Okay, payroll is done so I can sit down and write out some thoughts and answers.
In no particular order, since I tend to write in a stream of consciousness way...if you have the idea of FP/Maxpass down then you can skip this next bit.
FP (and to a greater extent, MaxPass) works really well with DAS so I would definitely get familiar to how the system works in DL because it is different from WDW. We have never had any issues with FP/MP and DAS but then again, we also didn't have any issues with FP+ and DAS.
Maxpass is really not a separate system of fastpasses but instead it might be easier to think of it as a different way to get Fastpasses.
Without MP, you have to go to the FP kiosk and get your FP that way. Insert your ticket and your FP will be loaded onto it. A FP reminder will print out but you can also see it in the
Disneyland app.
With Maxpass, you open the DL app and book your FP that way. A big benefit of this is that you can scan into your current FP ride and while in the FP line you can book your next one!)
Unlike FP+, you can't pick the time you prefer, you can only get the next available time slot.
Using MP, you can grab your next FP when one of the following conditions has been met:
You scan into your current FP
or
90 minutes has passed since you last booked a FP
or
Your current FP time is open. (your FP is booked for 9:00-10:00 and it is now 9:01.)
Without MP, you can grab your next FP when one of the following conditions has been met:
You scan into your current FP
or
120 minutes has passed since you last booked a FP
or
Your current FP time is open. (your FP is booked for 9:00-10:00 and it is now 9:01.)
Something to be aware of relating to FP, there are not as many attractions in DL/DCA that have a FP line such as Mr. Toad and most of the Fantasyland rides. Here is what I think it a complete list:
Disneyland Park Rides with FastPass:
- Big Thunder Mountain Railroad
- Buzz Lightyear Astro Blasters
- Fantasmic!
- Haunted Mansion
- Indiana Jones Adventure
- “it’s a small world”
- Matterhorn Bobsleds
- Pirates of the Caribbean
- Roger Rabbit’s Car Toon Spin
- Space Mountain
- Splash Mountain
- Star Tours – The Adventures Continue
Disney California Adventure Park Rides with FastPass:
- Goofy’s Sky School
- Grizzly River Run
- Guardians of the Galaxy – Mission: BREAKOUT!
- Incredicoaster
- Radiator Springs Racers
- Soarin’ Around the World
- Toy Story Midway Mania!
- World of Color
Okay, I think that covers FP and MP...on to DAS.
Even if it will not solve all of your youngest's issues, it really sounds like the stroller as a wheelchair tag will help some of them. If nothing else, it will give him an enclosed area where he can go if he gets overwhelmed. Sunglasses and headphones really helped our son at that age.
Your youngest might benefit from a DAS, however there is no system in DL or WDW that will allow for a less than 10 second wait. Even with the DAS or FP or FP+, your wait for some attractions can be upwards of 20+ minutes. Some may be much less than that (after you have waited for your DAS return time to become active) but you (and he) will have to wait at some point. While a DAS will allow you to wait outside the standby line, your son will still need to wait a bit in a line. The DAS will not prevent all waiting.
How do you handle waiting with him in your day to day life? A line at the grocery store or at the bank for instance? If you are flying, how do you deal with those lines? Does he have things to play with that will keep him occupied for 20+ minutes?
Even though many people frown on it, some sort of electronic device was a godsend when DS was little. A handheld game device like a Nintendo DS may be too old for your youngest but at that age I think we had a Leapfrog system for our son. One thing we always always always insisted on is that if he was playing with any sort of electronic device, he HAD to wear headphones. (Side note, we found that wearing the headphones really helped him deal with crowds because he did not have to deal with all the noise.) Our son is now 14 and we allow him to bring his phone or gaming system into the parks to use while we are in line. It has really helped him with waiting, we went from him not being able to wait in lines over 5-10 minutes a few years ago to now where he if okay with 30 minutes.
DS had a huge issue with time and specifically his inability to understand the passage of time. (I am probably not making a lot of sense, but bear with me!) Because he did not understand the concept of time, telling him we had to wait 20 minutes for a ride meant nothing to him and he would freak out after a really short time. We helped this by giving him one of of phones as a timer. We would set a 20 minute timer and he could actually SEE the second counting down in a visual way. I wonder if you could try this with your youngest and see if that helps?
Your other son is a little bit more difficult. Because you will have to wait in a certain amount of lines and given the lack of washrooms in the attraction queues, you will need another solution for him other than not waiting in any lines at all. If he refuses to wear pull-ups, what about cloth training pants like these:
Big kid training pants
Other than that, you have only a few other options.
1. Stop at every washroom as you go by and make him try to go pee.
2. Let him know that he has two choices: Use a pull up at the parks or not go.
It's tough but sometimes you have to give them an ultimatum...and then carry through with it.
Whew, if you made it through that and understood all my rambling then I tip my hat to you!
Good luck and please feel free to ask more questions!