Still grieving, 4 years later...

[livin-it]

In Oct 2003, I lost a baby boy, Matthew, at 17 weeks gestation. Hospitalized all week, delivered and held the baby, I lost so much blood the doctors wanted me to have a blood transfusion, husband wanted me to return to work the following Monday, after being d/c'd from Hospital on Fri. Lots of other things going on as well, in process of separating from DH at this time. Can anybody relate? I just feel like I will never get over this. I am a positive, upbeat person by nature, but having a hard time right now. Just need some connection with others. Thanks!

 

[TB'sWidow]

Sorry for your loss What a terrible time you are having. Do you have anyone around you that can give you support? Of course we are always here for you to express your feelings. Please keep us posted.

 

[zalansky]

I don't know what else to say but I am sorry!

 

[dvcbnd]

I am so sorry that you are going thru such hard times. Don't feel alone - we're here for you whenever you need an outlet and we'll be praying for you at this time. Please keep us posted.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

First, welcome to the Dis.....I see that this is your first post. I am so sorry for your loss and only hope that in time you will do better. Please know you can come here and we will listen whenever you need, but I would suggest you might want to talk to your primary care doctor and see if they can suggest a professional for you to talk to....

 

[GraysMom]

I'm so sorry for you loss and your husband's inconsiderate comments. I don't have any advice, except to maybe go get a nice massage to help you feel better.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I have no experience with this loss but I have many friends who have and it seems their main source of pain is not having people around them support their grief. Since love does not have a time limit I don't think grieving has a time limit either. The fact that your baby was a premie does not diminish your attachment. My DD was a premie and was just as loved as my full term DS at birth.

Still, since you seem concerned with your own wellbeing I believe that Mackey Mouse might be correct in suggesting some professional help. Since you mention your separation at the same time I wonder if the 2 losses didn't intertwine so that you are grieving for both at once and neither fully.

I hope today will be a better day for you