Text Messages annoyed

[jewelshouse]

Ok this is OT, but I just had to vent. We had girls night out Sat night, 4 of us. I have a very very good friend that just got a new phone, one with the key pads on it. She was texting all night long, I found this very rude, I didn't say anything to her but come on.

It's kind of like answering the cell phone in the middle of a conversation, every time I went to say something to her she was texting. I used to think it was a generation thing but she is the same age as me 35ish. Once or twice is fine, but she was on it all night.

Bugs the crap out of me!

 

[sk!mom]

ITA- I'm very bugged by some people's poor manners with regard to cell phones. I've quit going places with a couple of people simply because they will go out to lunch with you and then stay on the cell phone, talking or texting, the whole time.

Before anyone defends this rudeness, of course, I understand if you're a parent and you need to take calls from your kids- that's the main reason I have a cell- Or emergency calls. I'm talking about the personal, "what are you doing?" type texts and calls that teens and the very rude do constantly.

I'm trying to teach my DD12 some phone ettiquette.

 

[barnaby1]

It drives me nuts too!!
I think I would have had to say something probably in a very light hearted manner but to get the point across.
I have patients answering their mobiles when they are in a clinic with me I don't mind if they ring and apologise for not turning it off but some then have a 5 minute conversation about the fact that they "can't talk right now as they are with the nurse!!!"
The world has gone a bit mad.

 

[HerdOHuds]

I totally get that it is rude. I have a very good friend that I love to spend time with, but she does this all the time. I have accepted that if I want to spend time with her, then I will also spend time with her phone and texting. Just part of the deal. And, if I was honest, if anyone else did it I would think they were soooo rude. But not her. She gets a pass.

 

[EnchantedPrincess]

Yes..that would drive me nuts as well. My cell phone is for my convenience, and not for others' convenience. I will take emergency calls but I won't take calls just to chat especially if I am out with friends for lunch/dinner. Some may consider me rude, but I refuse to let my cell phone run my life.

 

[crisi]

You need to tell her.

"Sarah, I hate to bring this up, but I was really looking forward to our girls night. When you spent the whole night texting other people, I felt like you'd rather be with them than with us."

Or if that is too touchy feely - next time she does it say "would you rather be with your other friends?" She will, of course, say "NO!" and you respond with "when you spend your time with me texting other people, it seems like they are more important than I am."

 

[cheerforchelsea]

My 22 year old is always texting somebody....and it is rude!!

 

[saratogadreamin09]

just my perosnal opinions



i text so i can have conversations with the people i'm with and talk to people i'm not with. texting helps me a lot because i do a lot of my work away from home and if i have to talk to someone at work but i still want to talk with the people i'm with it makes it possible

 

[brymolmom]

just my perosnal opinions



i text so i can have conversations with the people i'm with and talk to people i'm not with. texting helps me a lot because i do a lot of my work away from home and if i have to talk to someone at work but i still want to talk with the people i'm with it makes it possible

I think doing WORK related things is different - but I'm in the same boat as the OP...it is RUDE. My own dh has a Trio and is always checking his email in social settings - SO RUDE. I have discussed this with him frequently. I just don't get where manners have gone. If you HAVE to take a work call, it is much more appropriate, IMO, to excuse yourself and have a 10 minute conversation in the hallway or outside and just get it over with instead of texting for most of the night.

And, except if it is required or get fired, I think you perfectly illustrated why some of us consider it so rude - you are WITH people and want to talk to OTHER people...very telling that the people you ARE with aren't 'enough' to talk to or keep you entertained.

 

[The Disney Bunch]

just my perosnal opinions

i text so i can have conversations with the people i'm with and talk to people i'm not with. texting helps me a lot because i do a lot of my work away from home and if i have to talk to someone at work but i still want to talk with the people i'm with it makes it possible

But if you are texting, you are NOT talking to the people you are with & that is rude - If it is work related, you excuse yourself, go take care of business & come back but to sit there with friends & text throughout most of the time? that is just rude -

OP - I would have said something. it is one thing to take a quick message & another to text through out the visit. She was there with YOU, not the other people. I get texts all the time, doesn't mean I have to look at them immediately or respond immediately.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

see when i'm on vacation i'll be talking to my fianc and i'll be texting with someone too, our conversation continues and he doesn't seem to mind, if i think that a text will be too destracting i'll stop but usually i can hold up a conversation and be texting

 

[AKBAFB]

Ugh... I hate that. I'm a firm believer in not answering every call or text immediately! I understant if it's an emergency or a quick call - 1-2 minutes max should be enough to either take care of a quick question or say that you are busy and will have to get back to the person. I had a huge argument with my sister about this awhile back - she doesn't think it's a big deal to talk on her phone or text during family get-togethers (talking birthday or holiday dinners, not just hangin' out with the fam). I think it is so rude. It's like something a rude teenager who is being forced to do family activities would do. (And Sis is no teenager... ) She understands my perspective now and has limited it, but for her and her group of friends it's acceptable, so she didn't even think twice about it before I got mad about it. The funny thing is, she brought a friend over for my Mom's 4th of July barbecue and the girl took a call from her divorce lawyer and talked to him for 45 minutes on her cell phone in my mom's living room with all of us there! Apparently, DSis didn't give her the memo!

Anyway, back to you.... assuming the rest of your girls group feels the same way as you, I would just do as crisi said and politely tell her how it makes you feel and ask her to limit it a little bit. On the other hand, if you're the only one of the bunch who is offended by it, you might just have to adapt! Good luck!

 

[saratogadreamin09]

after rereading your original post i think your friend was just trying to show off her new phone. i've done this before, you take something out and just keep using it waiting for comments on it. if it's something she's never done before then this is probably what happened.

 

[jewelshouse]

after rereading your original post i think your friend was just trying to show off her new phone. i've done this before, you take something out and just keep using it waiting for comments on it. if it's something she's never done before then this is probably what happened.

Nope she had already showed me her new phone, and I told her how cool it was.

I just find it rude, it's like the person you are with isn't interesting enough so you need to find something better to do. She was the only one in the group, and don't get me wrong I love this person she is awesome but it just erked me to death.

At one point early in the evening she did say "oh sorry, this is so and so".

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Nope she had already showed me her new phone, and I told her how cool it was.

I just find it rude, it's like the person you are with isn't interesting enough so you need to find something better to do. She was the only one in the group, and don't get me wrong I love this person she is awesome but it just erked me to death.

At one point early in the evening she did say "oh sorry, this is so and so".

but like you said you were with other people so maybe they hadnt seen the phone


just saying, if you friend was never a texter before why would she start now

 

[jewelshouse]

but like you said you were with other people so maybe they hadnt seen the phone


just saying, if you friend was never a texter before why would she start now

She had shown it to all of us a couple of days earlier, but maybe she was just excited to play with her new toy or . . . maybe she was just too drunk to realize how rude it was

Oh well, if it continues I'll have to say something to her!

 

[proteus]

I have always found that type of behavior very impolite and intrusive. If you have to make a call then excuse yourself (like you would if going to the bathroom). Doing it in front of your company is very rude, it is almost like a child who won't stop playing video games on their DS while visiting a museum.

 

[Lindsay22]

OP I would have sent her a text from the table!
Something like "hey, is this the only way I can talk to you"

 

[DVC Sadie]

OP I would have sent her a text from the table!
Something like "hey, is this the only way I can talk to you"

I would have done that too!

It is very rude and distracting to have a person either texting or talking on the cell phone while trying to hold a conversation at the same time. Very, very annoying.

Why is it that the person who is talking on the cell phone speaks so much louder then when talking face to face? That just bugs the @#$% out of me.

 

[DevilDuckie]

OP I would have sent her a text from the table!
Something like "hey, is this the only way I can talk to you"

I love it.

Yes, it's rude. Texting like that is an indication that something or someone else is much more important/interesting than the people you are supposedly socializing with.

On a side note- texting in a movie theatre is RUDE, people! It may be silent but every time you do it you're shining a bright light in the eyes of the people behind you! Put the flippin' phone away or go outside!