Starting to not be excited about our trip!

[ckret01]

I am going next month for a week with my dboyfriend, Dsister and Dbrother in law. My brother in law has never been there so it should be fun. Well my sister is leaving all the planning up to me. I mean everything from the airfair, ADR's, tickets, hotel etc. She is the type of person that gave me her credit card and says do whatever she doesn't care and kind of doesn't want to help with anything. I even tried to give her different names of places we should make ADR's for and she said just pick one!

So here I am planning it all trying to decide what places to eat at , what time to catch the flight, what seats to pick out on the flight, what parks to do each day, etc and while I love planning its almost sometimes fun to plan with someone. My Dboyfriend doesn't really like disney at all but is going for my sister and BIL sake....so he really doesn't want to hear anything or thinks I am obssessing with all the plans ( lol). But now I am feeling like I am losing my disney excitment. Anyone else get like this!

 

[ziggystardust]

I completely understand. This time around my DBF and I invited a friend of mine and her DBF. The only difference was they will be arriving when we are already there, and leaving before us. I had asked her to at least pick out some restaurants that she wanted to go to. She told me she would like to eat at the Animal Kingdom, narrows it down right?

Then I get an email from her the other day asking when she was leaving, seems she couldn't remember! I'm just grinning and bearing it. With the free dining I made an ADR for every night, if we don't eat there, we don't eat there. But as she said, I've been there and she trusts me!

Good Luck!

 

[mtdevine615]

Try not to stress over it. Some people believe it or not are just not into Disney. I can't believe I just said that. Plan the things you want and I'm sure everyone will have a great time. Maine

 

[*Fantasia*]

If everything is left up to you and her CC then just do what you like to do. Fly in and out whatever time you want and whatever air carrier you want. Eat where you want to eat and when you want to eat. The only difference is that instead of party of 2, it's party of 4. Go to which park at what day, they just have to follow you.

 

[chrismb22]

You are sooo opposite of me! I am planning the entire eight day trip with my disney "virgin" boyfriend (he hates when I use that term LOL) and I am having a ball. I get to basically pick everywhere we eat, when we do what etc. All he wanted to do was help pick out the resort. He feels like since I'm such a freak for this and I know it, why not let the "expert" do it and I can't wait to see it thru his eyes. I tried to pick things that I know he will love and am getting more excited with each thing I plan.

 

[DisneyFan0304]

I feel your pain. We did a big family trip in 2001 (20 people!) and everyone left the planning for meals and what day to go to what park up to me. I refused to get involved in their hotel and airline reservations!

I went out and bought each family a guidebook and asked them each to have someone go through the book and see if there was anything special they wanted to do or somewhere special they wanted to eat. Not one person bothered to open the books. I kept asking them if they had any ideas of what they wanted to do and no one ever said a word.

A week before we were leaving a couple of people said they wanted to eat at certain restaurants -- of course they were ones I hadn't booked any meals for. Thank goodness this was in November of 2001 so crowds were very light and I was able to shift things around and everyone was happy.

Between Disney changing park hours and closing restaurants and then my crazy family, I was ready to have a breakdown.

Thank goodness, it turned out to be a great trip and everyone had a wonderful time. It was a special trip for my mother's 80th birthday, so I really felt the pressure to make everything special.

Good luck with your trip.

 

[dpic]

. She is the type of person that gave me her credit card and says do whatever she doesn't care and kind of doesn't want to help with anything.

Do like she says and do "whatever;" charge your trip to her card. The fun will come back real quick then.

 

[montblanc]

I wouldn't sweat the planning too much. I don't plan which parks to go to and just make a few restaurant/show reservations. Most times you aren't going to feel like following an agenda, I find it is far more fun to be spontaneous. When going with people who let me do the planning, well I just do it quietly and quickly.

 

[homedad]

I'm not allowed to talk about our upcoming trip to my wife, she claims I'm becoming obsessed. I try to explain that I'm just trying to make the trip as good as possible. I just call our friend's that are going the following week and who appreciates my hard work and research.

 

[scrapperjill]

I am going next month for a week with my dboyfriend, Dsister and Dbrother in law. My brother in law has never been there so it should be fun. Well my sister is leaving all the planning up to me. I mean everything from the airfair, ADR's, tickets, hotel etc. She is the type of person that gave me her credit card and says do whatever she doesn't care and kind of doesn't want to help with anything. I even tried to give her different names of places we should make ADR's for and she said just pick one!

So here I am planning it all trying to decide what places to eat at , what time to catch the flight, what seats to pick out on the flight, what parks to do each day, etc and while I love planning its almost sometimes fun to plan with someone. My Dboyfriend doesn't really like disney at all but is going for my sister and BIL sake....so he really doesn't want to hear anything or thinks I am obssessing with all the plans ( lol). But now I am feeling like I am losing my disney excitment. Anyone else get like this!

I am getting that way very very FAST We have a group of 12 planning a trip to WDW in October.... that some how I've became the
(Un)offical travel planner of the whole group. We started out as just our family of four...and added my parents and neice...all was going good at this point...but then some friends (family of four) and another neice...have decided to join us also. At first I was so EXCITED to have us all going and I guess in my mind thought we'd have a great time chatting and planning the whole trip over the past few months. But it's became more of a headache than fun...and I'm just dreading the idea of everyone comming to me once were there and asking what were doing. I've tryed to point everyone (adults) to places to find out what there is to do....including getting guide books and dvd's for everyone....but like another poster...NO-One has bothered to look at anything. We'll I guess I can't say no-one...my parents have read through the books I gave them, watched the dvd and even helped call for ADR (although they didn't give any input into where they wanted to eat)....I gave everyone a list of places "I" thought sounded good along with links to all ears for more options and menus....but everyone said....what you picked looks good...or it really dosn't matter to me....what-ever you pick will be just fine. Now that were getting down to less than 10 weeks to go....we talked about having regular meeting/gatherings to talk and discusse our plans...but as of now we have yet to have any regular meetings (and it's been in the works for the past two months). I've told everyone that I don't want to plan this solo...and with these meetings/gathering I'm not wanting to make a strict plan and trip schedule...but to just get together and share our excitment and thoughts of what we might like to do or see.

It's even gotten so bad that on a few important details like how we're getting to the airport (3 hours away) or what hotel were staying at WDW or even HOW were going to tell the kids(yep...we haven't told the kids that were going to WDW yet...so all the planning that we are doing has to be done secretly...so it's been REAL hard to even talk with out one of the four kids wanting to sit in and hear what were doing.).... Anyway.....one night when all of our kids were gone we planned to go over and hang out with our friends that are going on the trip ...and I thought with ALL the kids gone for the whole night it was a perfect time to talk a little bit about a few things that HAD to be decided soon....But as soon as we walked up to the yard our friends said...."We are NOT talking about the trip all night!!" Ooh...I was mad just like that....after all the planning I've put into the whole thing so far...to be told she didn't want to be bothered with trip information when she had a night away from the kids. When else does she think we'll talk about it??? After one other comment like that...I finally told them that I was NOT going to be talking or giving them any more trip information from now on...and that I was feeling like I was making them upset and uptight each and every time I tryed to bring something up...so from then on if they wanted to know something...they'd have to find it out on their own...or come to me...because I was done going to them. Since then we've met one time for coffee all together (my parents and everyone)....that's when we decided to meet (As a group) every week or two....yep...that was about two months ago . Since then our friend have called us to meet twice...as a last minute things..with out enough time for my parents to come also. I talk and discusse with my mom on a regular basis...(we get together three times a week to work out and chat as were doing our thing).

Anyways...to put it simpely YES others do feel the same as you.

 

[Dory41]

Please don't let it get you down. Not everyone is fortunate enough to feel the Disney magic like we do I also would just plan to do everything you want to do whenever you want to do it (which btw sounds like a great opportunity to me). If you are feeling down, just do exactly what you are doing....post a few messages and get a group hug !

Aloha!

 

[ckret01]

Do like she says and do "whatever;" charge your trip to her card. The fun will come back real quick then.

Thank you everyone for posting and making me feel better. Just knowing it's not "me" helps matters .

 

[robertchance]

its sounds to me like you r being used a tad,, if it were up to me, i would go, and once there, do what you want, go where you want with bf, and don't worry about them. let them do what they want.

 

[Jennygt]

I love planning my trips but my dh does not get involved at all. This trip is a secret from him and I have not told anyone else either. I only have you all to listen to my endless questions etc about wdw. Some people are planners some are not, what can you do?

 

[milmore104]

I am kind of feeling the same way. But I love planning and doing things Disney. I am planning a trip for 4 right now but... some of family members think they might want to join us for a couple of days. This trip will be me, DH, DD(5), DGM (80). I have made all the decisions so far and can get NO input from anyone. All I have gotten for help so far is "I don't care just get us there!" (I was trying to decide on plane tickets) & "I want to have a good seafood meal". Let me just say I DON'T eat SEAFOOD. it's hard for me to decide on a place when I don't eat the stuff. ANyway just keep your chin up and keep on smiling. Just let it all roll off your back. If they don't care when and what you guys do plan it the way you want. I did get back at my family by making our return flight home at 5:30AM. I'm an early riser!!! Have a MAGICAL trip and remember you always have us fellow Disers that will understand!