Steve McNair

[meloneyb21]

Such a tragedy.

I was sitting here thinking about what kind of emotions his wife must be going through. I mean, say your husband was cheating, (I mean, there's a chance she knew because of him being a football player and all) but what if you didn't know your husband was cheating...and then all of a sudden his mistress killed him and herself....and THIS is when you find out he was cheating..had a condo on the side and a vehicle registered to both him and his mistress....meanwhile he coulda came home to you a few days ago giving you all the I Love You's in the world...and then something like this happens. Selfishness on his part because of what he was doing, not even considering what he's putting his family through...and then selfishness on her part because she took away the man you loved and the father of your children. I mean, they were only dating for about 5 months...how did it get that serious?

I was just thinkin about it because, somthing like this is painful enough just knowing you were being cheated on...and now this? All at once? I mean, I can just imagine how unbearable the pain is. So much to swallow all while trying to figure out how to move forward. I feel SO bad for their children.

 

[Robinrs]

Such a tragedy.

I was sitting here thinking about what kind of emotions his wife must be going through. I mean, say your husband was cheating, (I mean, there's a chance she knew because of him being a football player and all) but what if you didn't know your husband was cheating...and then all of a sudden his mistress killed him and herself....and THIS is when you find out he was cheating..had a condo on the side and a vehicle registered to both him and his mistress....meanwhile he coulda came home to you a few days ago giving you all the I Love You's in the world...and then something like this happens. Selfishness on his part because of what he was doing, not even considering what he's putting his family through...and then selfishness on her part because she took away the man you loved and the father of your children. I mean, they were only dating for about 5 months...how did it get that serious?

I was just thinkin about it because, somthing like this is painful enough just knowing you were being cheated on...and now this? All at once? I mean, I can just imagine how unbearable the pain is. So much to swallow all while trying to figure out how to move forward. I feel SO bad for their children.

I feel bad for his family, too...it's one thing to cheat but to pay the ultimate sacrifice for it is truly sorry.

 

[TimeforMe]

Yes, I was thinking the same thing. Imagine losing your husband so tragically and then finding out his mistress did it? Grieving him, your marriage, so many unanswered questions and having to deal with this all the while being in the public eye. It's almost too much to bear. I pray for her.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I think I saw reports where the wife knew.

At least, that is what I hope. I'd hate to find out that way, too. I mean, you can't get revenge on a dead guy.

In all seriousness, finding out that way has absolutely zero closure. Did he love her, was she just a piece for him, was he planning on leaving? THAT would drive me crazy forever.

 

[tinatark]

And she can't deal with it like a non-celeb would - she has to do it in the public eye.

Supposedly the girl thought Steve was cheating on her (she knew he was married, but thought he had another girlfriend) and her life was "spiraling out of control". I understand her mother was murdered when she was 10 or so, then she moved to Florida, dropping out of school to move to Nashville 4 years ago - and she JUST turned 20, so she was either 15 or 16 when she moved with her boyfriend to TN.

Honestly, she had cards stacked against her from a very young age, it seems.

 

[lemondog]

I have friends who are friends, you know what I mean. Based on what they have told me, I am pretty sure Mechelle knew. She may not have known the girl's name, and I doubt she knew that they had bought a car together, but she knew Steve was cheating on her, which is devastating in and of itself without having everything else piled on top. I mean, it's one thing to know your husband is cheating on you, and another to have happy vacation pics of your husband and his girlfriend plastered all over the news and the internet. And still another to find out that they did something as serious as purchase a car together.

Yes, Steve screwed up. He had an affair. But he was a great sportsman, a true leader, and he did SO much for this community, especially the underpriveleged. And by all accounts he was a good father. He certainly did not deserve to die. And poor Mechelle and the kids...I can't even possibly begin to imagine what they are going through. Just a horrific tragedy all the way around.

 

[Terry36]

Yes this is yet another tragedy....4 little boys no longer have a father.

 

[ndelaware]

I'm sorry, good fathers don't go on vacation with their girlfriend instead of spending time with their sons.

Especially while still married to the mother of those sons.

 

[Terry36]

I'm sorry, good fathers don't go on vacation with their girlfriend instead of spending time with their sons.

Especially while still married to the mother of those sons.

I agree...

 

[luvsJack]

I'm sorry, good fathers don't go on vacation with their girlfriend instead of spending time with their sons.

Especially while still married to the mother of those sons.

Having an affair and being a parent are two different things. Someone can be a good parent but a horrible husband and/or wife. Not saying that adultery is ok by any means; just saying that it doesn't make someone a bad parent.

 

[ColoradoMom!!]

Having an affair and being a parent are two different things. Someone can be a good parent but a horrible husband and/or wife. Not saying that adultery is ok by any means; just saying that it doesn't make someone a bad parent.

Wow - I am sorry, but I have to disagree with this. Being unfaithful to the mother of your children while still married to her is not putting your children's interests above your own, which is the definition of good parenting. If your marriage is a wreck, than get a divorce before you sleep around. Is it about you or the kids? That is the definition of a good parent.

 

[ndelaware]

Having an affair and being a parent are two different things. Someone can be a good parent but a horrible husband and/or wife. Not saying that adultery is ok by any means; just saying that it doesn't make someone a bad parent.

Yes it does.

Setting an example of how to be a liar and a cheat to his sons is about as bad a job parenting as one can do.

Do you think he told his sons he was taking the 20 year old waitress, who was so nice to them at Dave & Buster's, on a nice little vacation for two? Do you think he told them why they couldn't go along? Do you think they understand why their father had to have an apartment away from them instead of coming home at night?

 

[ndelaware]

Wow - I am sorry, but I have to disagree with this. Being unfaithful to the mother of your children while still married to her is not putting your children's interests above your own, which is the definition of good parenting. If your marriage is a wreck, than get a divorce before you sleep around. Is it about you or the kids? That is the definition of a good parent.

Exactly!

 

[RadioNate]

I'm sorry, good fathers don't go on vacation with their girlfriend instead of spending time with their sons.

Especially while still married to the mother of those sons.

I agree!

Having an affair and being a parent are two different things. Someone can be a good parent but a horrible husband and/or wife. Not saying that adultery is ok by any means; just saying that it doesn't make someone a bad parent.

I so vehemently disagree it isn't funny. Good fathers do not cheat on the mother of their children. They put their children in front of their libido and ego.

Marriage over ... fine. Get a divorce. But believe me, the children will always feel like this girl was more important to their father then they were. Instead of staying home with them he was running around with her.

And he got killed for it. I don't think he deserved it, that isn't what I'm saying AT ALL. But this woman killed him. This affair cost him his life. And now they are saying that she killed him because she thought he was cheating on her. That there was a 3rd woman involved.

I can only pray for the wife and children. They are the ones most hurt by all of this!

 

[luvmy2sams]

I'm sorry, good fathers don't go on vacation with their girlfriend instead of spending time with their sons.

Especially while still married to the mother of those sons.

Exactly!

Having an affair and being a parent are two different things. Someone can be a good parent but a horrible husband and/or wife. Not saying that adultery is ok by any means; just saying that it doesn't make someone a bad parent.

Wow. I don't think we'll be seeing adulterers next to the definition of good parents in the dictionary anytime soon. Part of being a good parent is setting a good example by walking the walk and not just talking the talk. What message does an adulterer send his kids? If you have marriage problems, then cheat. Don't man up and resolve the issues in your home. Great character lessons to be had there!

I feel for his four sons. What an awful legacy to leave his children.

 

[lemondog]

I agree!




Marriage over ... fine. Get a divorce.

Actually, they were in the process of divorcing, from what I understand. I don't know if that was due to him cheating, or other reasons.

Also, when I spoke of Steve being a good parent, I was meaning that he always HAD been, at least in the public eye. Obviously, discovering he was carrying on with a 20 year old changes things.

 

[cinmell]

I'm sorry, good fathers don't go on vacation with their girlfriend instead of spending time with their sons.

Especially while still married to the mother of those sons.

So very, very true!

 

[kellyg403]

You know, I was thinking about all this last night as well. DH was watching ESPN and they are/were randomly discussing it.

I do hope that she knew. At least had an idea. To have to deal with all of it in the public eye when you are trying to make sense of the whole thing just has to be the worst.

In the end, its the kids I feel the worst for. I have lived the adultery experience. My children did not know that is why we were divorcing. I have never told them nor has their father. It was between us that part of the decision to divorce. These poor kids have to face the facts the father they thought he was, is not the 'person' he really was. They will be the ones having to sort through this and doing so while they are children. It is a hard thing to get through as an adult with a little bit of maturity and life experience. I couldn't imagine how difficult it will be for them.

Kelly

 

[wall*e2008]

This is why one needs to think before stepping out on your wife and children. They will pay a huge price for your need to test the waters with others.

 

[Terry36]

In the end, its the kids I feel the worst for. I have lived the adultery experience. My children did not know that is why we were divorcing. I have never told them nor has their father. It was between us that part of the decision to divorce. These poor kids have to face the facts the father they thought he was, is not the 'person' he really was. They will be the ones having to sort through this and doing so while they are children. It is a hard thing to get through as an adult with a little bit of maturity and life experience. I couldn't imagine how difficult it will be for them.

Kelly

As a child I had to deal with knowing my father was having an affair with this woman which lead to them having a child (he looks more like him than me and my sister). We lived in a small town and obviously the parents talked about it in front of their kids who then turned around and teased me. It was a nightmare. I was traumatized and to this day I feel it has affected me in my personal life. So I am speaking from experience that these poor kids will never, ever forget this.