Tired of dealing with this...

[Aurora63]

Before I start, I'll preface by saying I don't like posting these tyes of 'complaining' threads, but I am venting, because I have no one else to vent to right now.

My DH is a SLOB!!!! And I can't clean up after him anymore! I can't! I've had it! I am not a maid! And it is not his God-given right as a MAN to have his wife clean up after him!!!!

Thank you for listening. It's just that my home is a wreck right now, most of it from him, just junk that he doesn't take care of. But then he adds to it...this morning one of our cats got a hold of a roll of toilet paper. As he's getting up, he points it out to me...then throws the roll back to the cat!

I'm ready to cry...I feel completely alone in wanting to enjoy our home...plus he's out a lot with his buddies, so that is adding to it. Just neede a hug or something. Thanks for listening.

 

[HayGan]

I can so relate to your anger frustration right now! I've been SO sick all weekend. You can't even begin to imagine the mess in my house right now

 

[Blondy876]

I'm with you. My dh was away on business last week so it was just me and our girls (6 and 16 months). The house was clean all week. The 6 year old cleaned up after herself and the baby. Even the baby put her toys away. My dh got home on Saturday and the house has been trashed since. I had no idea who was the cause of the mess. I just figured that I was a terrible housekeeper, but no, he's a slob. I'm not his Mama and he needs to clean up after himself.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I feel your pain, my DH is the same way.

 

[pixiemomma]

Another member of the sloppy husband's club.

 

[Disney Doll]

Start throwing away the stuff he leaves lying around the house.

He'll get the message.

After all, if he is going to act like a 13 year old slobby boy teenager, you should treat him like one.

Eventually he'll run out of clothes, or need the tool he left wherever he left it, or need the information he left strewn about, and you can sweetly say "Oh, since you left it laying around instead of putting it away I assumed it was garbage and I threw it out".

 

[Wishing on a star]

I so agree with the OP!!!!

While my DH is not a disrespectful slob... I know that they do exist! My DH was one of those who always had his mama to take care of and clean everything.. So, he did have to have his eyes opened.

My one complaint right now is that my DH must have inherited some mutant pack-rat gene from his Mom. (She is the WORST!!!) We have a small home limited space and storage. Argghhh!!!

I also posted on the similar thread a few days ago.

I think somebody should start one of the little DIS Club threads!!! What would a catchy name be???? Can't come up with a catchy one right now.. Just "Mama Maids on Strike!!!"

Ohhhh, edited to add, I just now see the Sloppy Husbands Club post come thru when I was typing this up!

 

[Aurora63]

Sloppy Husband's Club sounds good to me...the SHC!!!

 

[Randi]

I know how frustrating it can be to feel that you are the one responsible for everything. I have been single since 1981. And I sure did my share of complaining about the mess my ex made. But I have to give him credit, hard as it is LOL, he did keep up the yard ( I hire someone now $$), take out the trash (I got it ready, but now I do both) shovel snow (again I hire someone $$) kept the cars washed and did oil changes (again I have to find time to do it myself)...

So think about the things he does that if he didn't, either you would have to do or hire someone to do. I found that I placed a higher priority on the appearance of my house than he did. Now my standards have changed, and I consider it great if I just get the really important things done.

Try to keep smiling. A little humor makes it easier.

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

to you. I am not married but I can tell DBF is going to be a sloppy husband already. Since we live far away from each other he will usually spend Friday nights over my house. When he leaves, I have to clean up a mess in my room all from him. One day he cut tags off a new shirt and proceded to throw the tags on my floor! He damn well knew where the garbage was! I was peeved over that. Let's just hope he changes his ways before marriage.

 

[ely3857]

I nibbed stuff like this in the bud as soon as we started living together, as people have said 'I am not his mother!'


He take's his tie off on the way out of work and leaves it in his lunchbox - I also leave it there and just put the sandwiches on top of it/them

He used to leave all of the coat hangers at the side of the bed fore me to trip over until every night he got into bed to find the coat hanger under his pillow

He used to leave all his shoes in the hall (yards away from the shoe cupboard) until I started throwing a pair away a day

Harsh but it seemed to work! So far so good



Jodie

 

[SwedishMeatball]

 

[Christine]

My DH's not a terrible slob, but he's not a "neat-nik" either.

This weekend DH and DS (11) went skiing. It has been SOOOO wonderful. I cleaned the house on Saturday morning and it has remained that way all weekend. I cannot believe how much less work I have with both of them out of the house.

So DH and DS come home about an hour ago. DH had his lunch and left his empty glass on the counter (another few steps and he would have made it to the sink). Already the clutter is just piling up.

Can I run away?

 

[Wishing on a star]

Calgon... take me away!!!!!

 

[RadioFanatic]

did you see my "asking v. nagging" thread? if not, just know I'm right there with ya sista!

 

[C.Ann]

Hide everything.. And then when he asks, "Where's my xxxxx?", sweetly reply, "I don't know, honey.. Where did you leave it?"

 

[Aurora63]

Hide everything.. And then when he asks, "Where's my xxxxx?", sweetly reply, "I don't know, honey.. Where did you leave it?"

Now that sounds like fun! Thanks for perking me up!

 

[elismom]

I so feel your pain.
I went back to school this fall and am renting out 2 bedrooms in my house.They are both male and drive me nuts.
I started leaving sticky notes all over the house,
I even put one on the toilet.
PLEASE CLOSE LID (THE CAT DRINK FROM HERE).
If I even leave one dish in the sink they thing it;s a free for all.
I cant wait to finish school and get a job!

 

[C.Ann]

Now that sounds like fun! Thanks for perking me up!

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Anytime..

Works great on the youngin's too!

 

[MELSMICE]

He take's his tie off on the way out of work and leaves it in his lunchbox - I also leave it there and just put the sandwiches on top of it/them

He used to leave all of the coat hangers at the side of the bed fore me to trip over until every night he got into bed to find the coat hanger under his pillow

He used to leave all his shoes in the hall (yards away from the shoe cupboard) until I started throwing a pair away a day

Harsh but it seemed to work! So far so good

These are great & the type of things I door would do!!

My DH is not a slob, but he does do some things that drive me nuts. I ask that my family have just one pair of shoes in the laundry room/back hallway. No - he has to have 3 so I starting throwing them in the garage!

He has a tendency to take the tags of his dry cleaned shirts or new clothing & just let them fall wherever. I started sticking them in the toes of his shoes. One day I heard him say, "what the heck is in my shoe". I didn't own up to anything & he hasn't caught on yet, which I'm surprised about, I've been doing it almost every day for about a month now!!!

I also stick things under his pillow that he has "forgetten" to take care of.