Tell me about your shower

[jspahn]

I know us brides are not supposed to be involved in planning the shower - but logistically there was no way for my girls to surprise me. I live in atlanta (MOH here too) but the shower is going to be up in NY where most of my family is.

I have 5 girls in my party, but they are located all over (ga, oh, tx, ny) and most dont have a lot of money to spend. Especially on top of the dress and cost of going to disney for the wedding.

I debated on not even having a shower because it just isnt important to me. However, there are a few family members in NY who wont make it to the wedding, so mom felt at least if we have a shower in NY we would see those people. My mom has offered to help the girls with the cost of food and such. I just really dont want it to be extravagant at all.

My questions: how many people were at your shower? Where was it? How much did you/your girls spend on food and such?

Am I wrong to want it to be a super simple (and cheap!) affair? For me, I'd rather see the money mom is goign to contribute to the shower go for something I actually want - like mickey at the wedding!

HELP!

 

[Disneychix]

I did have my shower in a banquet room and all my aunts and mother (although technically she's not 'supposed to') chipped in. I only had one shower so it was quite large. We served a buffet lunch and had a cake made.
I have been a part of 2 showers for friends. One was a co-ed shower that I was totally against as this bride was already given 3 showers and this was the 4th. DH was the grooms best-man so I went along with this. We made all the food and had it at our house. I made the cake also. I don't agree with co-ed showers. It's way more expensive for men to eat and drink! Plus they would rather just be at a bar anyway.

The other shower was a giant affair like mine and it ended up costing me $200 plus I had to give a gift too. I was not happy about this but I did what I had to for my friend as this is what she wanted. (as a gift to her bridesmaids we did get Coach purses though )

 

[Wish on a Star]

I have been to showers that were as simple as a luncheon or a picnic. There were simple flowers on the tables, and the food was either order off the menu or semi-fancy sandwiches. There is no rule that says you have to have a shower at all- or maybe you want to wait to you get to Disney and the day before ask all the ladies to a "ladies only lunch" and a resort restaurant of your choosing. If it's not a priority to you or your wedding party- then I would say invite Mickey instead- especially if people are coming from all across the country to get there.

 

[jspahn]

I did have my shower in a banquet room and all my aunts and mother (although technically she's not 'supposed to') chipped in. I only had one shower so it was quite large. We served a buffet lunch and had a cake made.
I have been a part of 2 showers for friends. One was a co-ed shower that I was totally against as this bride was already given 3 showers and this was the 4th. DH was the grooms best-man so I went along with this. We made all the food and had it at our house. I made the cake also. I don't agree with co-ed showers. It's way more expensive for men to eat and drink! Plus they would rather just be at a bar anyway.

4 showers??? i dont even want 1!

 

[NikkiLovesWDW!]

My shower invitations went out today! I actually helped my mom and sister plan it, mostly because I'm too controlling to let them do it on their own!! But we're doing super simple and inexpensive. It's going to be in my parent's yard and we're ordering trays of wraps and stuff. I think its should be as casual as you want it to be!

 

[PirateBride08]

My shower was at a Country Club here in NJ. I had 2 girls in the bridal party, a very good friend that couldn't make the trip and my flower girls mom involved. It was DRAMA! In the end we had about 50 people at the shower and it was a lot of fun. My wonderful MIL ended up picking up the bill for it though. I found this out after the fact, that's a whole other story though!

We had a buffet brunch with a mimosa fountain. I am not sure of the cost but it was nice. I would have been just as happy with close family at a house though and that would have been much cheaper!

 

[lurkyloo]

4 showers??? i dont even want 1!

I think you've answered your own question!

If you don't even want a shower and it's only your mom who wants you to have one, why burden your bridesmaids with the expense? Either your mom can foot the bill or, what is more traditionally done when you want to gather friends and family who can't make it to the wedding, she can throw you a casual reception when you get home.