OK... Our DD4 is very mature and also a bit of a thrill junkie. I told the DW that I'm taking the little terror on any ride for which she meets the height requirement and wants to try. Thanks so much for your recommendations of progression (start with barnstormer, then move gradually to SM - which she's about 3/4" too short for anyway). But where would ToT fall into that progression? How will I know if she's 'ready' for it - even if she says she is? She is not by any means a timid personality. One of our favorite family past times is hiding around corners and scaring one another....
Also - any advice you can give on how to get my wife to see thing my way would be appreciated

. Her main point of contention was the one poor child who passed away because he was too small to ride one of the rides last year or the year before - anyone remember which ride that was???
thx....