The wake was tonight...

[babar]

why do they call it a wake? anyhow, we had to get there at 3 and general viewing started at 4. I went in and hugged my sister, and then had to go see Nick. It was an open casket...he always wore these glasses we would make fun of, and they put them on him in the casket!! We were all smiling about that.
My sister was amazing. She would cry a bit, but smile and joke and welcome people, I admired her so much. But I know that she's in for the worst after tomorrow (the funeral). His parents and sisters were a wreck for a bit...it's just all so sad and unfair. I still feel like I'm dreaming.
My 4 year old niece, who Nick and Christine babysat all the time, asked if that was Uncle Nick in the box and if that's where he was going to sleep for a while....I felt sick at that moment. I've broken out in hives all over, and I'm just so terrified for my sister.....I need to see my friends!!!

They had all these pictures of Nick when he was young, Nick and Chris when they first met, Nick with all of us.....

anyways, thanks for my rambling, I've never dealt with this before and even as I type this, I still don't believe it.

 

[Serena]

I know it's hard.

 

[hugsquared]

Our thoughts are with you.

 

[ChristmasElf]

I'm so sorry to hear of your sisters and your family's loss. God Bless.

 

[Sparx]

I'm sorry for your loss. I know its hard.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I'm so sorry.

 

[luvthatduke]

I said a prayer for you and your family.
What you are going through is so difficult.

 

[N.Bailey]

I buried my mom in Sept of '94 and my step dad in Jan of '96 (really, the only dad I've ever known) 16 months apart. Till my mom, I didn't have any idea the loss that people experience. Sure, I'd known people who have passed on, but none that really effected my life on this level. All I can say is, it doesn't get easier as time goes by, but you do learn to accept things and you do somehow learn to move on with your life. I'll pray for your sister and her family. There will come a time that she'll be able to appreciate all that she's been given and she'll look back (as you all will) on the fond memories that you've been given, as a blessing.

After that 1st time though, when you lose someone who is dearly precious to you, you do become much more compassionate. It's sad that it takes this for us to reach that point in our lives, but it's all so true.

A tight hug for all of of you.

 

[Disney Doll]

They call it a wake becausein the olden times, they used to wait a couple of days for the person to "wake" up, just in case they weren't really dead. Remember, they didn't have all the sophisticated stuff we have now to tell this, and there were times when somene was so sick, that folks thought they were dead.

In any event, take a deep breath, take some Benadryl to settle down those hives and stay strong.

Peace to you & your family at this very difficult time.

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

They call it a wake becausein the olden times, they used to wait a couple of days for the person to "wake" up, just in case they weren't really dead. Remember, they didn't have all the sophisticated stuff we have now to tell this, and there were times when somene was so sick, that folks thought they were dead.

In any event, take a deep breath, take some Benadryl to settle down those hives and stay strong.

Peace to you & your family at this very difficult time.

I am so sorry for your family's loss.

And to elaborate on why they call it a wake they waited for them to wake up b/c they used to use utensils and plates etc made with lead. The lead would sometimes cause a paralysis type condition and due to the lack of sophisticated medical methods they had to wait a few days to see if the person would wake. Sometimes they did so it was just a saftey practice to see if they had really passed on.

 

[mickeyboat]

Hugs to you. I am so sorry that you are going through something so hard. Don't beat yourself up over how you are feeling. It is normal to experience a huge range of emotions. Be there for your sister, too, she is going to need you.

Denae

 

[GailT]

Thinking of you and your family in this hard time.

 

[Pop Daddy]

sometimes your "all togeather" at the wake then just break down at the funeral

 

[snoopy]

Oh my gosh, how sad. It does seem surreal when a young person dies suddenly, I know exactly what you mean about being in a dream.

My prayers are with you and your sister.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[MELSMICE]

 

[ADisneygirl]

When I lost my only sister I felt this same way -- the whole time it seemed surreal and I didn't really comprehend just how final it all was. I did not hold things together at the funeral. In fact, I basically sobbed through the entire thing and the only thing keeping me upright in my chair was the fact that I could look up now and then at the exit door and imagine running through it. I had trouble simply lifting my chin and looking foward.

When someone young dies the shock and feelings of disbelief are common. God bless you and your family at this terrible, sad time. I know your pain all too well and wish for it to be lessened somehow, although I know that really is not possible.

 

[Disney_1derland]

It is so truly hard. My thoughts are with her, you, and all families and friends involved.

 

[huey duey & luey]

I am so sorry

 

[Dan Murphy]

Good wishes remain with you, your sister and all your family.