Thank you all so much for your kind words

[binny]

(((hugs)))
You have every right to feel how you are feeling!! DONt ever let anyone tell you otherwise!

Your feelings are your own and very valid.

I am praying for you today.

 

[Michelle]

Kristy, as much as you need to talk, we're here to listen. Please take care of yourself, and you and your family remain in our prayers.

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[Kermit]

I'm so sorry. You've been in my thoughts and prayers almost continuously.

People are going to say things that hurt you over the next few weeks and days. I'd like to believe it's because most of them are blessed enough to have never dealt with anything like what you're going through. Please don't let them make you think that you shouldn't be feeling what you're feeling. It's your loss, and no one can tell you what's right, not even someone who's been through the same thing.

{{{Hugs}}} You'll continue to be in my prayers.

 

[Zurg]

Our hearts are with you.

 

[luvdzny]

People will say many things to you that will seem cruel, at least that is what happened to me. It is hard, but try to remember that they really are trying to help. There were many times when I just wanted to tell everyone to "shut up and leave me alone" because they had no idea what I was going through. Don't worry about what other people think, and don't be afraid to let your feelings show, this was your baby, and no one can tell you how to feel. We had memorial services for our babies, with just immediate family, and I am glad we did. Just do what feels right, and don't worry about anyone else. My heart goes out to you.

 

[Teejay32]

I'm just reading about this Kristy, I'm so sorry to hear it. No matter what people will say to you, maybe in a misguided effort to help, there's no doubt that this is a terrible loss for you and your family of the most painful kind. Words fail.

Welcoming your tiny angel into the world and into our hearts today, God bless her.

 

[bashful64]

Kristy I am so sorry to hear that you lost your baby girl. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Boots]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} I am keeping everyone of you in my thoughts and prayers. We are all here for you anytime you need us.

 

[Amy]

Kristy, you do whatever feels right for you! If you want to hold your little girl, go right ahead. If that will make you feel uncomfortable, then don't. If you want the nurses to take pictures for you, then have them do it. (If you're not sure, I'd have the nurses take the pictures and put them in an envelope so you can look later if you change your mind.) If you want a small memorial service or no service at all, do what feels right for you. This is such an awful time for you right now, and you have to think about YOU.

Be prepared - you're going to hear lots of stupid, stupid things over the next few weeks and months. Be strong, and try to remember that people say stupid things because they don't know what to say.

And believe me, you did absolutely nothing that caused your daughter's death! When my baby died at 27 weeks, I went back over the entire time I was pregnant and couldn't find anything I did wrong. The doctors did an autopsy - perfectly normal baby. The doctors did tons of tests on me - perfectly healthy. Of course, when I went back to work I had to face a co-worker who was also pregnant, and she smoked the entire way thru her pregnancy and had a healthy baby. Life isn't fair.

I've been praying for you, honey. I know the pain of going thru labor knowing you're giving birth to a lifeless child. Please, please PM me if you need a shoulder; I had no one to talk to when it happened to me, and it was just awful!! I'm here for you, Kristy. {hugs}

 

[WDWHound]

I just wanted to say again how sorry I am for your loss.

 

[Colleen A.]

If I could reach through these cyber space walls, I would hug you and try to take the pain away. I know that's not possible. Even if I could reach you, the pain would still be there.
When I had Kyle, we had him, I want to say baptized, but that's not the proper term. We also were given a small framed plaque with his name, the date, height, weight, and his little foot print. It is something that I hold dear to my heart. We had his funeral but the only ones there were the priest, funeral director and us. My "family" couldn't handle it. That still bothers me to this day.
You will do what your heart tells you is right. You will experience so many emotions....extreme sadness, despair and anger. I was also like you - I had an amneocentitis done and I was told I was having a perfectly normal baby boy. One month later, he was gone. They did tests on me and we had a autopsy performed and there was not one medical reason why he was taken away. It still haunts me and it has been 9 years on June 26th. I know the doctors assured me it was nothing to do with the amneo, but I can't understand how a perfectly normal baby would be gone so soon afterwards. I guess it's an answer I won't know til I see him again.
Please don't hold anything inside. We're all here to listen and to try and offer comfort. You never realize how many people share this horrible experience. You will see your daughter again, just as all of us will see our children.

Hugs and Prayers,
Colleen
Mother to Kirk, Jeana, Kyle and Jessica

 

[SonjaB]

Kristy, I can't even imagine the pain you're in right now. I have two little boys and the very thought of losing one of them is more than I can bear. I can't even let my mind go there for more than a few seconds, it's too overwhelming. Please know that my heart is broken for you and my thoughts and prayers are with you. God be with you and hold you and your family in His loving hands.

 

[ugadog99]

My heart just breaks for you, Kristy. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I wish there was some way we could all be of help to you. Please know we are thinking of you and your family at this very difficult time.

 

[Poohbear123]

My Step Daughter lost her baby at the beginning of her 3rd month about 3 weeks ago. I posted about it here, and everyone responded and gave me good wishes and cyber hugs.......that is why we all are here. Faith. {{{Hugs}}}.

 

[C.Ann]

I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain - to erase any doubts from your mind as to why this happened - but I know that isn't possible..

So what I will say, is please do whatever is necessary for you to get through this terribly tragic time.. Grieve at your own pace, and know that I will be praying for you and your entire family..

Hugs for you all..
C.Ann

 

[Mickey's sunshine]

More {{hugs}} for you Kristy. I can not imagine the pain you are going through. I am so very sorry for you and your family.

 

[Jennyfyar]

I will continue to pray for your family. I am so sorry this has happened to your baby girl.

“ F O O T P R I N T S ”

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One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand: one belonging to him, and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it.

“Lord, You said that once I decided to follow You, You’d walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why when I needed You most You would
leave me.”

The Lord replied, “My son, My precious child, I love you and would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I
carried you.”

Author Unknown

 

[tigercat]

Just want to say that you are still in my prayers. A baby is as important to a mother as early as she knows she is pregnant. Grief is different for everyone but I know my ds who lost a child when she was 7 months was as upset as I was having lost my ds at 2 1/2 days after birth. Everything is relative. If you are really excited about the new addition than losing your child at any time period is really hard.
tigercat

 

[luv2nascar]

I am so sorry for what you are going through right now
My loss was at 10 wks so I didn't have the opportunity to have
a priest/minister present - but if I was you I would explore that opportunity. It may not seem like it is helping out at the time but as you look back on this later I think you will get some sense of peace from a small funeral.

I would also encourage you or let the hospital take pictures of your baby and a picture of you and your baby if you are able.

It wouldn't have to be something that you have to view right away but someday when you are ready you may really appreciate it. I know a friend lost twins at 23 wks or so. The hospital took pictures & made a folder for her & her husband to take home with the pictures, foot prints, etc. The hospital also took care of the arrangements for the funeral & cremation of her babies.

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I hope for you the actual process is as easy as possible physically because I know emotionally it is very hard on you.

Don't feel that you shouldn't be grieving just because you didn't go to term & have a still born baby. This was still your baby no matter how many weeks pregnant you were. Take all the time you need to heal from this loss.

God bless you and your family.