Starting over, fresh start

[ChevyNat]

Hello, I'm not new... I was marconat before, but something happened while I was visiting my sister this month...

When I came back on July 16th from a 1 week visit at my sister, my husband told me that he was not happy in the marriage, and might have met someone that has more in common with him and that he had to think for a while because he was confused.

So 3 days passed without him coming home, when I called on Thursday to see what he was doing, he said that he thinks it's over...then tells me that he does not want the kids and that I can keep them, I raised them well and he can't help them the way I can with homework and school etc... He then adds that his sister and him had a long talk and she suggested that he should think of himself and not the kids and to be happy...

Needless to say that I was devastated, I only have a part-time job and I started to freak on how I would take care of the kids... he said that he would be there financially...

Well I did not waste any time and got in contact with my lawyer and got the ball rolling...
I will be fine, I just have to get refreshed in computer courses and better myself... my focus is on the kids... and I have a lot of support from my parents and my guardian angel sister and BIL... in fact they are coming to get me and we are going to Canada's Wonderland next week... a change of scenery for a while.

I'm free and think of myself and the kids... so just wanted to let everyone know who I was before and that I'm starting from scratch without his name attached to mine...

 

[jake&samsmom]

From one Mom to another -- I wish you and your kids all the best. You sound like a very level-headed and strong person. Keep your chin up. (My Mom always says "someday, this too will pass.") In the meantime, take it day by day, minute by minute. Remember that you always have a place to vent -- here at the Dis God Bless.

 

[darlak]

I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time right now. I know from personal experience that divorce is hard. Welcome back to the Dis.

 

[Epcot82Guy]

I'm really sorry to hear that. But, you sound like a very strong person, and I know we all wish you the best.

 

[ChevyNat]

thank you very much guys... everyone tells me how fast I turned around and picked myself up... I just hope that I won't fall flat after a month or 2...
I'll keep you posted as the weeks goes by... right now I can wait to go and have fun in Toronto...

My sis and B.I.L and I, are planning an other trip to Disney for Oct. 08... We never went for Halloween and that's our favorite time of year... We are going trick or treating in Disney..... That alone keeps my spirits up

 

[themudd4]

A hug and some pixie dust coming your way!

 

[jcc0621]

For you and your kids.....

 

[swalke6]

You are so mature and level headed --you're kids are lucky to have you! If you can, get counseling or attend a support group... you do need a place to deal with your feelings. Good luck!

 

[bumbershoot]

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry.

 

[DisneyGuess]

to you and your kids.
From one mother who went thru something very similiar almost 6 yrs ago, you sound very strong. You'll get thru this.
You can always vent or cry here.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Keep that positive attitude and you'll be just fine!!!

 

[Thinktinknpixiedust]

I JUST finished reading an amazing book. It's called "Open House" by Elizabeth Berg. Actually and older Oprah book club book. The main character is going through a divorce, we follow her from the very begining. I myself have gone through one (11 years ago!) and found this book to be right on target. With the peaks and valleys that she goes thru, her small and large triumphs. One of my favorite line in the book is "Divorce is like a series of small earthquakes..." now that I can finally see the end result of my "new" landscape i wouldn't have it any other way. Good luck, you'll be fine! especially because your a member of the dis... you already believe in faith and magic!

 

[ChevyNat]

This place is heaven, it's a group therapy too... I have to say that the first days were bad... but I did not dwell in it very long... there was no way that a man was going to make me feel inferior and let my kids see me all in a mess... I was on an other site too and they gave me some good advise, it helped that my parents live right next door to me (Duplex)...
My soon to be EX, also is leaving me everything, the van, the furniture, so that's why I had to move quickly and get papers done before he changed his mind... So I had no time to dwell on feelings etc...
You guys are great... I'll keep you posted on everything...

Again... THANK YOU! it helps!!!

 

[Jrabbit910]

just wanted u to know you have another dis friend out there wanting brighter skies for you... it sounds like have the right attitude and things will be okay as long as u stay strong. A friend of mine is going thru the same thing right now (but w/o kids) and I tell her the same thing.... Keep your head high & time will heal all wounds.... best of luck to you and ur family... you sound like a wonderful mom!

 

[Pirate Me]

I'm sorry, but always look on the bright side of life.
Time does heal, stay positive.

 

[Lori2816]

So sorry . Sending and your way!

 

[ChevyNat]

I think you are all right... keeping my head high, and I also think that everything happens for a reason...
You see my dream is to move to Ottawa and be with the rest of my family there... where I am I only have my Mom and Dad and that's it. But my soon Ex, did not want to move there, never!!! ...
So now, when the kids graduate from High school, they have to move out of town in order to continue their education and that's where they are heading, so I'm leaving too... ha! ha!
Bye, bye ex, and ex-family-in-law

 

[Cee]

When you get to the end of this long, dark tunnel(and you will), the light you
find will be so bright. You will learn alot about yourself now so be a good and
willing student. Hakuna Matata....all will be well.

 

[ThreeAngels]

What a sad, scary situation. I'm so sorry for you, but you sound like you are handling this so remarkably well. Keep up the great attitude and this will soon be just a distant bump in the road. Many hugs to you and your kids. I know it's all going to work out great and for the best for you.

 

[LISAMWDW]

So very sorry to hear about your situation! Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders! Be strong, hang in there for yourself and your kids! You WILL be fine! Not fine, but great! I went thru a bad divorce about 7 years ago and I was also caught off guard and my inlaws were in and it also. It was devasating but know I am so glad I'm away from people like that and I have great people in my life now! My life is so much better now!

God bless you and the kids! Stay strong and focused on your kids! Word of advice, make sure you contant Friend of the Court and get your child support thru them. Don't trust him to pay on his own!

Us Dis'ers will be here for you! Vent anytime you need to!