We've been married 32 years today. After this many years it doesn't seem like such a big deal but I know it is.
This month has been terrible in so many ways I am having a hard time getting into the spirit of celebrating. My 52 yr old nephew was found dead in his home. He had died at least a week before. Apparently he had a long history of drug use. I grew up very close to Russ and feel awful but circumstances that occurred between him and his parents created a huge rift. I hadn't seen him for probably 15 yrs or more. I just can't imagine cutting myself off from my own sons no matter what is going on. The drug issue didn't have anything to do with the rift. No one ever seemed to have a way of contacting him when I asked about him.
My other sister's husband had his knee replaced on the 7th and is still in the nursing home for rehab. She has been calling me off and on with some strange back pain. She has been to her doctors and to ER twice but nothing seems to be giving her relief. She refuses to allow any of us to come stay with her and help her. She got so mad at me she hung up on me over it. My DH and I are planning to go down either Christmas or Sunday depending on the weather. We are due to have snow and she lives in a snow belt. I am afraid she is going to have to allow one of us to stay there no matter what. I have called her back but she spoke with my DH and told him she would call me but of course hasn't. Grrrr. I hate having to worry about her like this.
So, when I read about all the drama everyone is having with families, I understand but for different reasons. I have had many years of inlaw issues and drama over holidays but both sets of parents have passed on now so that is over. Our family is getting smaller and we no longer live near each other. Children are grown and having babies and their own inlaws. This will be a very quite holdiay for us. We have moved our dinner to Christmas eve to accommodate both son's needs. The oldest is going to a party with friends and the youngest has to work that day. I have worked so many holidays I couldn't count and now that I no longer can work I kinda miss it. We always managed to make the shift festive for each other and were a kind of family too.
Tonight we are going out to dinner and after that who knows. I'm sure we'll find something fun to do. I am grateful for my dear husband. He is one of the few people in this world I can honestly say is my hero, my friend and my love.
Happy Holidays to all of you and lets all hope for a better year in 2011.
This month has been terrible in so many ways I am having a hard time getting into the spirit of celebrating. My 52 yr old nephew was found dead in his home. He had died at least a week before. Apparently he had a long history of drug use. I grew up very close to Russ and feel awful but circumstances that occurred between him and his parents created a huge rift. I hadn't seen him for probably 15 yrs or more. I just can't imagine cutting myself off from my own sons no matter what is going on. The drug issue didn't have anything to do with the rift. No one ever seemed to have a way of contacting him when I asked about him.
My other sister's husband had his knee replaced on the 7th and is still in the nursing home for rehab. She has been calling me off and on with some strange back pain. She has been to her doctors and to ER twice but nothing seems to be giving her relief. She refuses to allow any of us to come stay with her and help her. She got so mad at me she hung up on me over it. My DH and I are planning to go down either Christmas or Sunday depending on the weather. We are due to have snow and she lives in a snow belt. I am afraid she is going to have to allow one of us to stay there no matter what. I have called her back but she spoke with my DH and told him she would call me but of course hasn't. Grrrr. I hate having to worry about her like this.
So, when I read about all the drama everyone is having with families, I understand but for different reasons. I have had many years of inlaw issues and drama over holidays but both sets of parents have passed on now so that is over. Our family is getting smaller and we no longer live near each other. Children are grown and having babies and their own inlaws. This will be a very quite holdiay for us. We have moved our dinner to Christmas eve to accommodate both son's needs. The oldest is going to a party with friends and the youngest has to work that day. I have worked so many holidays I couldn't count and now that I no longer can work I kinda miss it. We always managed to make the shift festive for each other and were a kind of family too.
Tonight we are going out to dinner and after that who knows. I'm sure we'll find something fun to do. I am grateful for my dear husband. He is one of the few people in this world I can honestly say is my hero, my friend and my love.
Happy Holidays to all of you and lets all hope for a better year in 2011.
I feel the same way about my husband, and although there are losses/changes/hardships in our lives, we are so blessed to have good marriages. Have a sweet anniversary celebration tonight, RNMOM. 
