The Chronically Grumpy Person

[grinningghost]

Do you know anyone who is chronically grumpy? I mean, really, truly, totally grumpy all the time?

Living with my Dad, well, he fits the bill 100%. He is Archie Bunker's long lost twin brother. He is always, always, always a grouch.

How do you deal with a chronically grumpy person? Or is it even possible to deal with one?

 

[Maleficent13]

I divorced mine.

Obviously, it was a bit more complicated than that, but breaking it down, that was a BIG factor.

 

[grinningghost]

I divorced mine.

Obviously, it was a bit more complicated than that, but breaking it down, that was a BIG factor.

I can't divorce my Dad, but I can see why you would divorce a chronically grumpy husband. I couldn't deal with this forever.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

grinninghost,

Is there a reason for your Dad's grumpiness? I mean is he in chronic pain or is he clincially depressed. If there were some causes, this might give you some empathy at least to explain the unpleasantness. This sounds like a sad situation for life is too short as it is, to be grumpy is to waste the time God gave you on earth.

 

[grinningghost]

grinninghost,

Is there a reason for your Dad's grumpiness? I mean is he in chronic pain or is he clincially depressed. If there were some causes, this might give you some empathy at least to explain the unpleasantness. This sounds like a sad situation for life is too short as it is, to be grumpy is to waste the time God gave you on earth.

You know Sheree, I think he IS clinically depressed, yet he absolutely refuses to believe there is anything wrong with him. He thinks it's everyone else. If you even approach the subject, he flips out.

You're right, it's terribly sad. He's always been grumpy, but it's become unbearable lately. The only place you want to be is wherever he isn't. That's sad.

 

[Amy]

Do you know anyone who is chronically grumpy? I mean, really, truly, totally grumpy all the time?

Living with my Dad, well, he fits the bill 100%. He is Archie Bunker's long lost twin brother. He is always, always, always a grouch.

How do you deal with a chronically grumpy person? Or is it even possible to deal with one?

Hey--are we long-lost sisters? My dad is exactly the same. When DH was going to meet my parents for the first time when we were dating, I told him to picture Archie Bunker and that's my dad! My dad even smoked cigars back then.

I wish I knew how to deal with him. I only have 1 sibling, a brother who lives 6 hours away. Mom died last year, so Dad's all alone. He had a heart attack back in April but absolutely REFUSES to go to the exercise classes the dr. wants him to go to; he won't even go and exercise with my aunt and uncle (they do Silver Sneakers 3x a week). Yet he complains about how lonely he is, and wants to come over to our house ALL the time. Well, I've got 2 teenage boys and we're always running around somewhere, so I can only have him over once a week. All he does is sit at home and watch tv.

I subscribed to the local paper for him; he complains because the paper delivery person doesn't throw it in the EXACT spot he wants. He says he only wants the paper for the tv schedule anyway; so I said how about I subscribed to TV Guide for you? Oh no - that comes in the mail and the mailman can't be trusted. I could go on and on.

My solution? I drink a lot after he goes home. Primal screams help, too.

 

[ILUVMYBRIT]

My dad is. He is chronically ill though and on many meds so I think that is the cause. I always joke about it that they made the movie "Grumpy Old Men" about him. He just chuckles

 

[HenDuck]

I have a difficult time tolerating being in the same room with him.

Luckily, he is such a grump, he doesn't even want to spend time with his own family.

Whatever...

 

[disneymom3]

My FIL used to be like this, but through some miracle his primary doc was able to convince him to see someone about depression. He has been on meds for several years now and he is a different person. Could you talk to your dad's dr? MIL says she wishes somehow this had been dealt with many years earlier.

 

[luvdzne]

My kids actually call my dad Grumpy instead of grandpa, they have since they were little. He has sort of taken that as his trademark.

He has always been grumpy. But then again he works 10 to 12 hour days in a hot factory and has to put up with my mother so I guess a little grumpyness is understandable

 

[grinningghost]

My FIL used to be like this, but through some miracle his primary doc was able to convince him to see someone about depression. He has been on meds for several years now and he is a different person. Could you talk to your dad's dr? MIL says she wishes somehow this had been dealt with many years earlier.

I really am going to talk to my mom and see if she can't phone his doctor and ask him to "work it into" the conversation at his next appointment. I'm sure he'll be a pain in the butt about it, but at least the subject could be brought up from someone other than us - he won't talk to us about it.

 

[grinningghost]

Hey--are we long-lost sisters? My dad is exactly the same. When DH was going to meet my parents for the first time when we were dating, I told him to picture Archie Bunker and that's my dad! My dad even smoked cigars back then.

I wish I knew how to deal with him. I only have 1 sibling, a brother who lives 6 hours away. Mom died last year, so Dad's all alone. He had a heart attack back in April but absolutely REFUSES to go to the exercise classes the dr. wants him to go to; he won't even go and exercise with my aunt and uncle (they do Silver Sneakers 3x a week). Yet he complains about how lonely he is, and wants to come over to our house ALL the time. Well, I've got 2 teenage boys and we're always running around somewhere, so I can only have him over once a week. All he does is sit at home and watch tv.

I subscribed to the local paper for him; he complains because the paper delivery person doesn't throw it in the EXACT spot he wants. He says he only wants the paper for the tv schedule anyway; so I said how about I subscribed to TV Guide for you? Oh no - that comes in the mail and the mailman can't be trusted. I could go on and on.

My solution? I drink a lot after he goes home. Primal screams help, too.

Either we're long lost sisters, or they're long lost brothers! Sounds just like my dad. Just like him.

If everything isn't EXACTLY the way he wants it, he has a meltdown. I have never, in my life, seen anyone so crazy about everything being so perfect (what he considers perfect anyway). I swear it's like walking on eggshells around here.