Toys 4 Tots

[tinytink]

Thanks to Eliza's advise, I am going to remember the real needy people I helped by dropping off my new unwrapped toys. have a Merry Christmas everyone.

 

[eliza61]

Maybe some one brought her the Starbucks.

I wouldn't get upset about it. Maybe she saved all week to get that one cup of starbucks. Some times even when you hit hard times, that one little treat is enough to bring a smile to your face.

Personally I'm more of the "There but for the grace of God, go I". I know how depressing it is to not be able to get your kids things.

It's Christmas, just not going to paint her as abusing the system simply because she's sipping a starbucks.

 

[summerrluvv]

I believe Starbucks donates frequently to charitable events, so before you judge, that cup of coffee may have been donated.

 

[tinytink]

I would not normally say or think anything of it but she goes on to say this is her second year of unemployment and getting gift from T4Tots for her kids. Really woman suck it up and get a PT job and provide for your kids. She was proud to be getting "free" toys for her kids. There are people out there who are working 2 jobs, get nothing for themselves and give everything to their kids and still who can't buy gifts for their kids and you don't see them bragging about getting free gifts two years in a row while not even trying to be/stay employed!
Yes the possibility of someone buying it for her is out there but don't go on TV sipping away at it while you brag about being unemployed for two year and collecting gifts for your three kids from T4Tots for the second year in a row.

 

[tinytink]

I believe Starbucks donates frequently to charitable events, so before you judge, that cup of coffee may have been donated.

I know some merchants donate but I don't think Starbucks would donate Venti (large) drinks. She was the only one in the line of hundreds with Starbucks and bragging.

 

[staticgirl50]

It is Christmas, just take pride in the fact that you donated and remember that warm feeling that doing something nice for others gives you I get that feeling if I give to the unfortunate, or a friend, so ignore the negative vibe and ride the good vibe! LOL

 

[hlane]

ITA with PP. You have no idea her situation. My parents have (had, my mom passed away on 11/24/09) been on PA (welfare) for years due to my Dad being disabled & my mom having cancer. My Dad did their budget and would purposely set aside a little out of each of their disability checks just so my mom could do things that made her feel good such as going to Walmart and get her nails done once a month or so they could go to McDonalds & get a take out coffee or go on a "date" to the dollar theater.
They had very, very little but stretched every penny to it's max so they could still do things that made them happy when they had such a difficult time with their medical conditions and my mom being so sick. Like I mentioned, Mom passed away last month and I know Dad is glad he did what he could with what little they had to make her life enjoyable as possible while she was here.

 

[eliza61]

So your mad because she doesn't have the right attitude? Who says she's not providing for the kids? Maybe that's why she is at toys for tots, because all her money goes to providing for them.

The reason why I trying to explain Theresa, is because I work with the poor and homeless.
People are always so quick to judge them. If they are not dressed like we think poor people should dress, they are accused of beating the system.
If they buy their kids ice cream once out of the 3 months of summer. People ask why are they getting food stamps since they obviously are stealing "our" tax dollars to buy their kids treats.

Poor people are for the most part, loving parents who want the same thing as "other" parents for their kids on Christmas day.

Maybe some one should tell her that she should be groveling at the feet of the Marines. That would be the proper tone and response....

Maybe she was simply happy to be able to give the kids a few toys and it sounded like bragging?

Oh maybe you're right and she is trying to grab some free goodies, in that case why not say a prayer for her because I believe what goes around comes around.

 

[tinytink]

So your mad because she doesn't have the right attitude? Who says she's not providing for the kids? Maybe that's why she is at toys for tots, because all her money goes to providing for them.

The reason why I trying to explain Theresa, is because I work with the poor and homeless.
People are always so quick to judge them. If they are not dressed like we think poor people should dress, they are accused of beating the system.
If they buy their kids ice cream once out of the 3 months of summer. People ask why are they getting food stamps since they obviously are stealing "our" tax dollars to buy their kids treats.

Poor people are for the most part, loving parents who want the same thing as "other" parents for their kids on Christmas day.

Maybe some one should tell her that she should be groveling at the feet of the Marines. That would be the proper tone and response....

Maybe she was simply happy to be able to give the kids a few toys and it sounded like bragging?

Oh maybe you're right and she is trying to grab some free goodies, in that case why not say a prayer for her because I believe what goes around comes around.

If I felt that everybody who receives toys from this program is scamming the system that I would not donate to it every year but I truly believe there are needy families out there and being blessed enough to be able to donate to this program and others programs like it I happily make the donation and teach my children why we do so. I am not usually not to judge but this woman in particular rubbed me the wrong way. I do not look down on people on assistance and if you want to buy your kids ice cream with your state aid I say good for you, it's for the kids but if I see or hear them using their state aid to buy for someone else or to sell it then I have a problem with that.

 

[tinytink]

If I felt that everybody who receives toys from this program is scamming the system that I would not donate to it every year but I truly believe there are needy families out there and being blessed enough to be able to donate to this program and others programs like it I happily make the donation and teach my children why we do so. I am not usually not to judge but this woman in particular rubbed me the wrong way. I do not look down on people on assistance and if you want to buy your kids ice cream with your state aid I say good for you, it's for the kids but if I see or hear them using their state aid to buy for someone else or to sell it then I have a problem with that.

I got it off my chest, I am not going to let it ruin my Christmas cheer.....


Merry Christmas everyone!!!!!!!!

 

[staticgirl50]

Theresa,
I totally get where you are coming from. I really do. We all see people who are "taking advantage", of some of the governments free aid programs. On the other hand we all know there are some people who really do need these aid programs. It just stinks that the bad apples who "know how to work the system" seem to ruin it for most, and make many suspicious of all who receive aid.
Like PP said Karma is a great. It will come back at them some day if they are using it unjustly, no need to ruin the spirit of giving wondering if this woman was worthy or not.

 

[tinytink]

AMEN!!!! We got our Zhu Zhu pets so we'll have a Merry Christmas no matter what. LOL

 

[wdwfan16]

I stopped giving to them years ago. A friend was a secretary at a company. They had a bin for TFTs. The bin got full and she called them for pickup. Nothing. She kept calling and then finally a few days before Christmas she called and they said they would pick them up when they needed them. That pickup happened in Februaray. The company never let them put the bin in again.

 

[staticgirl50]

Seriously?!! Wow, ok... THAT is just wrong! They could not even pick it up and perhaps just give it to an open pantry or something? They let it sit! Ok, That irks me! Especially since others took the time to buy and drop off the gifts.

 

[eliza61]

Theresa,
I totally get where you are coming from. I really do. We all see people who are "taking advantage", of some of the governments free aid programs. On the other hand we all know there are some people who really do need these aid programs. It just stinks that the bad apples who "know how to work the system" seem to ruin it for most, and make many suspicious of all who receive aid.
Like PP said Karma is a great. It will come back at them some day if they are using it unjustly, no need to ruin the spirit of giving wondering if this woman was worthy or not.

Unfortunately that's called human nature. Whether it's Bernie Madoff who for whatever reason felt it was ok to steal millions of bucks and ruin peoples lives or it's the women scamming the medicad program, as long as human beings are involve greed and selfishness come into play.

I'm blessed that I get to see the "little miracles" that happen in the lives of our citizens who are struggling. Toys for tots is a great service that helps children actually be children, even if it's only for that 5 mins when the kid is opening up the gift.

For every "starbucks" drinker abusing the system there are 7 families who are not and are genuinely grateful for the kidness of strangers.

Those are the people I choose to remember.

 

[wdwfan16]

Seriously?!! Wow, ok... THAT is just wrong! They could not even pick it up and perhaps just give it to an open pantry or something? They let it sit! Ok, That irks me! Especially since others took the time to buy and drop off the gifts.

In this one case, yes they just let them sit. This really upset the group and they never let them put the bin in again. I felt it was wrong to let them sit and that is why I chose to give to others.

The bin at the entrance to my building is still there. I am not sure when they will take it away. I have not looked to see if there are any toys in it.

 

[wdwfan16]

Unfortunately that's called human nature. Whether it's Bernie Madoff who for whatever reason felt it was ok to steal millions of bucks and ruin peoples lives or it's the women scamming the medicad program, as long as human beings are involve greed and selfishness come into play.

I'm blessed that I get to see the "little miracles" that happen in the lives of our citizens who are struggling. Toys for tots is a great service that helps children actually be children, even if it's only for that 5 mins when the kid is opening up the gift.

For every "starbucks" drinker abusing the system there are 7 families who are not and are genuinely grateful for the kidness of strangers.
Those are the people I choose to remember.

Can you prove this or did you just make this up.? What if the numbers are the other way around.