Tips for first grader with anxiety

[jkew]

My dd6 is having a tough time with first grade. This is her second week and she is still crying in the morning. Kindergarten was only half day last year so staying all day is a big change. She did this for a short while during kindergarten and then she was fine so I know it will just take time. Her teacher has been wonderful and encourages parent communication. I have been trying to be very patient and encouraging but does anyone having any ideas to try to make it easier? Thanks

 

[annagirl]

What is upsetting? The longer day? The separation from you? Just a new environment? A bit more info, please.

 

[sksjasams]

As long as you are sure there is no other reason for her crying, like a kid being mean to her for example, why not try a reward chart. I used them a variety of times when my son was younger. Since this is asking something big of her, to be brave and not cry when you drop her off, I would give her a small reward each day, as well as a sticker on the chart, and then at the end of the week a bigger reward. It will give her something to look forward to each day and also something to work toward. I would make sure it was something tangible that she could see up on the counter and want to have. Give her lots of encouragement, be extra cheerful yourself when you say good bye and let her know that you know she can do it. I would think once she has one week under her belt she'll be fine. Good luck!

 

[jenb1023]

My DD was a little nervous about first grade so I wrote her a short note saying I love her with x's and o's on it to keep in her desk and to look at it if she missed me so she would know I am always with her and thinking about her. I also put a note in her lunch box whenever she packs and I drew a heart on her hand the first day of school (from the book The Kissing Hand). She has been doing great! Hope these ideas help!

 

[jkew]

Thanks for the replies and suggestions. I think it is just the environment that makes her nervous. She talks about everywhere being so loud. In kindergarten, they were pretty much separated from the other kids but now they are mixed together more. When I picked her up today, she walked out smiling!!! So, hoping it stays that way!!!

 

[Pirate1+Princess4]

A little note in her lunchbox or backpack.

Could you volunteer in the classroom? Our classes really get used to parents being in and out. My kids LOVE to see me there, give me a quick hug, then back to business. This would give her a chance to connect with you (unless it will just make her need you more) and you will get an idea of what's going on the classroom.

 

[karliebug]

HI. I am a first grade teacher and have been for 26 years. The adjustment from a half-day to a full day is exhausting for little ones. They usually start asking about 11:00-"Is it time to go home yet?" It may take a few weeks to get into the routine but I am sure she will be fine. Also, many kids have been staying up late in the summer and sleeping in late, so just the time adjustment throws them for a loop.