Talk about frustrating.....

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When I picked up DS (age 6) from Kindergarten the teacher wanted to take me aside. She then proceeds to tell me that DS urinated on the playground today. We had his IEP meeting on Monday and things apparantly were going very well. Mrs. A states that DS is very intelligent and she's having a hard time keeping him challenged academically. Apparantly the problem comes in because DS has social and sensory problems (Autism though High Functioning) and we are always having to work on social scenarios. Well now I have one I have to deal with that I'm not sure how! She proceeds to tell me that there is a child in the class that is rather bold (very active, strong language, very outgoing) and has learned already that whatever he tells DS pretty much happens. It's her opinion that this child suggested to DS that he soil the playground. sigh.

Any ideas on how to attack this before it's something worse? I do not want to discourage DS from making friends and from interacting with other children... it's taken three years to achieve that! However, how to explain to a child that he cannot always follow friends that isn't very social in the first place without destroying everything that myself, special ed teachers etc have tried to instill since he was three!

I know that there are teachers on this forum and perhaps some with spec ed experience that may be able to help me give DS ways to handle this without discouraging him. I do have to be careful because he will repeat anything that I say (like the time he told MIL I said she didn't know how to tell time.. Ooops!)

 

[Pop Daddy]

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[OkieDisney]

Major noogie to you Pop Daddy!!!



I saw this post yesterday and wanted to nudge it back
to the top, surely someone can help!

Good luck to you! What an awful situation. I have a friend
who's 4th grade son is a high function autistic. I will see if
she has any advice.

Take care!

 

[CRB#33]

In Pennsylvania, if he is diagnosed within the Autism/Asbergers Spectrum, he is entitled to an Instructional Assistant or an Aide.

This may be the answer. A shadow for him, to keep an eye on him (and the way others treat him.)

Good luck.

*I wanted to add this*

We have kids who's IQ's are off the charts and they are filled with knowledge, but little social skills. And they probably won't ever understand how to be in social situations many times. These kids all have shadows. It nothing against your son. It's his disability and this disability really needs extra help to get through situations.

Again, good luck.