Tacky or Ingenoius???

[Sparx]

Tacky!

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Tacky, especiallly since only expensive gifts were requested!

 

[RobynK]

I think it is tacky. While I like the idea of a birthday gift registry for out of state relatives I think it is uncalled for at the age of 6 for friends or classmates.

 

[eclectics]

If I'm invited somewhere and the host not only expects me to bring a gift but also tells me what to buy and how much to spend, that is not a gift, it is extortion! Call me old fashioned but I think a gift should be unexpected and it's contents a surprise for the reciever. The only concession I'll make is having the reciept handy in case of a "exchange" (especially handy for family members)!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

T-A-C-K-Y!!! Did I mention that I think it's tacky???

I often ask the parents when RSVPing if there is anything in particular a child likes/wants/needs. Gives me a better idea what the child might enjoy, but to hand it out with the invite is gutsy.

T&B

 

[DVCLiz]

Tacky to send with the invitation, but...

There is a toy store here that has a great birthday solution. Because many of the customers shop there for birthday presents, (it's small and local, not a big chain) the birthday child goes in a few weeks before the party invitations go out, and chooses several gifts in all price ranges. The gifts themselves are stored in a big plastic tub with the birthday child's name, and anyone looking for a gift for that child has some choices. Of course, no one is required to choose a gift from the tub, and there have been times when we've chosen something completely different.

This isn't sent out with the invitation - it's more a matter of, "Oh, so and so is having a birthday. We'll go see what toy store X has for him." It's a nice service. The toys go back on the shelves if they're not chosen (usually there are multiples of everything in stock, so no problem about pulling merchandise off the shelf.)

 

[N.Bailey]

Tacky to send with the invitation, but...

There is a toy store here that has a great birthday solution. Because many of the customers shop there for birthday presents, (it's small and local, not a big chain) the birthday child goes in a few weeks before the party invitations go out, and chooses several gifts in all price ranges. The gifts themselves are stored in a big plastic tub with the birthday child's name, and anyone looking for a gift for that child has some choices. Of course, no one is required to choose a gift from the tub, and there have been times when we've chosen something completely different.

This isn't sent out with the invitation - it's more a matter of, "Oh, so and so is having a birthday. We'll go see what toy store X has for him." It's a nice service. The toys go back on the shelves if they're not chosen (usually there are multiples of everything in stock, so no problem about pulling merchandise off the shelf.)

I think that's a really cool idea.

 

[pospisil]

Tacky!

 

[va32h]

Tacky and greedy. Your one year old got this invitation? I am sure your one year old is a close personal friend of the birthday girl

Any mention of a gift inside a party invitation is rude, as it presumes that a gift will be given. All gifts are voluntary - even at a child's birthday party.

If my child doesn't know the birthday child well enough to have an idea of what to get - then s/he doesn't know them well enough to attend the party.

 

[pyrxtc]

we all know when our kid is invited to a birthday party, a gift is expected so I think it's great to have a list. You never know what their kidis into or clothing sizes so it's nice to have something to gp by.

 

[wvrevy]

I guess it depends on which end of the invitation I was on...lol...If I was the one doing the inviting, I would definitely feel uncomfortable including a "list" of gift ideas. But if it's a friend of DD's from preschool - and one that I don't really know or that DW doesn't really know - I would definitely appreciate a few ideas for what kind of gift to bring. The idea of the "assumed gift" doesn't really apply, in my opinion, since it is a kid's birthday party...and who doesn't bring a gift to a kid's birthday party ?

 

[DVCLiz]

I think the OP's child was 6 years old, and she referred to her as DD1 meaning DD #1.

And I'd have to agree that anyone receiving a young child's birthday party invitation knows that a gift is expected - I don't think any of you would be so mean-spirited as to not send one, now would you???

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Thanks for the input. I was leaning towards the tacky side myself. I also normally ask when I RSVP if I don't know the kid that well, but DD knows her well, so I would not have worried in this case.

And DVCLiz is right, DD1 is my oldest who happens to be 6 and in the same class (K last year and after care this year) as the b-day girl!

 

[DVCLiz]

Yea me!!!! I was hoping I hadn't misread that as soon as I posted...

 

[maci]

Tacky

 

[MrsNick]

Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I personally would not include a "wish list" in an invitation to a kids's birthday party.

Similarly, that type of information is not included in a wedding invitation. I just received a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday which (correctly) did not include information regarding registry. When I RSVP'd, I did write a note of congratulations, and asked the bride to let me know where she is registered.

I am definitely not Miss Manners, tho' and am sure that I am guilty of making faux pas, and am lucky enough not to have friends who rub my face in it!

 

[paigevz]

I think the OP's child was 6 years old, and she referred to her as DD1 meaning DD #1.

And I'd have to agree that anyone receiving a young child's birthday party invitation knows that a gift is expected - I don't think any of you would be so mean-spirited as to not send one, now would you???

No, I would definitely send one, and one on her list, and I would certainly never mention to her, her mom, or anyone who knew the family that I thought it was tacky.

However, for my own child, I never would do that. If my child wanted to, I would explain why we don't do that. My child has had parties that friends came to who did not bring a gift, and that was all right with him and with me, since he really did want the party and the friends more than the toys.

 

[MELSMICE]

I think it's tacky.