Teen DD's and dating

[ozarkmom]

Just curious if anyone has had a DD that seemed to like boys that weren't what you would pick out for her. My DD is gorgeous and has had some real losers but now she's totally infatuated with a "bad boy". Wondering how some of you guys have handled this. The bad thing is that I liked bad boys when I was younger too !

 

[NMAmy]

Dd's first boyfriend was a huge disappointment--well, to me, anyway. He went to the alternative school, was a senior, no school activities--he was definitely a bad boy. He was well behaved at our home, though. Since she was only 15, she wasn't allowed to "date." She was allowed to have him over to our house when DH and/or I was there and he could go places with us as a family or to the movies or bowling by themselves as long as I drove them and picked them up. He did abide by the rules which was a point in his favor. She broke up with him at the end of the school year, thank heavens. I think forbidding contact altogether makes the bad boys more enticing.

She's living with her dad this year and she's dating the Homecoming King and football star. My ex is a cop and even stricter than I am so I don't worry too much. I haven't met this guy but I know that my ex does like him. He sounds like a nice boy. I'm hoping she realized that bad boys aren't all they're cracked up to be.
I know we had a huge discussion about it last summer.

 

[twinklebug]

My DD knows she's not allowed to date until she's 34.
Hi hun.

*I* was the one who always dated the "bad boys" and oddly enough if my parents seemed to like the guy (he was stable) I would stop seeing him. Bad choices lead to heartbreak, it's something everyone needs to learn on their own.

 

[golfgal]

Looking back on my first serious boyfriend, I could see where my parents might think he was a 'bad boy". He drove a souped up noisy car and had kind of long hair. He was a very nice boy though, I would let my DD date him if they were the same age, etc. Just because they look rough doesn't mean they are. I know plenty of prom kings/football stars that are mean and controlling and I wouldn't want my DD to be anywhere NEAR them.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

I only dated bad boys. They were more fun I will say they were respectful of me and I remained friends with some of them.

My DH was a bad boy, but my parents like him.

Just because they appear to be "bad" doesn't mean they won't treat you right.

 

[kellyg403]

This thread makes me laugh. My mom used to say "If they look like they just got of prison and have a thousand tatoo's and Harley, they were the boy for Kelly". My poor mom went through ALOT! But, really some of them were super nice guys on the inside!

As for my dd's...well...lets just say one of them is the big payback. Her current boyfriend we lovingly nicknamed Thugolicious. Trust me, other parents are glad my dd finds him just the greatest..

But, I am hoping it is a stage and when she REALLY starts that phase of her life and wants to settle down she will look more carefully. She is 18 so there really isn't a whole lot I can say. I do remind her from time to time that if this gets serious she has to ask HERSELF some serious questions. Sometimes, I think she is attracted to these types simply because she knows I really don't care for some of them.

Kelly

 

[ozarkmom]

I really think this guy is bad news but she's so infatuated with him. The other day she said he looks like an Abercrombie model. WTH I remember when she used to make fun of those guys!

 

[Cool-Beans]

The first guy I ever dated was a Bad Boy. He really wasn't so bad though, once you got to know him. He was very kind and respectful. But oh-so-cool!!! It was a lot of fun. I remember it very fondly.

Everyone should date a bad boy at least once!

 

[Just2554]

I think every teenage girl goes through that "bad boy" phase; I know I did during freshman and sophomore years of high school. Then at the very end of sophomore year I started seeing the sweetest guy...and now 3 1/2 years later I still am. He's the kind of guy who hangs out with my 13 year old sister when I have to work late, so it's great.

I'd like to say everyone outgrows it, but I don't know. My best friend is STILL dating a loser. I'm hoping he's convicted on hs robbery charges next week so that he'll be out of her life for good. Great guy, huh?

All I have to say is, good luck to anyone with teenage daughters!

 

[I'mNoPrince]

I bet all my girlfriends Moms were writing letters like this to each other as I was the bad boy from the city going out with all the hot Suburbinites.

My dad ran a rollerskating rink during the eighties when I was a teen need I say more.

I have seen some of the moms now and they only wished they would have been supportive now.

I never drank or did any drugs but was always getting into trouble.

I am now getting paid back as all the boys want to hang with DD13 as she is a Tomboy and loves sports.

I know what they are up to and I got my eye on them and my eye up against the wall