Well, mine might not be of ANY use to anyone. But I'll share anyway.
Since DH and I have food allergy issues, we delayed solids for DS. Therefore, cake for DS on his 1st was absolutely out, just too many high issue foods all lumped into one cute cake (eggs, flour, etc).
Also, DS is a quarter Korean, and we all wanted a traditional Korean birthday, which MIL was happy to provide (if one can ever consider her happy).
Her sisters, who still live in Korea, sent out a first-birthday outfit for him, and MIL cooked for several days, b/c celebrations there involve many plates of stacked and piled foods, all put on a small table in front of the person of honor.
We sat at the table with him, in front of a gorgeous hand-painted fold-out screen that MIL's mother had made, and DS did the traditional (don't know if it's Korean or Buddhist tradition) *choose the object to show your future* thing, and chose a pencil. Then, because he had only had fruit by that time, not white rice, since I was still nursing him, *I* ate some of the sweet rice soup that would have been traditional for him to have, because it would get to him somehow.
Even though DS wasn't having any, I insisted on bringing an "American" cake (though usually I'm not into American traditions), which we then took home intact b/c no one wanted any after all the Korean food.
MIL had invited the monks from her temple to bless DS, but she sent them away even before the party started, because we were stuck in traffic and weren't there an hour early.
Growing up, the younger b'day parties were pretty much just the adults that love the family, and any kids they might have. We never had "friends" that young, so it was people from the past, from LLL meetings, and such. So that's traditional for us.
(His second party we had delicious (seriously) vegan cupcakes from a market in Seattle and some regular cake, and some random food, and we did a "jungle" theme from the party store. Had it at a park, no kids other than DS, just friends, some family, and DH's co-workers who adore Eamon and the cakes I make.

MIL hated the party b/c it was cold. On May 26th! And because we didn't have it at her house again.)
(This year he has had lots of cake, so though we might have the vegan cupcakes again b/c everyone loves them, but there will also be "regular" cake, possibly in the shape of Buzz Lightyear, b/c that's the theme. Still not planning on many kids, still mainly friends and family who love him and like my cakes

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