacation style and try to tailor the trip to those needs. Oh, and one other thing...at MK we kind of liked getting out of the hustle and bustle of the park for lunch by hopping the monorail and going over to Grand Floridian Cafe or Kona Cafe. The elegant Victorian theme of the Grand Floridian or the floral tropical design of the Polynesian made for a nice lunch break from the park.

Have a great trip!
 
This is probably more info then you asked for, but here goes.... You could think about renting a scooter(s). This can be done at the park or an outside vendor, who will be cheaper. This made such a difference to my older husband; he's 77 now and he's been using a scooter for about 10 years. With the scooter we can do 8 to 10 hours in the park. Without the scooter you can cut the time in half. He doesn't use a scooter at home, but for amusement parks it has become necessary. The average walking is about 6 miles a day at Disney. Of course, this isn't constant walking, but it can be tiring for the older crowd.

You do need to adjust to a scooter (outside rental, here) with the Disney transportation and the crowds that will dart out in front of you. If you can get over those obstacles then it's really worth it. Not only does it speed it up going through the parks, they will be less tired as the day goes on and definitely less crabby.

Next, you need to avoid backtracking in the parks. To a certain degree with fastpass plus you may have to backtrack, but keep it all to a minimum. Less backtracking equates to less walking in the parks. Mix the attractions up with doing a few rides and then a show to sit and relax for a while. Again, do a few more rides and then get a bite to eat for another rest. Use parades and fireworks in the same way.

You should plan your day as much as possible. I would start with getting to the parks at rope drop. If you are onsite get your fastpass plus passes ahead of time through My Disney Experience. If not, that's the first thing you should do when you arrive to a park. You are allowed 3 fastpasses per day for one park. If you park hop most people are saying get fastpass plus for the second, later park. Use extra magic hours as much as possible, if you are onsite guests. The extra hour in the morning has always been delightful for us. It provides an extra cushion if you get to the back of the park before the regular guests are allowed in. It will take at least an half hour to get to the back of the park for the regulars guests.

Address any medical issues your parents may have. Some rides say no to heart conditions and some say no to those who suffer back pain. Ask good questions to see what your parents are willing to ride. Up to about 75 my hubby could handle roller coasters, now he doesn't want to do them. He feels funny in his stomach, now. You can get a Disney vacation DVD which will show some of the rides. It may help to visualize to decide which rides to do. U-tube is a good source for ride videos, too.

Depending on how adventurous your parents are will in a large part dictate what they are willing to do. My hubby will still do the Tower of Terror, but that's it. Roller coasters are a total no even Thunder Mountain or Space Mountain. Sometimes, getting in and out of a ride can present a problem if they have arthritis or similar issues. This comes into play with boat rides and coasters. A few rides have a moving sidewalk like Haunted Mansion, Buzz Lightyear, and Spaceship Earth. I would give a helping hand to whoever needs it. You can be in front of your parents and maybe your hubby could be behind them. Then, they can get help in and out of some of the rides.

The rides my hubby enjoys the most are Buzz Lightyear, It's a Small, Small World, the Riverboat, the MK train, Pirates of the Carribean, Spaceship Earth, Soarin', Test Track, Toy Story Mania, and the Safari. This doesn't mean he doesn't go on other rides; these are his favorites. Use their experience with other amusement parks. We were avid Six Flags guests and did a lot of rides, but the years make us go on less rides, now.

The parks for us are best in the morning, followed by evenings and the afternoons are the least favorite times there.

Ultimately, I would not force your parents into a long day. If they are basically homebodies it will be an effort to do Disney. My hubby and I enjoy going on vacation and we are pretty active through the years. Some like reading books, doing the computer and watching TV more than going out.
 
I agree with Bete get them a scooter would go for offside vender and make sure the person (deliver) stays until his parents understand how to use them.

Mother refused the scooter but after trying one - did the wheelchair - if I pushed.

that say his parents are pretty young and if they are in good shape - but do fine.

the problem will be getting sometime for just you two.

disney did have free wc for their guests if you staying onsite.
 

Well I cringe to refer to them as elderly so lets say that they are older and move at a slower pace. My partner and i are taking my Mom (71) and his parents (69,70). They definitely move at a slower pace and we do not. So yes we're totally fine with departing from our usual marathon style of doing the parks but that leaves us with the dilemma of how to do that without it being completely boring for everyone!

What are the must do's for older adults? My mom has said she is perfectly happy hanging out at the pool and catching the shows at night but my partner's parents will do whatever we would normally do and they have to be involved with whatever we are doing (which is totally cool).

Any tips from retired folks on how to make the experience fun for our parents?

As others have said, rent them ECVs. They will probably leave YOU in the dust! :)
 
Twelve years ago, my dh and I took his parents to Disney World. It was on my father-in-law's bucket list. We pushed wheelchairs around in July. Rent a cart! We stayed on site and made use of the bus system.
We were sure to do what they wanted - seeing all the show, riding Small World 15 times, and spending all day looking at the flowers in Epcot.
 
This is probably more info then you asked for, but here goes.... You could think about renting a scooter(s). This can be done at the park or an outside vendor, who will be cheaper. This made such a difference to my older husband; he's 77 now and he's been using a scooter for about 10 years. With the scooter we can do 8 to 10 hours in the park. Without the scooter you can cut the time in half. He doesn't use a scooter at home, but for amusement parks it has become necessary. The average walking is about 6 miles a day at Disney. Of course, this isn't constant walking, but it can be tiring for the older crowd.

You do need to adjust to a scooter (outside rental, here) with the Disney transportation and the crowds that will dart out in front of you. If you can get over those obstacles then it's really worth it. Not only does it speed it up going through the parks, they will be less tired as the day goes on and definitely less crabby.

Next, you need to avoid backtracking in the parks. To a certain degree with fastpass plus you may have to backtrack, but keep it all to a minimum. Less backtracking equates to less walking in the parks. Mix the attractions up with doing a few rides and then a show to sit and relax for a while. Again, do a few more rides and then get a bite to eat for another rest. Use parades and fireworks in the same way.

You should plan your day as much as possible. I would start with getting to the parks at rope drop. If you are onsite get your fastpass plus passes ahead of time through My Disney Experience. If not, that's the first thing you should do when you arrive to a park. You are allowed 3 fastpasses per day for one park. If you park hop most people are saying get fastpass plus for the second, later park. Use extra magic hours as much as possible, if you are onsite guests. The extra hour in the morning has always been delightful for us. It provides an extra cushion if you get to the back of the park before the regular guests are allowed in. It will take at least an half hour to get to the back of the park for the regulars guests.

Address any medical issues your parents may have. Some rides say no to heart conditions and some say no to those who suffer back pain. Ask good questions to see what your parents are willing to ride. Up to about 75 my hubby could handle roller coasters, now he doesn't want to do them. He feels funny in his stomach, now. You can get a Disney vacation DVD which will show some of the rides. It may help to visualize to decide which rides to do. U-tube is a good source for ride videos, too.

Depending on how adventurous your parents are will in a large part dictate what they are willing to do. My hubby will still do the Tower of Terror, but that's it. Roller coasters are a total no even Thunder Mountain or Space Mountain. Sometimes, getting in and out of a ride can present a problem if they have arthritis or similar issues. This comes into play with boat rides and coasters. A few rides have a moving sidewalk like Haunted Mansion, Buzz Lightyear, and Spaceship Earth. I would give a helping hand to whoever needs it. You can be in front of your parents and maybe your hubby could be behind them. Then, they can get help in and out of some of the rides.

The rides my hubby enjoys the most are Buzz Lightyear, It's a Small, Small World, the Riverboat, the MK train, Pirates of the Carribean, Spaceship Earth, Soarin', Test Track, Toy Story Mania, and the Safari. This doesn't mean he doesn't go on other rides; these are his favorites. Use their experience with other amusement parks. We were avid Six Flags guests and did a lot of rides, but the years make us go on less rides, now.

The parks for us are best in the morning, followed by evenings and the afternoons are the least favorite times there.

Ultimately, I would not force your parents into a long day. If they are basically homebodies it will be an effort to do Disney. My hubby and I enjoy going on vacation and we are pretty active through the years. Some like reading books, doing the computer and watching TV more than going out.
Thanks for all the great suggestions! I think planning for mornings and evenings at the parks with them is a great idea. I'm not sure about the scooters though. I'm really against scooters unless it is absolutely necessary. They get a bad rap in the parks by those who abuse their use. But if we find being on foot hinders anyone's ability then I'm open to getting one.

For my mom and I, the parks are old hat. We've been numerous times growing up. We haven't been together though since 1992! I was just a smart-mouthed kid back then so now, at 40, it'll be a nice memory to go back to for us. As for my partners parents, they are hikers but we noticed over Christmas that they have slowed down a lot since we last saw them a couple years ago. They live in Florida but are originally from Wyoming so slow is just normal for them. They relish taking their time. In fact I'm sure it will take us two hours just to get down Main St.!
 
Don't be afraid to have time apart say in the afternoon and meet up for dinner. This will give them time to recharge and you can hit those rides they are not up for. By the way DH is 70 and I am 62 we still love the parks and with scooters (arthritic knees) we leave in the morning and return when the parks close. Have fun!
 
:) We travel to WDW alternating years between taking my MIL (71) and my parents (Mom 70 and Dad 76). My parents are a wee bit slower than my MIL but go most of the day at a slower pace. I noticed my Dad sitting down more at the parks in 2011. Then last Nov we rented a scooter due to a back problem. He said the scooter helped with endurance and I could tell.

I made sure after the first two days to give them permission to go out on their own. DH and I do not have kids and do WDW 1-2 times a year and have DVC. After a bit when they are comfortable riding buses and are reminded of certain locations DH tell them, " hey we are going to stay in for a bit and will meet you later". I think they like have a few hours on their own as do we.

My MIL will have her first May trip this year and my parents want to go in May next year for F&G. Enjoying the pools and taking the slight increase in heat will come in to play.

Let them pace you or let them know you are going to rope drop and will meet them later. Parents are normal people ;) who need a break from us too.

I joke with them that it is just like taking 5 year olds....do you need a potty...do you need a snack...do you need a nap. They always think it is funny. I find that going with them is awesome and fun and we make tons of memories.
 

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