The worst possible thing to ask a woman...

[Robinrs]

I have a co worker that literally looks 6 -7 months pregnant... and ADMITS it. We were both hired at the same time and it took everything out of me to ask when she was due but I decided against it ... and am GLAD I did.

My boss told me she has a child (who is 5) and she is NOT expecting. I seriously thought she was probably one of those people from that show "I Didn't Know I was Pregnant" and she would eventually give birth!

A year and a half later NO BABY... and she STILL looks pregnant?

She's not huge, maybe a size 12, but she wears maternity clothing and all kinds of empire waisted items. She's cute as a button but I know she gets asked ALL of the time.

 

[castleview]

Someone asked me that once. To be fair - all of my extra weight is in my abs and for some reason I was rubbing my stomach.

I asked a woman once and it was a very awful and embarrassing situation. I ran into a woman on the beach whose young kids were playing near mine, we were doing some small talk and she looked extremely fit with the cutest bump. She was also relaxing as any woman in late pregnancy should. So I finally asked her when she was due. She said she wasn't - I said "oh…" After a few seconds, I went over to her and apologized. It turned out she had liver cancer and all the fluid had built up in her stomach area. I felt awful. I apologized again and she was quite good about it as if she had been through that question many times. We had a long talk about her condition and where it was going. She was being as positive as she could and I told her I'd be routing and praying for her. I think about this woman quite often wondering if she made it and how her family is doing. Even though I was an idiot, I am glad I met her.

 

[Pikester]

I use to work for a family owned retail store and it amazed me the personal questions that customers would ask just because they "knew" the family. One time the wife had her newborn baby in a front sling while she was visiting the store. A customer asked us if they had a pet monkey in the sling. Yes the newborn baby had quite a head of hair but sheesh.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I use to work for a family owned retail store and it amazed me the personal questions that customers would ask just because they "knew" the family. One time the wife had her newborn baby in a front sling while she was visiting the store. A customer asked us if they had a pet monkey in the sling. Yes the newborn baby had quite a head of hair but sheesh.

 

[redlight]

I have a co worker that literally looks 6 -7 months pregnant... and ADMITS it. We were both hired at the same time and it took everything out of me to ask when she was due but I decided against it ... and am GLAD I did.

My boss told me she has a child (who is 5) and she is NOT expecting. I seriously thought she was probably one of those people from that show "I Didn't Know I was Pregnant" and she would eventually give birth!

A year and a half later NO BABY... and she STILL looks pregnant?

She's not huge, maybe a size 12, but she wears maternity clothing and all kinds of empire waisted items. She's cute as a button but I know she gets asked ALL of the time.

There have been a couple of times when I've been tempted to ask acquaintances whether they were pregnant. I'm so glad I kept my mouth shut.

I've also been on the receiving end, when I was at my heaviest. I had gained, and some of that weight went to my belly (I didn't have one before) and my chest.

 

[bgirldeb]

I use to work for a family owned retail store and it amazed me the personal questions that customers would ask just because they "knew" the family. One time the wife had her newborn baby in a front sling while she was visiting the store. A customer asked us if they had a pet monkey in the sling. Yes the newborn baby had quite a head of hair but sheesh.

Because that's such a logical conclusion!

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Because that's such a logical conclusion!

Somebody's been watching too much of the TLC channel.

 

[Becky2005]

I was the idiot who asked a neighbor once but I KNOW she was pregnant because I was pregnant at the same time -- except it wasn't during the summer so we didn't see each other all that often other than to possibly wave -- one day I FINALLY see her to the point of we could actually talk & I asked her when she was due -- turned out she had the baby the week before. OOPS!!!

I think it was either baby #3 or #4 or both that for most of the pregnancy, people didn't even know I was pregnant. I got to wear my regular sweatshirts with them for most of the pregnancy plus add a winter coat & well....one could never tell. I just looked bundled up for the weather.

 

[FireDancer]

Unless I hear from their mouth they are pregnant I don't even ask. There are way too many people that you just can't tell if it is an actual baby or just could be so I err on the side of caution. There is just no good way to back out of that one.

 

[Pixee]

Had somebody not only ask me if I was pregnant, but continue to insist that I must be after I told her that I wasn't. She even put her hand on my stomach and told me it felt like a baby belly.

My response? "No - it feels like pizza and Doritos."

Yes, I forgot to mention the neighbor did this to me, also. She rubbed by belly like I was Buddha. Of course, this is now my new nickname around the house.

You just don't do that. Even if you know for a fact someone is pregnant you can't just go feeling another person's tummy!

'When are you due?' is such a dangerous question. I know someone who was asked that question and she had very recently miscarried at about five months. Plenty of tears shed that day.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

I was at a local deli with my mom and my TWINS who were about 6mts old in a stroller. We were waiting in the order line with the stroller. I went up to order my sandwich and the girl behind the counter says.... Oh My god, you are pregnant AGAIN!!!!

I said No, No I am not.
The girl was like oh sorry, your just alot heavier than you usually are.
I said ya, I gained a few pounds.
Ya but your heavier than after you had them?
I said yes thats true I have gained while nursing, keeping up the milk supply for 2 has caused me to increase what I am taking in and its not doing so well for me.

She then dropped it.
I was mortified,seriously suicidal over it. We are walking back to the Courthouse where my Mom worked and she says...

Well now that the proverbial cat is out of the bag... why are you so heavy? do you want me to pay for you to go to weight watchers?

I just kept walking right past her work and loaded the babies in the car. And said not a word to her. I don't think I talked to her for 3 days afterwards.

i would like to add at the time of this conversation I was 5 2 and a 128 pounds!

 

[onelilspark]

We were at my one cousin's bridal shower and one of the women there asked my Nana when my other cousin was due. Luckily she didn't hear her and we were able to quickly shake our heads so she didn't repeat! My cousin is a bigger girl and was wearing a baby doll top. I swear it's those stupid tops that do it! I always agonize over the top in the dressing room

Luckily I've never been asked about being pregnant, but when I was in retail I had a customer say, "You look just like my DIL, but you're younger, what about 30?" I responded with, "I'm 20!" He was mortified. And the next customer said, "So you're what, 40?"

When I do get pregnant, I really hope no one touches my belly. I don't even get massages because I don't like people touching me. I might wind up arrested for assault...

There's been a few people I've wanted to ask, but it's better to just keep your mouth shut!!

 

[Pooh67_68]

We are walking back to the Courthouse where my Mom worked and she says...

Well now that the proverbial cat is out of the bag... why are you so heavy? do you want me to pay for you to go to weight watchers?

Without missing a beat I would have said, sure mom we can go together! Didn't want to say anything, but since you brought it up I thought YOU were looking a bit bigger.

 

[aaarcher86]

Some people just don't think. Honestly.

I had a C-section 4 days prior and my newborn in a carseat carrier when someone asked me how far along I was after first confirming that the newborn was indeed mine.

Being super swollen, obviously not feeling very sexy and with all the emotions and hormones running through my body at the time this really hit me hard. I almost started crying.

Fast forward 2 years later. I'm bloated and it's that lovely time of the month. I got a 'are you pregnant?' comment loud and in front of an entire rec facility for a banquet.

Someday, someone is not going to like my response.

 

[charming23]

I hate when people ask that. I have been asked more recently because I have lost weight and my belly fat has "shifted" so instead of just looking fat now it looks more like a pregnant belly. If you are not sure do not ask. It is embarassing and none of your business.

 

[malibuconlee]

Happened to me yesterday too. No darn it and I've lost 5 lbs this month!

I think the lady was asking because she was going to offer me her chair as I was standing in a packed waiting room for a lab. At least that's what I keep telling myself.