Thoughts on a "Secret Trip"

[Simba22]

Hey everyone! DBF and I are in the planning stages of a completely secret trip to WDW in October 2008. My parents keep giving me grief about going because we still live at home (we're in our mid 20's) and they complain that we should be saving the money and moving out. But we are desperate to go and at this point it looks like our next trip won't be until October 2009. However I priced it out for just a weekend, flying in on Thursday and leaving on Monday. It's well within our price range but I feel nervous about not telling anyone where we're going (as far as the parents go, they would be under the impression we went to NY for the weekend).

What are your opinions? I really want to go but I'm a total worry wart and need some 3rd party opinions....

TIA!

 

[KINGBOBOFTHENORTH]

You're too old to be deceiving your parents; they're going to find out eventually anyway and then they won't be able to trust you. Everyone deserves a break in the routine and if you and DBF need some Disney in your lives, that's your money and your call. Yes, at your age you do need to be finding a way to be on your own, but a weekend outing shouldn't be denied either.

BobK/Orlando

 

[dalepool]

I Know I would love to go to WDW with you But----do not go unless you pay rent, do your fair share of house hold chores, work --or are looking for work full time. Your parents are "Letting you live with them" . It might be for the fact they have live in guests or they might like to go with you to -- what a wonderful treat to the ppl who have helped you when you needed.

Please re-think and put you as MOM and a sibling as you.

My Daughter and her husband and two kids-- who I adore are living with us while they are having a home built. Even knowing it is for 6 months and will end --I wish I had the house to just us.

Hope this helps in deciding .

 

[Bill Brown]

Officially moved out when I was 18. At 15, began going on "international walkabouts" with my parents okay for entire summers on my own. I have a hard time relating to living at home after age 18. Anyway, sneaking away from my parents would be unacceptable. Two thumbs down to your plans for sneaking away from your parents.

 

[Northern_Julie]

I lived at home in my mid-20's. I paid rent and did as much as I could to help. I am thankful to my parents for being so generous. Until you are out paying your own mortgage or rent you don't understand the little things they are paying for and doing for you.
Vacations though are luxuries but having a place to live is a necessity. I would have never considered doing this when I was imposing on them by living in there house during "there years". I think that it is hurtful and disrespectful to make a vacation a priority over moving out. They will eventually find out even if it is after you return and you are only going to put a strain on your relationship with them and perhaps them ending the generous living relations. All I am saying is be prepared for how they will react and the possible fall out.

 

[Simba22]

Thanks for your opinions everyone! I wasn't feeling right about NOT telling anyone, mostly because I felt that by not letting them know what was up I was jinxing the trip, ya know? Like just because no one knew we were there, SOMETHING would go wrong. So I decided to suck it up and just discuss it like an adult (and now that it was pointed out to me, it was very childish to even consider it...don't know what was wrong with me last night! ) but I spoke to my mom about it this morning and she said she would be OK with a short 4 or 5 day trip as opposed to our usual 10 days! So it worked out and I feel much better about it! I had a feeling I wasn't going to be able to go through with not telling her...I've always been the "good kid," the one who tattles on the others for being bad this was soo out of character for me (more like something my sister would do ) so I'm glad I dealt with it that way I did. Thanks again everyone!

 

[dalepool]

Let me be the first to say Congratulations you did the right thing (not always the easiest). Then by including your parents in the plans it all worked out great. Now how do I sneak away from my family so I can go to.

Now go plan and then have a wonderful trip. Take lots of pictures would love to hear a trip report.

 

[Bill Brown]

 

[Juliegirl1]

Hee - I have a secret trip planned too. I'm not telling my son (age 8) I'm going without him - it will be my second trip this year and he doesn't get to go on either one!!!!

I did tell him about the first one (mom's only trip to the Food and Wine Festival) but I don't have the heart to tell him I'm going back at Christmas with my boyfriend (he's planning a romantic trip for just the two of us). Am I a mean mommy or what?

BTW to the OP - good decision - I think your case is a little different than mine!

Also before I get flamed I do have a surprise trip in the works for my kiddo for early next year so he won't be totally left out. Not to mention he's been every year for the past three years.

 

[Bill Brown]

Hee - I have a secret trip planned too. I'm not telling my son (age 8) I'm going without him - it will be my second trip this year and he doesn't get to go on either one!!!!

Hmmmmmm... I believe mutual trust and respect among parents and their children is paramount. I fail to see the need to keep the trip secret. My dad was always rationalizing reasons for keeping things secret, which ultimately led to poor relations with us, his now adult children.

 

[Juliegirl1]

I will tell him about it after it's over. He's going to be traveling in New York with his dad during that time and I don't want him upset because he can't go to Disney and ruin his time with his dad.

I figured when he got back from New York I would surprise him with the news about the trip I'll be taking him on to ease the fact that he didn't get to go with us on our "romantic" trip.

 

[Bill Brown]

I will tell him about it after it's over. He's going to be traveling in New York with his dad during that time and I don't want him upset because he can't go to Disney and ruin his time with his dad.

I figured when he got back from New York I would surprise him with the news about the trip I'll be taking him on to ease the fact that he didn't get to go with us on our "romantic" trip.

I was guessing and hoping there were mitigating details. I think your plan sounds much better, now.