Too embarrassed to go back to work

[grandme]

I don't know what to do. The last day of work before I had to leave for a funeral I had a problem. I have IBS and it is triggered by food and stress. Because of both my dm and my dfil being very sick and my dfil dying, problems at work ect I have been under a GREAT deal of stress. I also tried a different bread the day before I left. Not to get too graffic, I was at work when the pain started and I knew I had to get to the bathroom. As I was practically running to the bathroom it hit and there was nothing I could do. The bathroom is a one room thing and I ran in slammed the door but did not have time to lock it. I just prayed that no one would come in. As luck would have it someone did. I jumped up to try and slam the door shut but she managed to get her head in as I was shouting that I was in it. She left but I don't know how much she saw. It was at the end of my shift and after I cleaned up I ran to my room grabbed my coat, wrapped it around me and left. I work in the basement of a nursing home and we rent a room there. I was the only one in the office that day from my work, but I bump into that lady all the time as she works in that area. I just want to quit but we really need the money now that we have had to travel across the country to help my dmil and then will have to go to the funeral as well. I really don't know what to do and I have to go back on Wed. I just feel sick. This is the first time in a long time that this has happened as I really keep a close eye on things. I don't know what to do.
Grandme

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I really doubt anyone thinks differently about you because of this... Most people who are good people, would understand the situation, and not even bring it up to avoid embarrassment for all.
Go in like nothing happened.....

And, I'm sorry about your family issues

 

[mickeysgal]

Grandme, we've all been in embarrassing situations including, I'll bet, the lady that accidentally opened the door. She most likely feels bad about opening that door. But you can't quit - you need the job. You'll have to go to work and make the best of it. Time will diminish how raw this feels to you right now.

Best wishes.

 

[Poohgirl]

Sorry to hear about everything that is going on. To be honest, if I were to open the bathroom door on someone like that, I would be more embarassed for doing so then I would assume he/she was...

 

[Kathi OD]

Grandme, I wouldn't worry about your embarrassing incident. Things like this happen to people all the time. Rare is the person who will never experience such an embarrassing incident. Just go to work, do your job, and don't bring it up. I'll bet that unless you have some very insensitive and immature coworkers, no one else will bring it up either.

I am going to suggest that you may have celiac disease rather than IBS. Eating bread and then getting severe pains is a classic symptom of celiac, a condition that is now thought to occur in one out of every 100 people and is often misdiagnosed as IBS. If your doctor won't test you for celiac, eliminate all foods that contain gluten from your diet. If you have celiac, you'll begin to see a difference in your bowels in a week or so. A word of caution however, it is very difficult to eliminate gluten from your diet as it is found in all kinds of foods, not just the obvious ones like bread and pasta.

 

[minniecarousel]

Yeah - I'm sure the embarassment went both ways. Just keep your chin up. Don't let this incident overwhelm you.

 

[nannerbadnanner]

She is probably more embarrassed than you are.

 

[npmommie]

Don't be embarressed, don't worry, just go back and act like nothing happened, I agree she prob feels bad she came in on you.

One night at work a few years back the nurse's aide that was working with me had a situation while we were helping a patient.
she has a colostomy bag.......well it totally came apart and the contents spilled everywhere. she was mortified.
but we just had another person run to the basement laundry ( hospital ) , got her some clean scrubs, she changed and we all went on with our evening
hang in there

 

[akhenaten]

Grandme, we've all been in embarrassing situations including, I'll bet, the lady that accidentally opened the door. She most likely feels bad about opening that door. But you can't quit - you need the job. You'll have to go to work and make the best of it. Time will diminish how raw this feels to you right now.

Best wishes.

i agree...
it will be ok....

 

[mytwotinks]

She is probably more embarrassed than you are.

That's what I was thinking. She probably feels terrible!

I'd just go in and act like nothing happened. I am sure that is what she is planning on doing.

 

[a1tinkfans]

Sorry to hear about everything that is going on. To be honest, if I were to open the bathroom door on someone like that, I would be more embarassed for doing so then I would assume he/she was...

I TOTALLY agree! Everyone has something they think was their "worst ever" situation
Just Walk back in and go forward and act like nothing happened

 

[cepmom]

oh please don't be embarrased! I'm sure your co-worker is more embarrased that she opened the door on you. I know I would have been if I was the one that opened the door. Last year I had a problem with uterine fibroids that caused awful period. I had plans to go out to dinner with friends one night. I got my period just before it was time to leave and figured since we would be in a restaurant and close to a bathroom, I'd be fine. Wrong. I had the worst bleeding I've ever had ~ I never had this much of a problem before. Not to be graphic, but I bled so bad that I had to go to the emergency room, I was covered. I was mortified but my friends didn't care...they just wanted to be sure I was okay. These things happen ~ I hope things are better for you otherwise, but don't let this keep you from returning to your job. It could have happened to anyone

 

[TaraPA]

I agree - I bet she was more embarrassed than you & nothing will ever be said. I have IBS & that happened to me once in the grocery store - just couldn't get to the bathroom in time. When it hits you it hits you, I totally understand. Had to leave my cart full of groceries & go home. Very mortifying, but I got over it. Another time - warning graphic info coming - I was in the bathroom at work inserting a tampon when a male co-worker walked in on me - oh MAN I wanted to die. Totally. I had to walk out of the bathroom & work all day with him - again - nothing was ever said so he was probably more embarrassed than me!

 

[MosMom]

 

[Todd&Copper]

Go back. You have an illness.

By the way, and this is not meant to sound snarky, but my MIL has Chrons or IBS or Celiac [she thinks Chrons but has been told the others over the years as well] and she uses adult diapers for these potential "accidents". Those, plus dark colored pants, may not be a bad idea. A lot of adult diaper companies offer free samples if you visit their website, too!

 

[C.Ann]

Yeah - I'm sure the embarassment went both ways. Just keep your chin up. Don't let this incident overwhelm you.

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I agree..

Jobs are too hard to come by right now to not go back..

 

[grandme]

Thanks everyone for all you responses. I don't think I would wear diapers as this is only the 2nd time I have had a big problem in years. I usually am so careful with what I eat and drink. I also try to do stuff to keep my stress level down as well. I thought this bread would be okay. It is gluten free but it has some nuts or something in it and I guess it is not for me. You have all made me feel a little better about it. I am suppose to go back to work on Wed. I get back on Tues. However, my dm is apparently in bad shape so I may end up having to take Wed and Thurs off as well. I will have to see. You are all right in that I do need this job especially in this economy.
grandme

 

[CathrynRose]

My g./f worked with a woman with IBS. And she also had an accident. Before she even got to the bathroom.

No one - and I mean no one in the office was any different towards her. In fact my g/f felt so BAD for her, knowing how horribly embarrassed she must be.

And like a PP said - everybody poops!

 

[KirstenB]

I wish I could give you a hug!!! Many of us have had embarrassing issues, so I would try to just forget it and move on.