The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 9

[tinker1bell]

Saturday started off slow. MTM and I just lounged and played on the computer. I started watching the movie Radio and had to tape the rest since DH had a gig and I wanted to go with. He played with 5 other guys and they played German songs, big band stuff and patriotic songs. When we first got there, I went around and took some pictures.
Here is MTM sitting on a big piece of equipment used for the wheel in the mill.

This is the name of the place where we were. Lots of really nice and big RVs

MTM wanted to get into the act so he sat by DH. Of course DH asked me "You are not leaving him here are you?"

MTM thought this sign was funny so he wanted his picture taken with it.

Tootles...

 

[yellowfish78]

Vicki - Have a safe trip!!

 

[babytrees]

I'm going to have to keep a beady eye out for matching tees and tie dye crocs...

Thanks for the compliment! It's actually something I have on my development plan at work so I should be doing something about it. If I tell people I know that I'm shy they just laugh because I'm obviously not around them... I just squirm when I have to talk to strangers!

FEEL FREE TO IGNORE THE REST OF THIS POST EVERYONE - IT'S MY THERAPY



Ok now I'm crying. I don't expect anyone to respond to this, but I've bottled it up for so long it feels good to have it down on "paper" and I'd like to post it for that same reason...

Clare-

You could have been writing that post for me, also. There is more backstory to my trust issues....but almost identical!!!

from me to you...and know that someone else understands!!

 

[Steffy]

What a beautiful family Christi! Great pics.

 

[babytrees]

Christi-

What handsome men you have!!!

Vicki & Elin-

Have a safe trip!!

Off to shower and get ready for the day!! Have a wonderful Sunday everyone.

 

[Steffy]

I'm going to have to keep a beady eye out for matching tees and tie dye crocs...

Thanks for the compliment! It's actually something I have on my development plan at work so I should be doing something about it. If I tell people I know that I'm shy they just laugh because I'm obviously not around them... I just squirm when I have to talk to strangers!

FEEL FREE TO IGNORE THE REST OF THIS POST EVERYONE - IT'S MY THERAPY

Actually - I think it goes deeper than that... I've been thinking about it since yesterday and since I trust you guys I'm going to share this - like therapy!

It's a trust issue... my dad was in the army so we travelled a lot when I was a kid and I found it hard to make friends, I was bullied a couple of times, but worse than that had a few so called friends turn against me. When I got to uni I met a girl who became my first proper friend, kind of like a soul mate I suppose, over the years she managed to get me to share everything with her. At the time I knew in my heart there was somthing wrong with her, she would hide in her room for days at a time, lie to me about things etc and then when I would beg her to come out of her room she would be back to her normal self. She didn't just lie to me, to her family too, she failed a year and had to go back but she didn't tell her parents. I should have done something but I wasn't brave enough to rock the boat. Then in my final year she went MIA again. I assumed she was in her room as the TV was on so just left it for a couple of days. Then I got a letter through the post, she was in hospital, at her parents, having just attempted suicide.

I know it was a cry for help - because she did it in her parent's house. I had nightmares for days after because what if she'd done it in her room in our halls, and no one had looked for her?? It turns out she had depression and they started treating her. I went up to visit her a few months later, but once again wasn't brave enough to ask her all the questions I had... still have... about why she did it... and why if we were such good friends she didn't ask for my help. I've not seen or spoken to her since... (6 years) I just can't do it, it was a very stressful time for me those months after, and I nearly messed up my degree, I'm not sure I can go through stress like that again.
Sometimes I want to ring her up -to tell her how well I'm doing and that I'm married, but part of me knows that I won't find out about the real things that are happening in her life...

So there you go... if the new couple next door had been in their forties or older I would have stopped to chat and been the pleasant neighbour... but they are our age, and that freaks me out because I'd love to have some "friends" living next door, but I'm still too scared to make proper friends and am keeping everyone at arm's length.

Ok now I'm crying. I don't expect anyone to respond to this, but I've bottled it up for so long it feels good to have it down on "paper" and I'd like to post it for that same reason...

Oh Clare What she did wasn't your fault and you should stop feeling guilty this minute!! I know how hard that is, but when you study mental illness, you will find that one of the most powerful tools is to make the people around you "responsible" for your illness. And caring people are more than happy to adopt that role and feel responsible. They exchange kindness for weakness.

Stop that this instant!! Even a trained professional might have missed those ever so weak signs. You were her friend, not her shrink. It was not your job to monitor and analise her every move. Please don't allow her mental illness to make you doubt yourself or stop trusting. Please don't.

You are such a nice, gentle, caring woman or else it wouldn't have mattered to you at all. But let it go...

 

[Steffy]

Oh Steffy! I was trying not to think about them... but they are soooo cute... how much are the skins?

And where did you get those bed covers?? They are just awesome!

The DisneyStore.com I spend WAY to much money at the Disney store online. They email me specials.... They know what they are doing...... They know I can't stop. They know I'm a sucker. They have my number. And email. And address.

 

[UP Disney]

The DisneyStore.com I spend WAY to much money at the Disney store online. They email me specials.... They know what they are doing...... They know I can't stop. They know I'm a sucker. They have my number. And email. And address.

My mother is a sucker for that store for everything Tink for Becky. I also found out that my niece is also a big Tink fan. Mom must have 20 years of stuff for birthdays, Christmas, graduation, Sunday, bad hair day, etc.

 

[UP Disney]

Well I'm shutting my laptop off and I'm on my way! Becky called in tears. She says "When are you going to be here? I don't think I can handle this!". Poor thing! Take care and talk to you all on Tuesday.

 

[kc10family]

I found the material, got an appropriate contrasting material, serged them together, took them to a place for hole punching (so I could crochet around them), then I crocheted the edging. I love doing it, and couldn't believe my good luck in finding the Pooh material.

WOW! You did a great job. I don't drochet, have tried it, but it's not my cup of tea.

 

[kc10family]

To Dawn (July 3) and Alicia (July 9)
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY GALS!!!!!!

 

[kc10family]

I just don't know what to say about this! How amazingly helpful! Thanks, Paula!

Glynis, I am here for you, anytime you need a recap... just let me know.

 

[kc10family]

Sure, you can come anytime, as long as you bring your girls. My kids would love to play with them.

I make a pretty good raspberry freezer jam, and have had good success by adding peaches or apricots to the berries. Makes for a yummy taste.

Have I mentioned how much I love to can? I can't wait for my salsa garden to start producing!

You get to be the DDA Martha Stewart for the week. WOW you do so many things, when do you have the time?

 

[kc10family]

Currant jelly is my secret ingredient in my Thanksgiving gravy! So yummy! I can't wait to make my own and not have to pay an arm and a leg for a tiny jar of currant jelly this November.

Can I send you money for a jar? Can I trade you something I make for a jar? Can I beg for a jar?

 

[kc10family]

I'm back from my camping trip. It was fun, but not at all relaxing. They offer so many activities from sun up to sun down that we were constantly on the run. The boys really seemed to enjoy themselves, but by Friday they were ready to just hang out, no events. It was really nice to come home today. Chris says that we are never doing split vacations again as we both really missed each other and the kids while we were home alone. He's been chasing me where ever I go tonight and says that he's not letting me out of his sight again . I'll post details later.

The big question on my mind is............Any new babies yet? I have no idea how many pages I need to read, but I just gotta know.

Deb

Hi Deb, sounds like fun camping. I hope you have a relaxing weekend. Nice to see you again.

 

[kc10family]

Hello DDA! Hope everyone enjoyed their Saturday-
I lounged in the pool and didnt leave the house, it was actually really nice.

I wanted to say thanks to you all-I know the last couple of months, theres been al ot of things coming up in my family, especially now with the accident last weekend, and i have come here venting alot. I know it gets old to hear the same things, but sometimes i feel like i have nowhere to turn.. Its hard sometimes--im 21 years old ,but dont go out and party and drink like most of the people around here...i guess im just in a blah mood- guess its just been a rough couple of months and you guys have really helped me get through them--Thank you!!

HEY JEN......... come in and vent or blah blah or whatever anytime. I love this group for all that they do to help when I feel like blah. Be happy my friend.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

I'm going to have to keep a beady eye out for matching tees and tie dye crocs...

Thanks for the compliment! It's actually something I have on my development plan at work so I should be doing something about it. If I tell people I know that I'm shy they just laugh because I'm obviously not around them... I just squirm when I have to talk to strangers!

FEEL FREE TO IGNORE THE REST OF THIS POST EVERYONE - IT'S MY THERAPY

Actually - I think it goes deeper than that... I've been thinking about it since yesterday and since I trust you guys I'm going to share this - like therapy!

It's a trust issue... my dad was in the army so we travelled a lot when I was a kid and I found it hard to make friends, I was bullied a couple of times, but worse than that had a few so called friends turn against me. When I got to uni I met a girl who became my first proper friend, kind of like a soul mate I suppose, over the years she managed to get me to share everything with her. At the time I knew in my heart there was somthing wrong with her, she would hide in her room for days at a time, lie to me about things etc and then when I would beg her to come out of her room she would be back to her normal self. She didn't just lie to me, to her family too, she failed a year and had to go back but she didn't tell her parents. I should have done something but I wasn't brave enough to rock the boat. Then in my final year she went MIA again. I assumed she was in her room as the TV was on so just left it for a couple of days. Then I got a letter through the post, she was in hospital, at her parents, having just attempted suicide.

I know it was a cry for help - because she did it in her parent's house. I had nightmares for days after because what if she'd done it in her room in our halls, and no one had looked for her?? It turns out she had depression and they started treating her. I went up to visit her a few months later, but once again wasn't brave enough to ask her all the questions I had... still have... about why she did it... and why if we were such good friends she didn't ask for my help. I've not seen or spoken to her since... (6 years) I just can't do it, it was a very stressful time for me those months after, and I nearly messed up my degree, I'm not sure I can go through stress like that again.
Sometimes I want to ring her up -to tell her how well I'm doing and that I'm married, but part of me knows that I won't find out about the real things that are happening in her life...

So there you go... if the new couple next door had been in their forties or older I would have stopped to chat and been the pleasant neighbour... but they are our age, and that freaks me out because I'd love to have some "friends" living next door, but I'm still too scared to make proper friends and am keeping everyone at arm's length.

Ok now I'm crying. I don't expect anyone to respond to this, but I've bottled it up for so long it feels good to have it down on "paper" and I'd like to post it for that same reason...

Clare

 

[kc10family]

DH has let me know it is time to get ready for the day. We are going back to our friends a little later and I have to make cookies for that.

I am have a few pages yet to read, but you all have a great day and I will chat with you all later.

 

[bengalbelle]

You get to be the DDA Martha Stewart for the week. WOW you do so many things, when do you have the time?

Look who's talking!!!

 

[rosiejo]

Thanks for the advice and the kind words everyone. It means a lot to me.

I've taken it all on board and will attempt to put the demons to rest and be brave with people