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[MelessaG]

I figured... But at least your dr is aware of what is going on. You went through a lot when you had your baby.. and being a mommy is rough stuff.

On the sibling thing... My sister is about 7 years older then me, and was raised by her dad... So I was an only child growing up. I hated it. I was lonely all the time. Both my parents worked a LOT, and I was alone.. a LOT. It probably has a lot to do with why I have so many kids, and why I stay home with them. I have only gotten to know my sister in the past few years, and I see that I have missed so much. But that is just my experiance.

I agree with this so much. I was 5 years older than one sister and 11 years older than the other. We are friends now, but not so much when we were all at home. While people think I'm crazy with all my stair-steppers (and when they were small things WERE crazy), I wouldn't change it. In fact, even though I'm not sure age/health/etc... will permit it; I haven't ruled out one more baby after this one not only because this pregnancy has reminded me how much I love raising children, but also because it would be nice for this little girl to have a close sibling like her older siblings do. (Keeping in mind I have relatively easy pregnancies and deliveries, an awesome insurance policy, and live in a place where the cost of living is low which helps us afford a big family.)

 

[Piecey]

I agree with this so much. I was 5 years older than one sister and 11 years older than the other. We are friends now, but not so much when we were all at home. While people think I'm crazy with all my stair-steppers (and when they were small things WERE crazy), I wouldn't change it. In fact, even though I'm not sure age/health/etc... will permit it; I haven't ruled out one more baby after this one not only because this pregnancy has reminded me how much I love raising children, but also because it would be nice for this little girl to have a close sibling like her older siblings do. (Keeping in mind I have relatively easy pregnancies and deliveries, an awesome insurance policy, and live in a place where the cost of living is low which helps us afford a big family.)

Yeah, I know what you mean on those last few lines for sure!!
I have horribly crappy insurance-- they're still denying my ultrasound from March!
However, DH became eligible for insurance when his employment status changed with the government in April and the policy I purchased covers maternity 100%... for prenatal/delivery/room and board/etc.. None of my actual bills have gotten to them yet (gotta go through the crappy insurance first) but they paid for Lucas' stay 100% (no deductible) a week after he was born. They're wonderful- efficient, friendly, etc. I can't wait until my college policy expires and I can just go straight through them!!
Cost of living here is CHEAP, too. We financed 100% and our mortgage is less than our car payment.

I figured out another reason I think I've been such a mess. I know I need to have surgery again and while I know this one isn't going to be anywhere near as big a deal as the c-section, I'm still all messed up about it. I cried walking into the ER the other night because that is where I went in the morning I had Lucas and the sun wasn't up then either and DH parked in the same area, etc...
It's stupid but at least I figured out that is part of it and it makes me feel a bit better. Appointment with the surgeon is tomorrow and I'm praying (on hands and knees) that we schedule something within the next few weeks to just get rid of this thing so I can really focus on the future with no more medical issues looming on the horizon!

My brother and I are just shy of 3 years apart and I wish we'd been closer. Tom agreed to sit down, no distractions [except Lucas of course] and hash it all out this weekend. We'll see what that conversation brings.

 

[staley7580]

I agree with this so much. I was 5 years older than one sister and 11 years older than the other. We are friends now, but not so much when we were all at home. While people think I'm crazy with all my stair-steppers (and when they were small things WERE crazy), I wouldn't change it. In fact, even though I'm not sure age/health/etc... will permit it; I haven't ruled out one more baby after this one not only because this pregnancy has reminded me how much I love raising children, but also because it would be nice for this little girl to have a close sibling like her older siblings do. (Keeping in mind I have relatively easy pregnancies and deliveries, an awesome insurance policy, and live in a place where the cost of living is low which helps us afford a big family.)

I keep thinking that I would LOVE to have more babies. I loved being pregnant.. Except for this go around, but being pregnant with twins is HARD. And really.. what is the likelihood of that happening again?? But the cost of living here is really high. And I love it here. And I want to be able to do things for kids. I dont know. Maybe in a few years. We are on a three year cycle. Every three years, another baby. The twinnies and Mikalah are almost 4, but I had that miscarriage, and that pregnancy would have put us exactly evenly spaced.. I dont know what this has to do with anything.. I want more babies, but is it practical?? Not for us, I dont think. Maybe in 5 or 10 years I will change my ind.

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

We are trying to figure out if we would like more kiddo's too. It took us soooo long to have this baby, almost 7 years. I know if I want to have another one, it needs to be in the next 2 years. This is because of our age. I would really like for Natalie to have a sibling. I guess only time will tell. I am going to talk to my doctor about bc on my 6 week check up. One thing I know for sure, I do not want to get pg within the next 6 months.

I hope everyone is having a good morning. We are, Natalie is loving life in her swing right now.

 

[december]

Katie had her 2 month shots today. She was in such a good mood, talked and smiled at the dr (he called her a flirt), then her world crashed down! She has been so upset ever since (3 shots in the leg would upset me too!). She weighed 12 1/2 lbs and was 23" long (up from 7 lbs and 19" at birth) and is in the 75%. Not bad for a breastfed baby

I'm through having babies, but I'm 36, with a ds12 and dd9. I'm really glad I didn't do anything permanent when I thought I was through in my 20s. I can't imagine not having her. I'm really a much happier person now than I was then. I'm loving my 30s. And the kids are so much help with the baby.

Besides, I grew up in a crazy spaced out family, and other than my one crazy sister, we are really good friends now. My sisters are 46, 44 (crazy one that STILL hasn't seen Katie although she lives 40 min away), and 31.

 

[harleyquinn]

All this talk has me thinking that parenthood must be really, really great. Right now I'm ready to just be done with this one!

 

[Piecey]

6 weeks flew by.

Sarah, can't wait to see pictures of Lily!

 

[december]

Patsy, what did the surgeon say?

 

[Piecey]

Surgery is the 23rd. It made me pretty mad that he was in the room with me less than 2 minutes. He just said "Hows the baby? How old? You remember what we talked about in February? Okay. My nurse will be in to schedule you. Bye!" ... couldn't we have just scheduled it over the phone??

Has anyone ever looked at an itemized copy of their hospital bill after delivery? I may be weird but I find it interesting.

 

[december]

I haven't gotten an itemized copy. I'm just tired of getting bills at all!

 

[Piecey]

I read on whattoexpect.com to get an itemized bill because they charge astronomical prices for cotton balls and stupid stuff like that. I had to call the hospital because they messed up insurance so I asked for one but I didn't get billed for cotton bills

I know what you mean-- I wish I would have taken a notebook with me and everytime someone walked in the room I could have said "Okay, now who are you? What will you be billing me for? And when might I expect that?" because I'm pretty sure bills will pile in for months. Ick.

How does your OB handle billing for your prenatal care? I haven't paid her anything. It's very confusing to me-- the claim for the c-section itself went through but nothing for the 9 months of care! The healthcare system in this country is whacky.

 

[staley7580]

I read on whattoexpect.com to get an itemized bill because they charge astronomical prices for cotton balls and stupid stuff like that. I had to call the hospital because they messed up insurance so I asked for one but I didn't get billed for cotton bills

I know what you mean-- I wish I would have taken a notebook with me and everytime someone walked in the room I could have said "Okay, now who are you? What will you be billing me for? And when might I expect that?" because I'm pretty sure bills will pile in for months. Ick.

How does your OB handle billing for your prenatal care? I haven't paid her anything. It's very confusing to me-- the claim for the c-section itself went through but nothing for the 9 months of care! The healthcare system in this country is whacky.

4 months later and I still havent gotten a bill from my OB!

 

[Piecey]

That is baffling to me.

The only thing I've gotten from her office is a bill for the NST and then the bill for the "surgery" itself. She has to want more money. I would think. Never paid a copay or anything either.

If I could sleep I'm sure I wouldn't really give a crap about any of this.

 

[staley7580]

That is baffling to me.

The only thing I've gotten from her office is a bill for the NST and then the bill for the "surgery" itself. She has to want more money. I would think. Never paid a copay or anything either.

If I could sleep I'm sure I wouldn't really give a crap about any of this.

Its crazy to me too.. I know she was billing my insurance for things, I was getting statements from them. I had an ultrasound every other week for 7 months.. I had LONG appt. Not the typical OB measuring and listening to the heartbeat and shove you out the door stuff. I was there for an hour or so with her every appt. You would think she would want to be paid for some of that.

 

[staley7580]

Oh.. and Im not sleeping myself. I dont know what is up with this. It has been a couple of weeks and I am not getting any sleep. The babies are getting oodles. Not me though.

We started them on solids last week. Not sure if I told you all. They are hungry little buggers. I havent gotten around to making it yet, but they are gobbling up at least a jar each at every feeding. Usually Jazzy will follow her jar up with a bottle.. But Vinny is generally full. I wasnt planning on feeding them so soon.. But they are HUNGRY.

 

[staley7580]

I could be cleaning.. my house is a HOT mess. but I dont want to. Im SOOO lazy.

 

[december]

I had to pay my deductible at my 1st OB appt. And I've gotten assorted bills along the way. I got one this week for $41, so I'm hoping that is the end of it. I've paid the anesthesiologist and the lab for my latest pap. I'll be paying the hospital for several months. They keep sending me a huge bill, and I send them $100 back every month.

Katie is in a good mood this morning. After the shots, I was afraid she'd be fussy again today. I think she was highly offended yesterday! She woke up smiling and cooing. I hope it lasts-she is having pictures done at 10am. I wasn't thinking when I scheduled shots and photography on back to back days!

 

[december]

Forgot to add:

I finished my summer class. I'm so tired, but I got an A. I now have over 2 wks before school starts (and 3 wks before my next grad class starts). Maybe I can clean my house now

 

[staley7580]

Forgot to add:

I finished my summer class. I'm so tired, but I got an A. I now have over 2 wks before school starts (and 3 wks before my next grad class starts). Maybe I can clean my house now

Awesome!!!

 

[Piecey]

Staley, I'm with you-- the kid is getting more sleep than me! Very frustrating.
I actually scheduled an appointment with a new doctor (the lady I went to when I was under my parents insurance is out of network for me now) to try to talk about getting some sleep aids but I realized yesterday my appointment is the day of the surgery.
Hm, which one ro reschedule? Let me think on this.

I had a gallbladder attack about 2:30 last night. Otherwise I would have still been on here chatting back with you.
I had leftover Lortab from my c-section so I didn't bother filling the script from the ER last Thursday night... so I took two of them (1 at 2:30, 1 at 3:30), like the ER doctor told me I could if 1 didn't help with the attack.
I wondered why I have felt fuzzy, can't walk in a straight line and my depth perception was all messed up (I reached out to touch DH and missed! ) and why I'm still feeling the effects of the medicine... so I looked at the bottle.
Oops. The c-section Lortabs were Lortab 10 and the ER Dr. wrote me a script for Lortab 5. So I accidentally took 20mg of narcotic painkillers. No wonder why I almost fell down the stairs ten minutes ago...

You did tell us, you said they were crazy for squash! I plan to check out that website soon, I figure now is a good time to figure it out and buy supplies (produce is sooo much cheaper in the summer!) and hopefully get the deep freeze stocked up before school starts and I get a new schedule going.



December, congrats on the A! You're inspiring to me, I lose all focus on everything when classes start. I just really don't like being a student but I'm hoping not working and being a student (for the first time ever!) will help me focus better. Or maybe at least knowing you've got a lot more going on than me and manage to do it will!!...

As for a clean house... have I mentioned I still have boxes everywhere? And I have no life? I do absolutely nothing but chill out with Lucas. My mom came and cleaned the entire house the day I got discharged and I've not done anything other than the bathrooms/kitchen since.
We bought a vacuum over a month ago and I never assembled it.
(in all fairness, only the upstairs is carpeted..)

Well, I'm going to get back in bed with Lucas and wait for these pain meds to wear off a bit more..