I think that you can ask for a bottle opener. I have been told that you can also get a sharp knife. I bring a pocket knife and a small cutting board, it's just easier for me to bring them.
We've stayed only in studios so far, and to my recollection, you only get plastic silverware and paper plates, although there were real mugs and glasses there. You also get a small bottle of Palmolive and a scrubbie sponge. Just to be safe, I'd either call Member Services directly with your requests or bring them yourself.