Superbowl Party, would you go?

[RadioNate]

My DH is out of town but I guy he works with at hockey is having a Superbowl party. He invited our family but since DH isn't going to be home he told me to come w/DS. I've hung out with him (and another friend) during their breaks and he has come out with us a few times. Last week he emailed DH about the party here's the direct quote "Don't forget to remind your wife about the Super Bowl party at our house. Bring the kid!" So I'm clearly welcome.

However, I don't know if I should go or not. I haven't met this guys wife and I after the 'can men and women be friends' I'm wondering if she'll think it's weird that I come to their party without DH.

I'm nervious about her answering the door...I don't even know her name, lol.

I will know other guests through hockey and DH's day job.

Would you go?

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Probably not, but I'm nervous in social situations like that. I wouldn't necessarily wonder what the wife will think, but I anguish over possibly uncomfortable socials situations.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it - it's just what you feel comfortable with.

 

[JELBoggio]

If you want to go, then go. Does your DH think you should go? Will there be a lot of kids there for your DS to hang out with? If so, then that would be worth it. I'm fairly outgoing and enjoy meeting new people. I would want you to come to my house!

I wouldn't arrive empty-handed. Can you stop off and bring a dessert? I'm sure this man's wife would appreciate the gesture and it would make it easier to break the ice with the wife.

If you are uncomfortable, leave at half-time - you can use work the next day as an excuse or DS needing to get some sleep before school the next day, etc.

Whatever you do, relax and have fun!

 

[RadioNate]

My DH wants me to go. These are people that we are definately interested in spending more time with out of the workplace.

There will be kids there. After 3 days I'm dying to see other adults and I know DS would like to see some kids even though he is so shy around new people.

I'm a female who has always had lots of male friends and until the recient threads I never thought there was anything weird about it. Now I'm totally second guessing whether or not it is appropriate to go w/out DH.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Go! You don't have to stay a long time if you're not comfortable. How about planning to stop by and if it turns out that you and your son are having a fun time then you can stay for longer. Sounds like you'd welcome some adult conversation and there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[debaudrn]

Go! We have a Super Bowl Party every year (no Patriots this year though) and we always have some singles or 1 half of a couple. Your DS will have fun with the other kids too. Have fun!

 

[lulugirl]

If it will be fun for you and Ds I don't see any reason to skip it.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

The past two years I have gone to a friends house with kids sans hubby since he was out of town.

Now--he had the closer connection with these people in the beginning--so it was awkward...but I went. We look forward to it every year.

This year we made sure hubby was home, and they aren't able to have the party.

So they are coming over here .

I say go. You may just click with the wife .

 

[disykat]

I think you should go - it sounds like a great opportunity to get to know his wife. I didn't read the most recent "can men and women be just friends" thread, but I think what can make those friendships awkward is when they exclude the spouse. This is your chance to broaden that friendship into one that includes his spouse!

 

[slo]

Go and have fun!!!

My DH has a lady he works with and if her DH couldn't come to our party, I would still want her to come - she's nice!!! I'm sure your friends wife will feel the same way about you.

 

[poohandwendy]

Heck yeah I would go. Go and have a great time! (and Go Steelers, LOL!!!)

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I'm a female who has always had lots of male friends and until the recient threads I never thought there was anything weird about it. Now I'm totally second guessing whether or not it is appropriate to go w/out DH.

It is appropriate because it is a social gathering centered around friends.

 

[RadioNate]

Well I went. I swear sometimes reading the Dis and my other board make me 2nd guess how people may perceive me.

It was good. I knew another couple and a single guy. I stayed to the middle of the 2nd quarter and then went to dinner at another friends house. I'm glad I stopped by. His wife is super nice and I think I convinced her to come to hockey with the spouses every so often.

The funny thing is that she said she was so nervous because she feels like her DH has another life because she doesn't know us.

Thanks for making me feel better about it.

 

[JELBoggio]

I'm glad you went and had a good time!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm glad that you went and had a good time!