My first couple of years of teaching, I took things very personally. If a parent complained about something, it really hurt me. I even went home crying many days in those first years. Luckily, I had great support at school from people that would convince me that I was doing all that I could. My principal told me during those early years that the parents are frustrated because their child isn't as successful as they had hoped they would be. They have to take it out on someone and you are in the firing range. And it's true.
At this point in my career, I know I am a good teacher. I know I'm effective and I know that some kids need help beyond what I can offer. I didn't always believe that about myself because I took things too personally. That's why many good teachers end up leaving the profession. Now, I simply listen if parents want to vent. I offer solutions instead of taking it as a personal hit against me. I've learned to put it back on the parent, but in a positive way.
It is stressful at times, but it is also very rewarding too. I have a student right now that couldn't even tell me what 2 + 2 was in 4th grade. He told me every day in the beginning of the year how he hated math (I teach math/science) and how he wanted to go to another class. He is starting to "get it" now and it's amazing to see the transformation. I think in past years he was always pushed aside because he didn't know how to do things. He was surprised that I made him participate, that I called on him in class. He told me a few weeks ago that he was starting to like math. He even said, "you know, for a math teacher, you're really good."
I know I make a difference when children don't want to leave school at the end of the day. I have kids
ask if they can stay after school. I had a whole group of kids crying hysterically at the end of the year last year because they didn't want the year to be over. Those are things that make me glad that I chose this profession.
As far as inclusion. My feelings are that it works for some kids, but no every child should not be placed in an inclusion type setting. If you are altering the education of the rest of the class because one child needs to be put into a regular ed classroom, then it is not a good thing.
On a side note: I'm not Dissing from school. I am home sick today with a horrible case of bronchitis.
