TarzansKat
Not all treasure is silver and gold, mate.
- Joined
- Mar 8, 2008
And Tarzanskat, my DH took a 60% pay cut when he left the navy in 1985 and I was home full time. We cut back and had DS (21) in 1986 and I still stayed home and we just watched our pennies. I will never ever regret having both or staying home with them. I think I would have regretted not having #2 and working while they were young. They really didnt' care that we didn't have a big house with a big back yard, but they did know that I was there to take them places and do things with them and volunteer in their classrooms every week. I went back to work pt when they were 12 and 14 in time to prepare for college payments. No, we didnt' save ahead for college because we didnt' have the money, but I dont' regret that either. When I went back to work, we didnt' have to pay for daycare and every penny I made was "extra".
Sometimes people just overthink every decision. If you want #2, and DH is fine with it, go for it.
Can I just say thank you so much for posting that! It so helps me to hear from someone who made that choice to stay home and does not regret it. I have a big fear of not being set for retirement after having watched my parents and DH's have tons of issues with it, and very little saved in some cases, so that's one of my big fears. If I could figure out a way to stay home and still save some, that would make me