TOT-I Need One for My Brother

[pixiewings71]

We had neighbors come by and the Dad kept saying "Don't forget to ask for your brother", the Dad had an extra bag. Now, I have NO clue why brother wasn't there but I didn't deny them the candy, I just dropped it in the bag and smiled. As for teenagers or adults getting candy...as long as you are IN COSTUME you can have candy, and I don't mean one of those shirts that says "this is my costume" because it's not, it's just a shirt.....dress up and you get candy, no matter how old you are.

 

[DWGal210]

We had neighbors come by and the Dad kept saying "Don't forget to ask for your brother", the Dad had an extra bag. Now, I have NO clue why brother wasn't there but I didn't deny them the candy, I just dropped it in the bag and smiled. As for teenagers or adults getting candy...as long as you are IN COSTUME you can have candy, and I don't mean one of those shirts that says "this is my costume" because it's not, it's just a shirt.....dress up and you get candy, no matter how old you are.

I feel the same way about older kids; if they make an effort and dress up, then I don't mind giving them candy. I draw the line at kids that literally just walked out of their house with a Target bag and are going door-to-door mooching candy; to me, that's not TOT...that's just mooching candy.

 

[mickey&minnie04]

I had a "child" ( maybe 15 or so ) not like the three pieces of candy that I dropped in his bag. (a peanut butter cup, a 3 musketeers and a snickers) and told me he wanted something else that was in my basket! I asked him if he was really going to be picky about what he got and he told me yes! I couldn't believe it, when I was a kid and went trick or treating your were thankful for what you got whatever it was......you didn't say anything but trick or treat and THANK YOU! I thought I was being generous giving the kid 3 peices of candy when he barely had a costume on .....I honestly couldn't tell if he was even in costume, he looke like any kid at the mall.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I could be a sucker, and I probably am, but I'm thinking a lot of people are hurting this year. It's a good bet there isn't any money for a costume and these might be the only treats these people are going to have for quite some time. I would NEVER deny a kid candy because they don't have a costume on. Now, I know you might be able to throw something together at home, but I'm sure others would say it's not an appropriate costume.

What I do have a problem with is, at my daughter's school some of the parents set up for Trick or Treat. Only about 15 parents out of 600 students. Not only did most not participate, but they sent their kids to the school and these same kids came back and took HANDFULS multiple times. I finally chase two kids and told them NOT to come back. They probably each about 75-100 pieces of candy. The other side of that is, I went home to hand out candy to the ToTs at my house. Not many showed up so now I'm stuck with about 800 Dum Dums and assorted other candy. Not thrilled, but I also am glad those two kids from school didn't get it all.

 

[DSNLvR]

Not sure how I feel about how I reacted to this little girl last night. I saw our first trick or treaters coming down the street by car. They were running from house to house, so I kind of had the thought they were trying to maximize their haul. There were two children about 11 years old and one older teenager, I'd say about 18 or so. I gave them each two things apiece. Then, one of the younger girls said to me, "I need some for my brother, too." I asked her where her brother was. Turns out he was in the car. I then asked why he didn't come to the door. "He's only one." Now, if he had been sick or something, I would probably have given her EXTRA extra candy. But he was one! I was sort of dumbfounded then, and politely said "I gave you two-you can share with him."

Last night I was peeved she asked. First of all, there was the I NEED part. Not, "may I please have some"...but this morning I don't blame her for asking that way. Mom probably told her to ask. Then I was thinking what the heck, I don't recall giving my kids candy when they were one. It's been a while since my kids were that young, though. Do little kids typically eat candy? This morning, on the other hand, I am feeling kind of bad. It wasn't her fault she was told to ask for her brother, and it was only a few pieces of candy after all. Also, I now feel bad that I told her to share, but yet the other two kids with her got the same amont of candy and presumably will not have to share it. Anyhow, in hindsight, I feel like the Halloween grinch. If I had a do-over, I would give her the candy, although I would have been a little irked. What would you have done?

dont beat yourself up about it, I agree it wasn't her fault and you should have given her the extra piece but with that said, you are probably the only one thinking about it still.

 

[mickey&minnie04]

I understand that people are hurting and that costumes are expensive so you make do with what you have. I do have a problem with people being choosey and not being thankful for what is being given. If times are hard then you should be thankful for whatever you are being given. We had quite a few kids come up a second time and we gladly gave to them again......I felt sorry for them out in the rain all drenched! They were troopers thats for sure!

 

[DSNLvR]

We had neighbors come by and the Dad kept saying "Don't forget to ask for your brother", the Dad had an extra bag. Now, I have NO clue why brother wasn't there but I didn't deny them the candy, I just dropped it in the bag and smiled. As for teenagers or adults getting candy...as long as you are IN COSTUME you can have candy, and I don't mean one of those shirts that says "this is my costume" because it's not, it's just a shirt.....dress up and you get candy, no matter how old you are.

Last year one of the kids trick or treating with our group fell on a pipe in someone's front yard - his mom had to take him to the hospital, I kept the rest of her kids with me and we finished trick or treating, I had his bag and collected his candy for him. I cant imagine what some people were thinking but wasn't going to let him lose out because of a simple accident. He was so happy to see that filled bag when he got out of the hospital later (ended up bruising his spleen or something, it was minor but needed a few days of rest)

I wasn't going to explain what happened to every house though, so I just collected his candy and let them think what they wanted. I knew I was doing a good thing.

 

[ChrizJen]

I wouldn't feel too bad. What's done is done. I'm sure that 1 year old probably didn't need all that much candy anyway...It'll all work itself out I'm sure.

We had an interesting situation at our house. We had a whole big group of about 15 little kids that came to the door all together. I saw what looked like a mom on the porch with all of the kids, then another mom looking person with a very small child sleeping in a stroller on the sidewalk. So I give all of the kids candy, then the mom-looking woman (who's not in costume) holds out a pillow case. At first, I thought WTH? Then I assumed that she was just getting treats for the sleeping tot in the stroller. So I gave her candy. Then she had the gall to ask for extra for her nephew who couldn't come out because he was sick!! So I'm now assuming that the first candy I threw in there was for HER!! This was a grown woman! I just dropped an extra piece and kept my mouth shut. But I gave her a look that told her that I didn't agree with what she was doing...Seriously, if you're too old for Trick-or-Treating, buy your own dang candy!! Greedy people!

 

[NewCrew42]

Not sure how I feel about how I reacted to this little girl last night. I saw our first trick or treaters coming down the street by car. They were running from house to house, so I kind of had the thought they were trying to maximize their haul. There were two children about 11 years old and one older teenager, I'd say about 18 or so. I gave them each two things apiece. Then, one of the younger girls said to me, "I need some for my brother, too." I asked her where her brother was. Turns out he was in the car. I then asked why he didn't come to the door. "He's only one." Now, if he had been sick or something, I would probably have given her EXTRA extra candy. But he was one! I was sort of dumbfounded then, and politely said "I gave you two-you can share with him."

Last night I was peeved she asked. First of all, there was the I NEED part. Not, "may I please have some"...but this morning I don't blame her for asking that way. Mom probably told her to ask. Then I was thinking what the heck, I don't recall giving my kids candy when they were one. It's been a while since my kids were that young, though. Do little kids typically eat candy? This morning, on the other hand, I am feeling kind of bad. It wasn't her fault she was told to ask for her brother, and it was only a few pieces of candy after all. Also, I now feel bad that I told her to share, but yet the other two kids with her got the same amont of candy and presumably will not have to share it. Anyhow, in hindsight, I feel like the Halloween grinch. If I had a do-over, I would give her the candy, although I would have been a little irked. What would you have done?

I had a similar situation. There was a pick-up truck load of kids brought into our neighborhood. They were our last TOT kids of the night. There were probably about 20 kids in the back of that truck all varying ages. The very last boy of the group had two pumpkins he was carrying. I put candy into one and while I was putting candy in it. He asked if he could have candy for his cousin who was home sick. I gladly put candy in the pumpkin. I just thought he must have had a cousin who really was home sick. Now, if all 20 kids in his group had 2 candy bags and each one wanted extra candy for someone. No way. But I figured a sick cousin, it could happen.

Now, my kids didn't eat candy when they were one. I did dress them up and took them to my neighbors trick or treating. When my son was one, we lived in a neighborhood where he was the only kid on our block. Lots of older people who had been asking me to bring him trick or treating to their homes. They actually had made him little treat bags with cheerios or had bought him a book and I think one couple had bought him a toy. It was more like Christmas then Halloween. They were just thrilled to have a child in the neighborhood.

I do think asking for candy for an unknown 1 year old is a bit odd.